Narcissists may appear egotistical and completely in love with their own reflection, often presenting themselves as arrogant and grandiose. However, beneath this façade lies a fragile ego and a fragmented sense of self. Many people believe that narcissists target individuals who lack confidence and self-esteem, but this is not true. In reality, they are drawn to confident, self-assured people who appreciate their own abilities and qualities. Narcissists are attracted to indiv

Narcissists are often nasty, rude, and hateful. They behave this way deliberately and intentionally to make you feel bad about yourself. They lack empathy, so they don’t care about you or your feelings. In fact, it may even bring them joy to see you suffer because they don’t view you as a human being. Instead, they see you as an object that exists solely to serve them and meet their needs. However, because we are not objects, we have the power to direct our own behaviour. Thi

Narcissists are often dishonourable, immoral, and unprincipled. They manipulate and falsify information, acting dishonestly even when in positions of authority. They abuse power for personal gain, exploiting their positions to gain an unfair advantage. Lacking morals and integrity, they are disloyal, perverted, and often engage in illegal activities. Many narcissists believe they will not face consequences for their actions, either because they feel untouchable or because the

Narcissists don't believe in karma. They will never see their karma, nor will they make the connection. They will never realise that their pain and sadness are the result of their past actions. They are never going to look at themselves and think they are anything less than perfect—and that is their karma. They don't self-reflect. They can't look at themselves and accept their own flaws and imperfections. Their entire life is fake. They wear a mask, pretending they are okay,

Narcissists often burn bridges—they take actions that force them to continue down a particular path, making it impossible to return to a previous situation or relationship. By burning bridges, they destroy any chance of reconciliation due to the way they choose to end relationships. This behaviour commits them to an irreversible course, sacrificing long-term stability for short-term gratification. However, the problem is that the "crumbs" they settle for never taste as good a

You know the narcissist is watching you because you’ve seen them stalking you on social media, or perhaps you caught them driving past your house or workplace. It doesn’t align with the stories they’ve been telling you or what they’ve been flaunting on their social media. They portray themselves as though they’ve moved on, as though they’re with someone else and finally happy, doing better without you. You may have assumed that what they’re portraying is true because it looks

A relationship with a narcissist is very different from a relationship with someone who is not narcissistic. When you're dealing with a narcissist, they can be highly unpredictable. You never know what they’re going to do next. At any moment, they could disappear, leaving you wondering what went wrong. You may question if it was something you did. That’s why I’m here—to shed some light on why they disappear, as there are often several reasons behind their actions. A narcissis

Narcissists must hurt you. They must abuse, devalue, and degrade you because of two conflicting beliefs formed during their childhood. These beliefs may have been instilled by their parents, teachers, or peers. It is unclear where these conflicting messages originated, but they caused the child to develop a split personality as a defence mechanism. On one hand, they were told they were amazing—an exaggerated and false belief, as they were just a child. On the other hand, they

When you’ve reached an understanding of their actions, motives, and personality—when you truly know who they are—you can never unsee it. Once you’ve woken up, you see things differently, and you recognise that this is how things truly are. Their behaviours constantly validate your ideas, concepts, and experiences. Only if you observed different behaviours would your perception of them change. Now that you’ve woken up, your perception of the narcissist is based on reality. You

When you are kind to a narcissist, they often perceive it as a weakness. Even if your kindness is genuine and not excessive, they may still see it as an opportunity to exploit your vulnerability. Narcissists are deeply insecure, and they can sense when you are happier than they are. This triggers their need to bring you down to their level because your happiness makes them uncomfortable. Narcissists may plot and scheme to disrupt your peace of mind. When you are nice to them,

They pulled the wool over your eyes. They had you fooled for such a long time that you didn’t know who they truly were or what you were actually dealing with. They deceived you by telling lies or hiding the truth. They imposed misleading beliefs upon you, convincing you to validate a false reality where they could do no wrong. But when you begin to figure them out, everything changes. Before this, you were like their obedient little pet, trained to follow their commands and d

It’s no secret that narcissists have unrealistic expectations. They expect the world from you. They expect you to climb mountains and reach for the stars. But what happens when you actually manage to do the impossible? What happens when you climb out of the pit they created for you? What happens when you exceed their expectations, when you become greater than they ever imagined, or when you do better than them? When you surpass the narcissist’s unrealistic expectations, you’l

Narcissists are not simply people having a bad day or dealing with life’s challenges. They exhibit a consistent pattern of exploiting others—emotionally, financially, and mentally. They can be arrogant and entitled, believing it is their right to abuse, lie, and use others as stepping stones to achieve their desires. Because they lack empathy, narcissists focus solely on their own needs, neglecting the emotions of others. This makes it difficult for them to build or maintain

The narcissist did many things to you. They manipulated, love-bombed, lied, future-faked, devalued, blamed, gaslighted, and discarded you. At times, they may have even come back to "hoover" you, causing further turmoil. Before all of this, you were likely in a much better place—stronger, more confident, and a greater source of supply for them. But do they ever realise the harm they've caused? Do they think about it? Do they feel the need to apologise or take responsibility? T

Narcissists thrive on secrecy. They prefer to keep things hidden and misunderstood, as it gives them a sense of power and control. Their insecurity and feelings of helplessness drive them to act in strange, mysterious ways, which they believe strengthens their influence over their environment. This behavior feeds their need for narcissistic supply, the emotional sustenance they constantly seek. When pursuing this supply, narcissists often resort to dishonesty and secrecy. The

When a narcissist discards you, it may seem like they’re done with you—as though they’re no longer interested. However, this is often a tactic to maintain control. Narcissists are deeply insecure and feel inferior, which is why the discard is rarely the final chapter. Here are four things narcissists commonly do after discarding you: 1. They Will Hoover You At some point—whether it’s days, months, or even years later—they will return. If they were the ones to discard you, the

Narcissists are desperate for attention and validation. They constantly seek acknowledgment of their strength and emotions from others. Their self-worth is entirely dependent on external sources, which creates a void that can never be filled. This void drives their behaviour, as they try to avoid reflecting on their own shame. They are always chasing attention and admiration in an attempt to fill this emptiness. It becomes obvious that they have a void because they are consta

When a narcissist senses that you are dissatisfied or upset, they may anticipate that you are planning to leave. This can trigger feelings of abandonment anxiety in them. Narcissists have a heightened awareness that allows them to pick up on your emotions, even when you try to hide them. They can sense when you’ve disconnected from them and often identify the cause. This awareness may lead to one or more of the following eight responses: 1. Love Bombing Narcissists may start

The narcissist pretends to move on, but the "discard phase" is just an illusion. They never truly leave; instead, they remain in the background, watching and waiting for the right moment to return. Their return is never about reconciliation or love—it’s about control, revenge, and destruction. Narcissists come back for one reason: to wreak havoc on your life. They aim to leave you in a state where you are no longer useful, valuable, or happy. Their vengeful nature drives them

Narcissists are always playing a game. They manipulate you into filtering everything through them so they can live vicariously through you. To them, you are merely an extension of themselves. They are heavily dependent on you, and without your existence, they wouldn’t be able to survive emotionally. But here’s the truth: we don’t need to play games. We don’t need to filter our lives through anyone else or live vicariously through others. We can do things for real. When we put