What a lot of victims don't understand is that revenge on a narcissist isn't success, because that still ties you to them. Real success is freeing yourself from their control, healing, and building a fulfilling life on your own terms. True revenge isn't retaliation; it's reclaiming your power and proving they no longer control you. In the relationship or family dynamic, they may have controlled you emotionally, mentally, financially, or even physically. They created situation

A covert narcissist is someone who has narcissistic personality traits but expresses them in a more subtle, passive, or hidden way compared to an overt narcissist. They still have an inflated sense of self-importance, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy, but they disguise these traits behind a humble, victimised, or introverted persona. A covert narcissist may appear shy or self-deprecating, but still crave validation, attention, and control. They can be especially d

You may often find yourself wondering why narcissists do what they do, or what the purpose of it is. Why are they so driven and motivated to engage in these toxic behaviours? The truth is that, a lot of the time, it is simply because they have nothing better to do. Their entire sense of self revolves around control, validation and avoiding their own deep-seated insecurities. They struggle with boredom, emptiness and a lack of true fulfilment, so they create chaos, manipulate

Narcissists believe that you will always remain trapped in their web and under their control. They see themselves as superior and often view you as an extension of themselves rather than an independent individual. Their inflated sense of self-importance makes them feel entitled to control you. They assume you will always need them, or that you will be too weak to leave. They struggle to accept that you have your own autonomy and the ability to walk away. They use tactics such

Being under the control of a narcissist can be a deeply disorienting and suffocating experience. It can feel like losing yourself piece by piece, as your thoughts, choices and even your identity become dictated by their influence and dominance. At first, they may seem charming, persuasive and even protective, but over time their influence can become oppressive. They may gaslight you, making you question your reality, instincts and memories. You begin to doubt yourself, wonder

There is one tempting and unwise move that a narcissist cannot seem to refrain from doing. They cannot stand firm or resist it because it is simply too tempting, especially when they are dealing with an informed target. It keeps you confused and bound to the narcissist because you may sense something is wrong without having enough evidence to prove it. They can do this because they appear to have no moral compass and operate with a dual nature. They are masters of contradicti

Gangstalking is a term used to describe what some individuals believe is a pattern of organised harassment and surveillance directed towards them. It is typically described as involving groups of people who allegedly work together to intimidate, discredit, isolate or destabilise a target. People who report experiencing it often describe persistent and coordinated activities that create intense paranoia, fear or distress. However, gangstalking remains highly controversial, and

Narcissists often believe they can get away with everything they've done. They have an inflated sense of entitlement, a lack of empathy, and a manipulative nature. They see themselves as superior and often believe they are too clever or untouchable to face consequences. They use gaslighting, blame shifting, and playing the victim to avoid accountability. They also expect you to remain silent so they can continue protecting their carefully constructed façade. But their overcon

When a narcissist tells you to move on, or tells you that you should be with someone else, it can be deeply confusing. Sometimes, after being with them for a certain amount of time, they will suggest that they are unsuitable for you, or that they are not good enough for you. They may push you towards another person or tell you to move on and leave them behind. But then there is often a push and pull, where they pull you in and then push you away again. They repeatedly move in

A narcissistic parent may claim to love their children, but their understanding and expression of love can be conditional and self-centred. They may see their children as extensions of themselves, using them for validation, attention and a sense of control. Claiming to be a loving parent can also reinforce the image they want to project to the outside world: that they are caring, devoted and a good parent. By presenting themselves as a loving parent, they can also gain levera

Narcissists want you to believe that they are all-powerful, omnipotent and infallible, creating the illusion that they are untouchable, impervious to criticism, failure or emotional vulnerability. This is part of a defence mechanism designed to protect their fragile self-esteem and maintain control, admiration and a sense of superiority within relationships. The powerful persona is often a façade designed to hide deep insecurities and fears of inadequacy. They may use gasligh

Imagine you're standing in a quiet coffee shop, waiting for your drink. The gentle hum of conversation and the clatter of cups create a comforting backdrop. Life has moved on since the manipulation, confusion and emotional pain. You've rebuilt yourself. You're calmer, stronger and more grounded than you once believed possible. Then, as you glance towards the entrance, your heart skips a beat. Standing in the doorway is the narcissist. They look much the same. Polished, confid

You were the narcissist's last chance. As an empath, you may have been their final opportunity to choose a different path. You naturally understand other people's emotions and often feel compelled to heal those who seem emotionally wounded. You may have believed that beneath the narcissist's grandiosity, entitlement and need for control was someone capable of change. But while you were focused on healing them, they were focused on securing admiration, validation and control t

As empaths, we naturally feel compelled to include other people in our fun and enjoyment. Because of our heightened sensitivity to emotions and needs, we can often sense when someone feels left out, lonely, or excluded. This creates a strong desire to make sure everyone around us feels valued, accepted, and included. We have a deep emotional awareness, a desire to spread joy, and an instinct to avoid negative energy. Because of our compassionate nature, we often prioritise ot

You're not going back. You've truly walked away. You're no longer emotionally invested, no longer willing to play their games, and no longer prepared to sacrifice your peace for someone who continues to drain it. You now recognise that their behaviour is toxic, manipulative and ultimately damaging to your wellbeing. Instead of questioning yourself, you've begun to question them, and that change in perspective marks the beginning of your freedom. You've come to understand that

What happens when you disappear from a narcissist's life? What goes through their mind when they suddenly realise they no longer know where you are, what you're doing, or whether they're ever going to hear from you again? Why do they react the way they do, and should you be concerned if they suddenly fall silent? If you've finally walked away from their toxic behaviour, or you've simply stopped giving them the access they once enjoyed, you've done something they struggle to t

Recent data indicates a significant rise in mental health diagnoses. During the first year of the COVID-19 pandemic, the global prevalence of anxiety and depression increased by 25%. In the United States, diagnoses rose sharply between 2019 and 2023, while Australia has also seen a substantial increase, particularly among teenage girls. These statistics highlight a concerning rise in mental health issues worldwide and reinforce the urgent need for better mental health service

Narcissists often love bomb at the start of a relationship, showering you with affection, admiration and attention to create a strong emotional connection. This may make you feel special, valued and uniquely important to them. But after the love bombing phase, they can switch to scarcity tactics designed to manipulate and control you. They withdraw the attention, affection and validation they initially gave you, becoming distant, cold and emotionally unavailable. This sudden

Narcissists often exhibit hot and cold behaviour. This is a common tactic in relationships with narcissistic individuals and usually stems from their need for control, validation and power. During the hot phase, they are attentive, charming and affectionate, often overwhelming you with love bombing to gain your trust and admiration. Because they make you feel special, you become more emotionally invested. Then, without warning, they turn cold through emotional withdrawal, cri

The narcissist may devalue you by making you feel insignificant, unwanted or unworthy. But can they truly revalue you? While they may appear to reconsider their opinion of you, it will never be the same as it was in the beginning. Once devaluation begins, the relationship has fundamentally changed. Any renewed appreciation is rarely genuine and is usually driven by their own needs rather than respect or love. The idealisation phase was never an authentic expression of who the