Narcissists clearly need your attention. They long for it, crave it, and even beg or demand it because they have an intense desire for validation. This need can seem urgent and overwhelming, as though they cannot function without it. Even if it has only been a few hours or minutes since you last attended to them, they may act as though they are falling apart. Your attention fuels them—it is their narcissistic supply, and they rely on it to function and thrive. This is why they cannot tolerate...

Why did they do that to you? For what reason or purpose? We often ask this question because we assume there must be a cause or intention behind an action or situation. We believe there must be a motive. Their actions may seem surprising, even unexpected, leaving you unable to understand why they would behave that way. You can’t quite put your finger on it. Instead of holding them accountable or questioning their behaviour, you may end up blaming yourself—exactly what the narcissist is...

Your reality and perceptions of the narcissist may seem to conflict, causing great disturbance, confusion, and uncertainty. This may lead you to question what is actually real. You might wonder why the narcissist’s behaviour does not match the image they portray, or why their words differ from their actions. You may notice that they act very differently with you compared to how they behave in public, leaving you puzzled by the stark contrast between what you see and what others perceive. This...