The narcissist may think they've got you all figured out. They may believe they know the real you—something authentic and genuine, not an imitation or artificial. They base this on past experiences and events, assuming they know everything they need to know about you. This is typical narcissistic behavior; they think they know everything based on their feelings, which they treat as facts, rather than relying on reason or logic. Their understanding is not based on sensible or wise thinking,...

The narcissist was subjected to certain treatment or information as a child. They saw too much and knew too much. Perhaps they saw their parents in danger or distress, experienced traumatic events, or witnessed things that were deeply damaging and disturbing. They were told that it was bad. They witnessed the reactions on other people's faces and felt their fear and shame, knowing something was wrong. This is how it all began. It made them decide to create a false character to protect...

When the narcissist first targeted you, they idealized you. They put you on a pedestal, and in that moment, you were perfect. But then they started to feel insecure because of your success or achievements, or because you began to confront them on their false mistakes. This triggered the narcissist, causing a narcissistic rage, and they began to devalue you. They insulted you, put you down, domesticated, and enslaved you, making you run on an endless hamster wheel trying to please an...