Narcissists Are TOXIC

Narcissists are often nasty, rude, and hateful. They behave this way deliberately and intentionally to make you feel bad about yourself. They lack empathy, so they don’t care about you or your feelings. In fact, it may even bring them joy to see you suffer because they don’t view you as a human being. Instead, they see you as an object that exists solely to serve them and meet their needs.

However, because we are not objects, we have the power to direct our own behaviour. This forces narcissists to tempt and entice us, challenging our discipline and self-control. If that doesn’t work, they will target our self-esteem. When we feel bad about ourselves, we become easier to manipulate and less likely to fight back.

This is why narcissists refuse to answer questions, give evasive replies, or unnecessarily criticise you. They may give backhanded compliments, play mind games, make unfair comparisons, invalidate your emotions, call you names, humiliate you in public, or make passive-aggressive comments. Their goal is to make you feel as though something is wrong with you, so you continue to feed their ego and make them feel important.

As soon as you realise your worth and stop feeding their ego, they will immediately pull away. They may stop calling you, ghost you, or treat you as though you’re beneath their consideration. This is because they don’t want you to start thinking you’re more valuable than them – even though that is often the case. To maintain their sense of superiority, they will put significant effort into diminishing you and your achievements.

Narcissists often have delusions of grandeur, believing it is necessary to prove their superiority by devaluing others. They regard you as being of little worth so they can feel more valuable. If you point out their rudeness or toxic behaviour, they will go to great lengths to establish their superiority and prove their opinions are correct, rather than apologising.

Narcissists have a black-and-white mentality, which prevents them from understanding stability and equality. If they don’t feel superior, they may feel inferior, and this inferiority drives them to insult others. Even when asking for a favour, they may display bitterness and resentment because they hate being dependent on others for their supply.

They view people as objects or extensions of themselves, and they become frustrated when others demonstrate autonomy and independence. This is why they manipulate and control under the guise of love or care, while secretly disregarding your feelings, wants, or needs. Narcissists are often rude or toxic because they are empty, selfish individuals who use others to fill a void. They only care about themselves, and if you don’t comply with their demands, they may become offensively impolite and ill-mannered.

When you exercise your free will, it may cause a narcissistic injury, leading them to become angry and intimidating in an attempt to coerce you back under their control. They seek stability, security, and comfort, which they derive from you. To keep you in this position, they resort to mean and controlling behaviour, treating you as though they are entitled to do so. No matter what they do, they will always find a way to justify their actions, even if it means playing the victim to make you feel sorry for them.

Narcissists are toxic because they are shame-based individuals who do everything they can to avoid reflecting on their shame. They hurt others to avoid feeling bad about themselves, using people as tools to remain disconnected from their own emotions. They are deeply insecure and hate how they feel about themselves.

Being in a relationship with a narcissist is similar to dealing with a child. They lack self-awareness, throw tantrums, and struggle with reasoning skills. They deny their flaws and blame others for their shortcomings. Arguing with a narcissist is like trying to reason with a toddler – they lack the psychological development to engage in critical thinking, decision-making, or problem-solving. You may feel as though you’d have better luck talking to a wall.

Narcissists often engage in “word salad,” using an unintelligible mixture of random words and phrases that leave you questioning their sanity. They fail to understand healthy boundaries and appropriate behaviour, often walking all over others without regard. If you’re unaware, you may be easily sucked into their deceptive world of nonsense, assuming their words are true. Once they gain your emotional attachment, they reveal their true nature by devaluing and degrading you, withdrawing suddenly, gaslighting you, or giving you the silent treatment. These tactics are used to manipulate, punish, and control you.

Narcissists feed off your attention, controlling you to keep you around and stroke their ego. Beneath their mask of pride and arrogance lies deep insecurity and a lack of self-worth. They avoid reflecting on this truth by harming or gaslighting others. Ultimately, they want people in their lives to make them feel important, so they never have to confront their own insecurities.

They are fake individuals who demand trust and devotion, regardless of your own desires. They manipulate, lie, future-fake, and gaslight to prolong relationships far beyond their natural course, extracting as much validation as possible. They demonstrate their power by wreaking havoc in your mind, keeping you bonded to their destructive nature.

Narcissists are mean and toxic because they are unhappy with themselves. They have double standards, expecting others to follow rules they cannot adhere to themselves. They don’t accept themselves or engage in self-reflection. Instead, they troll others, deliberately provoking emotional reactions for revenge, attention, or amusement.

They often target successful, happy individuals because their own lives are not fulfilling. Narcissists are insecure and feel hard done by in life, often resenting others for being more attractive, intelligent, or socially competent. They disrupt natural interactions to recreate their own experiences, only with themselves in control.

Their narcissistic traits predispose them to thrill-seeking and sadism, as they find normal human interactions unfulfilling. They experience boredom and lack enthusiasm, finding joy in ridiculing and tormenting others. They stir up trouble to cause unpleasant emotions or problems, drawing you into their world of chaos.

At first, they may make you feel special and important, but they soon want you to feel small, inferior, and unworthy. This often stems from their lack of life, social, and love skills. Beneath their charming, confident, and charismatic mask, they are jealous and insecure. They avoid accountability, blaming others for their shortcomings. Occasionally, they may act kind and secure to reel you back in and extract more supply.

As long as you engage with them, they will never stop. Their fragile egos drive their need to feel important, and their self-absorption prevents them from acknowledging your separate existence. They view you as a tool to use whenever and however they wish, often causing anxiety, grief, and unnecessary problems.

Their delusions of superiority and grandiosity fuel their arrogance, leading them to talk down to and look down on others. This behaviour makes them ill-mannered and unpleasant in social situations.

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