They pulled the wool over your eyes. They had you fooled for such a long time that you didn’t know who they truly were or what you were actually dealing with. They deceived you by telling lies or hiding the truth. They imposed misleading beliefs upon you, convincing you to validate a false reality where they could do no wrong. But when you begin to figure them out, everything changes. Before this, you were like their obedient little pet, trained to follow their commands and d

It’s no secret that narcissists have unrealistic expectations. They expect the world from you. They expect you to climb mountains and reach for the stars. But what happens when you actually manage to do the impossible? What happens when you climb out of the pit they created for you? What happens when you exceed their expectations, when you become greater than they ever imagined, or when you do better than them? When you surpass the narcissist’s unrealistic expectations, you’l

Narcissists are not simply people having a bad day or dealing with life’s challenges. They exhibit a consistent pattern of exploiting others—emotionally, financially, and mentally. They can be arrogant and entitled, believing it is their right to abuse, lie, and use others as stepping stones to achieve their desires. Because they lack empathy, narcissists focus solely on their own needs, neglecting the emotions of others. This makes it difficult for them to build or maintain

The narcissist did many things to you. They manipulated, love-bombed, lied, future-faked, devalued, blamed, gaslighted, and discarded you. At times, they may have even come back to "hoover" you, causing further turmoil. Before all of this, you were likely in a much better place—stronger, more confident, and a greater source of supply for them. But do they ever realise the harm they've caused? Do they think about it? Do they feel the need to apologise or take responsibility? T

Narcissists thrive on secrecy. They prefer to keep things hidden and misunderstood, as it gives them a sense of power and control. Their insecurity and feelings of helplessness drive them to act in strange, mysterious ways, which they believe strengthens their influence over their environment. This behavior feeds their need for narcissistic supply, the emotional sustenance they constantly seek. When pursuing this supply, narcissists often resort to dishonesty and secrecy. The

When a narcissist discards you, it may seem like they’re done with you—as though they’re no longer interested. However, this is often a tactic to maintain control. Narcissists are deeply insecure and feel inferior, which is why the discard is rarely the final chapter. Here are four things narcissists commonly do after discarding you: 1. They Will Hoover You At some point—whether it’s days, months, or even years later—they will return. If they were the ones to discard you, the

Narcissists are desperate for attention and validation. They constantly seek acknowledgment of their strength and emotions from others. Their self-worth is entirely dependent on external sources, which creates a void that can never be filled. This void drives their behaviour, as they try to avoid reflecting on their own shame. They are always chasing attention and admiration in an attempt to fill this emptiness. It becomes obvious that they have a void because they are consta

When a narcissist senses that you are dissatisfied or upset, they may anticipate that you are planning to leave. This can trigger feelings of abandonment anxiety in them. Narcissists have a heightened awareness that allows them to pick up on your emotions, even when you try to hide them. They can sense when you’ve disconnected from them and often identify the cause. This awareness may lead to one or more of the following eight responses: 1. Love Bombing Narcissists may start

The narcissist pretends to move on, but the "discard phase" is just an illusion. They never truly leave; instead, they remain in the background, watching and waiting for the right moment to return. Their return is never about reconciliation or love—it’s about control, revenge, and destruction. Narcissists come back for one reason: to wreak havoc on your life. They aim to leave you in a state where you are no longer useful, valuable, or happy. Their vengeful nature drives them

Narcissists are always playing a game. They manipulate you into filtering everything through them so they can live vicariously through you. To them, you are merely an extension of themselves. They are heavily dependent on you, and without your existence, they wouldn’t be able to survive emotionally. But here’s the truth: we don’t need to play games. We don’t need to filter our lives through anyone else or live vicariously through others. We can do things for real. When we put

Have you ever tried talking to a narcissist, hoping to get them to see things your way? Did you find yourself caught in pointless, prolonged arguments? If so, you’re not alone. Engaging with a narcissist in this way is not only frustrating but also a waste of your time and energy. Here’s why—and what you should do instead. Narcissists are wired to deflect everything. Their goal is to avoid criticism or blame at all costs. When you try to reason with them, they will: - Play du

A narcissist can only control you if they can control your emotional reactions. The emotions you experience in response to their actions or words are their primary focus. However, they cannot truly feel what you’re feeling. Your happiness, fear, or sadness does not affect them. This emotional disconnection is what enables them to manipulate and abuse you. Narcissists manipulate you into feeling a certain way to make you behave in ways that elevate them—at your expense. They c

Narcissists embody a profound sense of emptiness. Beneath their exterior lies a void—an absence of life, connection, and authenticity. They are often perceived as insignificant, unimportant, and disconnected from the world around them. This emptiness manifests as a lack of being, a vacuum that impedes any form of genuine existence. Even when it seems like there is something substantial within them, it is often an illusion—a projection of your imagination rather than reality.

It’s no secret that narcissists do not love. If they did, there wouldn’t be so many narcissistic abuse communities on YouTube. The truth is, a narcissist can’t love anyone, including themselves. A long time ago, they made a decision: they felt their true self wasn’t good enough. So, they abandoned their true self and created a false self to take its place. Instead of loving and accepting themselves, they chose to reject who they truly are. If they can’t love or accept themsel

Narcissists are highly manipulative and deceptive. They can cause you to develop a false impression of who they are. They will give you breadcrumbs, string you along, and deliberately mislead you over time about their motives and intentions. This is because they already know what you want to see. They’ve studied you in depth, allowing them to reflect back an image of your ideal person—even though that’s not who they truly are. Narcissists are skilled at creating illusions. Th

Narcissists often return with fake apologies and false epiphanies, pretending they’ve realized their mistakes and want to make amends. However, their true motive for hoovering you is far from genuine. Narcissists hoover to take revenge. They are petty, focusing on trivial matters and blowing them out of proportion. They turn molehills into mountains, creating chaos and unnecessary drama. In their minds, they are the centre of the world. Everything revolves around them, and th

When you see the narcissist flaunting their new source on social media, it may look like they’re happy. It might seem like they’re having a great time without you. But it’s very easy for them to orchestrate a situation and make it appear as something it’s not. You’re only seeing a snapshot—a highlight, a moment. Everything else is left to your imagination. You don’t see what’s happening behind closed doors. This creates suspense and mystery, leaving you uncertain about what’s

At the beginning of the relationship, you saw a different side of them—an amazing, wonderful side that you liked and felt connected to. They seemed to care about you, investing their time and energy into you. But gradually, they began to change. They started to pull away, and communication became scarce. Days would pass without a word, leaving you longing and yearning for them. You may have even found yourself addicted to them, despite recognizing deep down that they weren’t

It’s no secret that narcissists love to ruin intimate moments. They seem to take pleasure in disrupting anything that might bring you fulfilment—whether it’s a personal experience, a vacation, a birthday, Christmas, Valentine’s Day, or any other special occasion. But why do they do this? What motivates them? Let’s dive into the reasons behind this behaviour. The Nature of Intimate Moments Intimate moments are deeply personal and private. They’re times when you share your thou

Narcissists want you to feel unimportant and insignificant, as though you’re not worth their consideration. In reality, the opposite is true—they are heavily dependent on you. They need your emotional support to continue functioning, but they want you to believe otherwise. This illusion is designed to make you feel small and keep you at their beck and call, ensuring they can extract what they need from you. The truth is, you don’t need them. Narcissists lack the ability to fu