This Is What Narcissists Do Every Day When You Go No Contact

When they were with you, narcissists were heavily dependent on you. You were a potent source of supply for them. So, what do they do when you're no longer there? How do they get their fuel? Narcissists hate being alone because they hate themselves. So, how do they keep moving forward? What motivates or distracts them? What are they pursuing? What are they doing now with all this free time? In this post, I will share nine things that narcissists indulge in when you go no contact.

1. They Start Looking for New Supply

Narcissists will immediately begin searching for someone to provide them with attention, validation, praise, and acknowledgement. Your rejection and decision to go no contact leave them without a source of supply, resulting in a narcissistic injury—a blow to their fragile self-esteem. This triggers anger, resentment, and an intense desire to regain control.

In this state, they often feel depressed and moody because they lack external means to feel good about themselves. To cope, they start seeking their "drug"—narcissistic supply. This search excites them as they imagine all the possibilities yet to be discovered. They may:

- Speak to random people.

- Act flirtatious, provocative, seductive, and inviting.

- Love-bomb potential new sources by texting, calling, or liking and commenting on their social media posts.

However, as we know, after the love-bombing phase comes devaluation. No one can ever satisfy their insatiable hunger for validation, leaving them constantly yearning for more.

2. They Engage in Fantasy

Narcissists often retreat into a world of fantasy. Even while they were with you, their minds were likely elsewhere, imagining impossible or improbable scenarios. Fantasy serves as their escape and a psychological mechanism to maintain their grandiose self-image. They may fantasise about:

- Unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love.

These fantasies help them cope with stress and sustain their inflated self-perception. However, they rarely take steps to turn these visions into reality. Instead, they settle for whatever they can find, often leading to dissatisfaction and failure.

3. They Act on Vengeful Thoughts

Narcissists can become vindictive when they feel wronged. They may blame you for everything and hold a grudge, harbouring resentment because they feel threatened, insecure, or offended. Unable to work through conflict, they develop a "get even" mentality. This might involve:

- Weaponising information against you.

- Belittling you to elevate themselves.

4. They Smear Your Name

Narcissists love gossiping and will talk about you behind your back. They may spread lies to your friends or family, aiming to bring people to their side. This behaviour gives them an emotional boost and a sense of power. They may:

- Betray even their closest relationships for personal gain.

- Ruin your reputation out of envy for your achievements, qualities, or relationships.

Rather than investing time in themselves, they focus on destroying others, as this brings them a twisted sense of joy.

5. They Plan to Hoover You

If you were a good source of supply, the narcissist will likely plan to rekindle the relationship. They may:

- Stalk your social media.

- Compliment your achievements or offer false promises.

- Use guilt trips or even threats to worm their way back into your life.

However, even if they succeed, the relationship will inevitably return to its toxic state.

6. They Exhibit Attention-Seeking Behaviour

If their hoovering attempts fail, narcissists may resort to dramatic and undignified actions to attract your attention. They might:

- Show off their possessions or accomplishments.

- Flaunt their new supply.

- Lash out if they feel intimidated by your achievements.

This behaviour stems from their insecurity and need for validation, whether positive or negative.

7. They Stalk You

When all else fails, narcissists may resort to stalking. They might:

- Watch you from afar or monitor your social media.

- Obsess over your life as a form of escapism.

Stalking gives them a sense of control and involvement in your life, even though they are no longer a part of it.

8. They Seek Old Sources of Supply

Finding new supply requires effort, so narcissists often fall back on old sources. They may:

- Reconnect with people they previously discarded.

- Depend on family members or enablers who adore them.

These individuals provide an easy target for the narcissist's need for attention and validation.

9. They Indulge in Addictions

To escape their reality, narcissists may turn to addictions such as:

- Alcohol or recreational drugs.

- Gambling or excessive shopping.

- Video games or pornography.

These behaviours allow them to avoid vulnerability and the pain of self-reflection. Their addictions feed their fantasies and provide a temporary high, helping them disconnect from their true, fragmented selves.

Narcissists hate being alone because it forces them to confront their shame and insecurity. Their lives revolve around pretending to be someone they are not, which only deepens their self-hatred. By going no contact, you protect yourself from their toxic behaviours and allow yourself the space to heal and thrive.

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