Narcissists Are Cowards. You will probably never see the narcissists the same way after watching this video. When things go wrong, you have two choices. Here is the first one. You can stand up to the struggles of life. You can face the pain that you are experiencing head-on. You might fall, but if that happens, you know that you will get back up and face the issue. That's your first option and since you are watching my video, it is most likely that this is the choice that will resonate with you. Empaths or even codependents do not give up that easily.
So here is the second choice you have when things go wrong and you can be sure that this is the choice the narcissist will choose. They will create an alternate reality, a controlled environment. They will disguise themselves, create false personalities will hide behind their mask. They will gaslight you and attempt to distort your perception of reality. This is the option the narcissist will most likely choose in any given situation.
When life gets tough and they are faced with serious issues that have to be dealt with, they don't face it head on, they run from the reality and truth of the situation. They create an alternate reality and put you in it. They create alternate rules and interpretations of everything. They put on different acts depending on the situation. Most often they are passive aggressive and covertly abusive towards you. Because there is a lot of hate, anger, and envy boiling inside of them. But sometimes you will see their fake kind or empathic act.
They try to appeal to your own ideals, mirror whatever it is that will attract you. Just so they can then bring their true narcissistic personality back and destroy whatever fantasy or illusion you had just created together. They use all kinds of manipulation tactics in an attempt to distort your perception of reality. They will use gaslighting, mind control, hypnosis and others. So what's all of this about? What is the purpose of this? And how are they running from serious issues? By creating an alternate reality, they are running from the truth. They are running from the true reality of the situation.
They cannot deal with it, they cannot face it head-on. So they will spend the rest of their lives pretending as though there is no issue. They are not willing to take a stand for anything in life and this basically proves it. By creating alternate rules, they are trying to gain an advantage over you. Their beliefs, values and principles will change depending on how they feel or what they desire. They will also retract their alternate rules at any given time, to prevent you from doing the same thing.
They will create alternate interpretations of everything you do. Whatever you are doing is bad or related to something bad. Whatever it is that you are doing, they will always find a way to criticise it or link it to something else, reinterpret it in a different way. When it comes to you, they are hypervigilante, hypersensitive, pessimistic and paranoid. Because they cannot deal with the true reality of seeing you as a good person. You have to be seen as this evil villain-like person. The reason for this is because deep down that's how they feel about themselves.
All of the abuse and manipulation, distorting your reality. It has created a lot of deep-rooted shame within them. And this is another example of how they run from serious issues. They never deal with their shame, they simply project it on to you. They live their lives doing whatever they can to avoid shame. So now you are the bad person in this situation, they might even call you the abuser. And this is all part of their act, their game. They are playing a game because they cannot face the reality of the situation.
They don't want to be real and genuine with you. It's too much work for the narcissist and they have no belief in themselves. They need an advantage, they need to be above you at any cost in order to win. They need to weaken you with gaslighting and manipulation. There will never be a fair fight with the narcissist, because they already know if everything was fair, they could never win. They already know what you are capable of. Your capabilities are far greater than theirs and they know it. That's why they use all of these cowardly tactics in an attempt to even the game.
Narcissists have a handicap, an obstacle, a disadvantage. So they have to do whatever they can to create a controlled environment where they have the control. Take away their control and they have nothing. That's where their illusion of strength comes from When you have real strength which comes from within, you don't need any of that. But the narcissist does need their cowardly tactics and controlled environment, because they have no real strength or self-belief and they know it. They knew this a long time ago, so they had to prepare for their lack of real strength and self-belief.
Narcissists are the ultimate cowards. They go into battle wearing body armour because they know that they are facing a true champion. If you are facing a champion, you are going to need all of the help you can get. Cowardly tactics, alternate reality, alternate rules and interpretations, wearing a mask, controlled environments, flying monkeys and smear campaigns. All of this bullshit should solidy the fact in your mind that you are dealing with the ultimate cowards. Because real champions do not need any of that.
They face the situation head-on and do whatever is necessary to reach a resolution. But when you are dealing with narcissists, they won't do that. They need to have the upper-hand at all times, because they are weak cowards. So they will wear their body armour. But beneath that armour is a very weak, scrawny little person with no backbone and no real strength. They had to create the illusion of strength by using their body armour.
Just as the narcissist creates their illusion of strength by using all of these cowardly tactics, controlled environments, flying monkeys and smear campaigns. But once you cut through their body armour and expose their true weak, scrawny physique, they will bail on the fight. They will bail on their false character and even the relationship. Because when it comes down to it, they do not want to fight for anything. They are going to do whatever it takes to avoid the fight and just manipulate and gaslight you instead.
They want you to see them as this tough, powerful person and that is why they will wear the body armour. But believe that under that is a person with no backbone and no real strength. They are non-confrontational. They have no fight in them. They do not stand for anything in life, though it seems they will fall for some ridiculous things. They run from serious issues, they don't want to deal with it because they don't believe they can deal with it. Not the right way at least. If they really believed that they could deal with matters using the correct procedure, which is an established or official way of resolving the situation.
Believe me, they would have done that by now. But cowards do not follow an established or official procedure. They make it up as it goes along, whatever suits them, whatever allows them to have the upperhand and the most control over the situation. And this is why you should never take them seriously. They are not official, they are not established. They are a joke and they will use any trick or stunt they can, like a clown in a circus. Narcissists are weak people. If they do not have an advantage in the situation, they will give up and leave.
This is why they are so eager to learn everything about you, without revealing anything about themselves. They always have to know what you are doing, where are you going and who are you with. Meanwhile they will never reveal any information about themselves. The irony is that you will soon discover they are the ones that are breaking the rules. They are the ones who are lying, cheating or engaging in illegal activities. Yet they have to know what you are doing, where you are going and who you are with. Why is this? Well, the reason is because they are hypervigilant and paranoid. They know that they are willing to lie, cheat and engage in illegal activities.
It's not even a question for them, they will do it at the first opportunity. So they assume that you are like them. You are going to lie, cheat or engage in illegal activities, just as they do. But the problem is, their assumptions are based on their own hypervigilance and paranoia. They don't realise that your mental composition is not the same as theirs. So what do they do? They use all of these cowardly tactics and create a controlled environment. Because they are the ultimate cowards. So they will continue controlling everything you do, manipulating you, making you believe that they are doing nothing wrong. Meanwhile, they will never take the situation seriously. They will never face it using the correct procedure.
They will never deal with it using the correct, established and official method. And this is nothing new. This is what they have been doing their whole lives. Whenever a difficult situation comes up, this is what they do. When you don't deal with a situation and face it in the correct way, you can never learn, you can never develop and you can never mature as a person. This is why they remain in this emotionally immature state using their little tactics and playing their little games. And this is why you will find that they are very weak emotionally.
Most of their decisions and ideas are based off of their weak and immature emotions. Emotions which they never dealt with following whatever tra