The SCARIEST THING About Narcissists

As you may know, I have dealt with many narcissists in my life. Some of them were overt narcissists, while others were more covert. However, there was something that united them, making them more noticeable and striking. Regardless of their age, gender, or what part of the world they were from, they were all exactly the same. It was like encountering the same person in a different body.

They all exhibited the same personality traits, with the only difference being their physical appearance. At their core, they all had the same habits, tendencies, and motivations. They shared the same arguments and reasons for their behavior, and they all had the same disagreements and misunderstandings. Even though some were covert and others grandiose, they all had the same core issue, which led to abusive relationships.

Yet, they all made it seem like they didn't have a problem. They moved on to the next person, appearing confident and accomplished, with an air of arrogance and entitlement. They were self-absorbed and lacked empathy, yet they believed they were special and unique, better, greater, or different than others. In their minds, they were very valuable because they thought there was no one else like them. This is peculiar and ironic because, in reality, they were all exactly the same. There was nothing that set them apart.

This explains how I managed to achieve over 50 million views on my YouTube channel. No matter what part of the world you're from, and regardless of the age or gender of the narcissist you were with, they all act and behave exactly the same way. They all share the same core issue while appearing as though they don't have a problem. They seem competent, organized, and prepared, behaving appropriately and effectively. This naturally causes all of their victims to find each other in these communities.

We may initially believe that there's something we can change or improve, but we soon realize that our feelings, actions, or behaviors do not change the outcome. Our choices and decisions do not influence the narcissist; they are ineffective and never result in anything successful, productive, or constructive. This can begin to affect your self-esteem, especially when you see them moving on and seemingly doing fine with someone else. They use this to try to prove to you that you're the one who is incompetent or ineffective. It's all an illusion.

In reality, they are the ones with the problem. They have no sense of self; they are very insecure and lack self-love and self-care. They try to disguise this by being egotistical, acting arrogant, and entitled, as though they don't care about other people and it's all about them. This can be very confusing because it may seem like they're in love with themselves when, in fact, they're just in love with their mask. They're in love with their false image, this disguise they use to fool people because they want to appear a certain way to feel good about themselves. But that's not who they really are.

They lack self-love and self-care because they're not willing to be honest with themselves and address their problems. They can't help other people or themselves to heal and change because they're very insecure. It's too painful for them to do that because they lack a sense of self. They don't feel like they're enough, which is why they can't deal with criticism. They see it as an attack, so they have to go and blame you or someone else because they don't want to hear it. They don't want to feel those emotions because they're insecure about the things they have done. They have a void, so everything they try to go towards does not make them feel better. This is why everything you try to do to please them does not produce a favorable result. It's ineffective because they're never satisfied; they can't be satisfied.

Deep down, they realize they have a problem, so they wear a mask. They pretend that everything is okay and act arrogant when, in fact, it's the opposite. They just don't want you to see it because they're very insecure and lack a sense of self. This is why they will use you or someone else to prop up their false reality of being this wonderful person so that they can feel good about themselves. It's just shared psychosis, a fantasy, a dream with no basis in reality. This is why they always need other people to validate it so that they can feel less insecure, as though that's who they actually are.

They have all of this guilt and shame, which they don't want to reflect on. They don't want you to acknowledge who they actually are unless they can find a way to project it outwards and use it to hurt you. Otherwise, it would be very painful for them because they're very insecure. When they feel guilt or shame, they have to run away from it, which means they never process it. They push it away so that they don't have to deal with whatever they're feeling because they don't want to accept that they did something bad or that they're a bad person. Instead, they wear a mask and act as though they didn't do anything wrong. By doing that, it remains at their core, making them always feel like they are bad.

When a person feels like they're bad, they can't find satisfaction in anything in life. They can't experience anything positive or good, which is why a lot of times they will discard you first. They will ghost you because they don't want you to invalidate or reject them. It may seem like they're running from you, but they're actually running from themselves. They don't want to reflect on their feelings of guilt and shame or their fears of rejection and abandonment. They would rather just wear a mask if it means they can avoid their insecurities. This causes them to have these coping and defense mechanisms, which are hurtful and destructive to other people.

This is why they're all the same. It's like we're all dealing with the same person in a different body because they can't be vulnerable. They can't be themselves. Instead, they can only wear a mask or pretend to be something they're not. This is why they will often blame you, get very angry at you, and manipulate and gaslight you. They're trying to run away from who they actually are. They're running from themselves, which is why it seems like they all act exactly the same way, regardless of what type of narcissist they are. They're all running from themselves, so they're all miserable and dissatisfied. To experience genuine positive emotions, you have to be connected to yourself. Narcissists are driven by their own insecurities, guilt, shame, and rejection, which causes them to respond the way they do. Until they finally acknowledge their actions and process their emotions so that they can heal, grow, and develop, nothing is going to change.

In most cases, they remain that way for their entire lives. You will never see a more positive or productive side of them because most of them are never going to accept themselves. They're never going to accept who they actually are, which means they're never going to accept you. They're never going to deal with you appropriately because they don't even love or accept themselves. How can they accept anyone else? How can they experience genuine fulfillment with anyone in their lives? This is why most of them will remain the same. They're always going to be miserable and dissatisfied. They're always going to manipulate, deceive, shame, guilt-trip, and gaslight you.

But you shouldn't worry about it. You shouldn't see it as though you've lost this wonderful person, which is how they would like you to think so that they can get supply. You shouldn't see it that way because they're not even connected to themselves. You should know this from being able to relate your situation and experiences to my videos because they all act and behave in exactly the same way. They have no identity of their own; they have nothing to give. All they can do is project their own unprocessed negative emotions and traumas onto you.

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