5 Things Narcissists Do When They LOSE CONTROL Of You

Narcissists need to have control of their targets. They need the power to influence your behavior and direct the course of events. When they don't have that, they will feel like they're losing control of you, and they will try to regain it. Here are five things narcissists do when they lose control of you:

1. Love Bombing If you have no contact with the narcissist, they may try to hoover again. They will bombard you with text messages and phone calls. They will try to get you to respond to them by telling you whatever they think you want to hear. They will give you a fake apology or a false epiphany. They will pretend to understand and act like they're going to change because they know that's what you want. They know you want them to act right, so they will give you the illusion of that, but it's only so they can lock you under their control again.

2. Triangulation When the narcissist loses control of you, they will bring in another person because they want to get your mind back on them again. They want your attention and will try to get it by making you jealous, making you think that you're losing something, or making you think that you're missing out, in the hopes that it will make you come running back to them.

3. Threats and Intimidation f you still refuse to comply, they will make threats and try to intimidate you. They will try to coerce you into doing what they want because they know that without force or threats, you're not going to listen to them. They know that they don't have any leverage or incentive for you to comply because it's not in your best interest to do so.

4. Stalking and Harassment When the narcissist loses control of you, they will start to monitor you. They will follow you at your home or work and stalk you on social media because they want to see what you're doing and who you're with. They want to see if you're still experiencing the effects of what they did to you and if there's an opening for them to come back. Or they may just be gathering data, which they will then use against you to further control you.

5. Exposure When all bets are off, the narcissist will resort to one last strategy. They will try to expose you by revealing your secrets and personal information—things that you confided in them and trusted them with. They will distort the truth and make up their own stories, then use it against you. They will enlist others to help them in their smear campaign in an attempt to discredit you and ruin your reputation. At this point, they know that they've lost control of you, that you've figured them out, and that you're not going to come back. So all they can do now is try to take you down so that they don't have to deal with the pain of watching you move on from them. Because when they're trying to regain their control of you, that's all they're trying to do. They're using you as a tool to regulate their emotions and soothe their bruised ego. As long as they have control of you, they feel powerful and important.