The narcissist may discard you suddenly and unexpectedly. And you won't know about it until it's too late. Until they've already got one foot out the door. Until they're eager to abandon you. They can be very unpredictable, if you don't understand how they operate. But there are certain signs to look for, which should reveal to you what they're about to do. You need to understand the reasons why the narcissist is wanting to discard you. They need constant entertainment. But they get bored of people quickly and easily. So they're constantly looking for something new. And when they're ready to discard you, it's because they've already set their sights on someone else. They're also hoping that the discard will hurt you. They use it as a form of punishment and revenge. But they have to do it in a way where it not only has a great impact on you. But also where it puts them in a position where you are unable to blame them.
So that it leaves you feeling like you were the problem. Which is why it is so important to know when the narcissist is about to discard you. So that you can minimise the damaging effects it would otherwise have on you. Which is why I decided to create this video. So here are 5 signs the narcissist is about to discard you. 1. Devaluation. They will devalue and degrade you. They will humiliate you in public. They will make personal attacks. They will judge and criticise you. They will target your self-esteem. Because your supply is starting to lose its potency. They're no longer idealising you. They're starting to notice your flaws. And they see things in black and white. Where something is either all good or all bad. Perfect or flawed. 2. They will steal from you They will start taking things from you. You may notice that your money and possessions are missing. But if you confront them on it, they will gaslight you. They will deny it. Or they will withhold it from you. Because at this point, they don't care about what you think of them. They're not planning on sticking around. So your opinion doesn't matter to them. They don't care about how you feel. They're only concerned about their own interests and needs. 3. They will complain They will complain about anything and everything. They will be petty. They will make a big deal out of things that are of little importance. Things that they didn't notice before. They will find faults in everything you say and do. Until you feel like you can't do anything right. Which is exactly how they want you to feel. Because when they finally discard you, they want you to blame yourself. 4. They will start a smear campaign A lot of people don't notice this before the discard. But if you pay close attention, the smear campaign has already begun. They're already making false and damaging statements about you to family and friends. So that they look at you differently and blame you. The narcissist will lie. They will make false accusations. They will show you in a bad light. So that everyone sees you the same way. 5. Passive aggression They will indirectly express their negative feelings about you, instead of openly addressing them. They will be indifferent to you. Because at this point, they're done with you. There's nothing they need to say. They've already made up their minds. And there's nothing you can do to change their perception of you. So all you're going to get from them is hate. Or they may just give you the silent treatment. And this may last for a few weeks or months, until it's finally over. Until you're left to take the blame for them leaving you.
As though you left them with no other choice. Because you're not good enough. You're unloveable. You're not deserving of them. That's how they want to make you feel. Because they're selfish. They don't care about you. They don't care about how them discarding you makes you feel. They don't care if you're losing your mind and trying to figure out what you did wrong. That's exactly what they want you to do. They want to leave you broken and in a state of confusion. Where you don't know what's going on. Where you're longing and yearning for them. That's a narcissist's ultimate desire. To have you still desiring them, even after all they've done to destroy you.
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