Why Narcissists Want To Stay FRIENDS With You

Even when the relationship ends, a narcissist may still want to stay friends with you. In my opinion, this is very strange because I don’t believe you can truly stay friends with an ex. Staying connected to an ex often holds you back and prevents you from moving on. However, when a narcissist wants to stay friends, there’s always a reason behind it.

Narcissists may also stay in touch with their other exes. But if you’re reading this, it’s unlikely they would want to stay friends with you because you already know what’s going on. You’ve seen beneath their mask, and narcissists don’t want to be around anyone who knows who they truly are. However, you may still have doubts or second-guess yourself, which could leave the door open for them to stay in your life.

Narcissists are not concerned about rekindling relationships. They don’t care about love or connection. Their primary motivation is attention and validation. They see their exes as a means to get what they want, whether it’s emotional support, admiration, or even material benefits.

Often, narcissists leave their exes without closure. This leaves their former partners seeking answers and explanations for the narcissist’s behaviour. This confusion makes it easy for the narcissist to return without taking responsibility for their actions. They’ve often brainwashed their exes into believing they were the problem, which allows the narcissist to come back whenever they please.

Narcissists don’t want to put in the effort to build meaningful relationships. They want something easy and convenient. They may even leave you for one of their exes as though you never existed, despite promising you a future and claiming to love you. This behaviour reveals the truth: they were never truly connected to you or concerned about building a relationship.

For narcissists, relationships are transactional. They only care about what they can get in the moment—attention, validation, or resources. They don’t invest in their partners because they know the relationship won’t last. Once they’ve drained you of everything you have to give, they’ll move on to someone else.

Narcissists often struggle to find new “supply.” It takes time and effort to find someone they can manipulate. They need to study their new target’s body language, facial expressions, and triggers. This is why they may want to stay friends with you—they know you, and you may still have something to offer them.

However, if they can’t manipulate or control you anymore, they won’t come back. This means you’ve won. You’ve defeated the narcissist by refusing to play their games. Don’t worry about who they’re dealing with now. Narcissists only surround themselves with people who fall for their manipulation, not people they value or respect.

It’s important to recognize that narcissists view people as objects to be used. They don’t value relationships or connections. If they want to stay friends, it’s not because they care about you—it’s because they see you as a convenient source of attention or resources.

To protect yourself:

- Set clear boundaries and stick to them.

- Avoid engaging with them, even if they try to manipulate you.

- Focus on your own healing and growth.

Remember, you deserve relationships that are built on mutual respect, trust, and care. A narcissist cannot provide that, so it’s best to let them go and move forward with your life.

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