The narcissist always criticized you and put you down. They devalued and degraded you. They treated you as unimportant. As though you were worthless and beneath their consideration. As though you were less than other people. And this may make you want to prove them wrong. It may make you want to prove that what they said about you was incorrect. You may want to prove to them that you're better than they think you are. You may try to win them over. You may try to gain their acceptance. Because you want them to respect you.
So you may try to become something better. But it's not going to change anything. You're just expending effort with no result. You're wasting time doing something that doesn't achieve anything. Because no amount of money, power or success is going to change how the narcissist feels about you. It's just going to make things worse. It's going to make things even more dangerous for you. Flaunting your achievements and success is not going to make them like you. It's not going to make them approve of you. And it's not going to make them accept you.
The narcissist pushed you away by being unpleasant and unfair to you. They made you feel like you're not good enough for them. They made you feel like you're nothing. So you may think that if you become something, they will realise how amazing you are. You may think that if you become showy, flashy, glamorous or virtuous, then maybe they will accept you. But it never works out that way. Because they don't hate you for something you don't have. They didn't reject you for something you lacked or for something that you were deficient in. They bullied, hated, and rejected you because of the things that you do have. Because they're very envious and jealous. And that is why they isolated you.
That is why they pulled you away from your friends. That is why they pulled you away from your hobbies and interests. That is why they destroyed your goals and dreams. Because they despised everything that you do have. They despised everything that is good about you. Everything that made you who you are. Everything that made you free from their control. People don't hate on others for things they don't have. They don't hate on people who don't have money, a job or a place to live. The narcissist didn't resent you for things you don't have. They resented you for everything you are. Everything you have. Your money and possessions. Your friends. Your personality. They resented you for that. So everything that you have. Everything that you achieve and obtain will just make them hate and resent you even more.
If you become something better and greater, they're not going to stop and accept that they were wrong. The last thing they want to see is you getting more money and more friends. It's just going to make them even more mad and frustrated. They are resentful of anything that makes you free from their control. Anything that causes you to not depend on them for your livelihood. Because they see those things as a threat. Your hobbies and interests. Being liked, admired and supported by other people. Your money and possessions. It destroys them. It makes it difficult for them to control you. So no matter how much you achieve and obtain, they're not going to accept you. They're not going to change their mind. It's just going to make them worse than they were before. So don't ever try to gain their acceptance. Because they just want to control you.
They just want to maintain their authority over you. So if you're becoming successful, you should keep everything hidden from them. You should only share it with people who support you. Because it's not going to change how the narcissist feels about you. Nothing good is going to come out of it. And you shouldn't be doing it for them anyway. You should be doing it for your future. They shouldn't be involved in it. Because they're just going to keep you off balance. So don't display your achievements and success to the narcissist. Stay away from them. Continue on your path to purpose. Fulfil your potential and go beyond the limits of your capabilities.
My ex narcette had it made. Had it so good she will likely never have it that good again, ever. She settled for less, the greener grass was due to a septic tank leak