This Is Why The Narcissist Is So DIFFICULT To Deal With

This is why the narcissist is so difficult to deal with. It's no secret that narcissists are challenging. They're not easy to please or satisfy. They're awkward and often cause hardships and problems. Dealing with them requires a lot of effort and skill. Almost every interaction with them results in inconvenience, unfavourable outcomes, and inappropriate behaviour. They can be unfriendly, troublesome, stubborn, tiresome, exasperating, and demanding. It takes a lot of physical effort and brainpower to deal with them because they're just difficult to get along with. However, they often portray it as though it's something to do with you—as if you just don't get them, don't give them the right attention, or fail to understand them. They make it seem like they don't have narcissistic traits or have never had these particular experiences before, but that couldn't be further from the truth. They experience conflict with almost everyone they deal with because they're very unpleasant and disagreeable.

They're very insecure, so they feel the need to oppose you to gain power and control over you. In actuality, this behaviour just sets them back. It never results in a favourable outcome for them, and they tend to become even more bitter and resentful as they age. Yet, they always find a way to pin the blame on their target. They gaslight you, making you believe that it's your fault. You end up jumping through hoops to please them, but nothing you do is ever good enough because they can't be satisfied. They have internal conflicts and mental struggles that were never resolved.

I've noticed this from my own experience with many narcissists. Each time, it amazed me because I've managed to connect and relate to millions of people around the world—not just through my videos and coaching sessions, but also through my travels to 12 countries, including those where English is not the first language. I've rarely ever had an issue communicating with anyone. But with the narcissists I've dealt with in my personal life, there was always a misunderstanding. I was always blamed and accused of doing something wrong, and it just didn't make any sense to me because I never had any difficulty communicating with anyone before. But this is just how it is when you're dealing with narcissists.

You will never experience a deep connection with them. You will never experience relatedness or personal intimacy, even though you may have experienced it many times before you got involved with them. When you're involved with a narcissist, it will be a very different experience, and most of the time, it won't make any sense. Even if you're not dealing with someone with full-blown NPD, it could just be someone with narcissistic traits. Even then, they're still toxic and unable to connect on a deep level. It's because they have an inability to connect to themselves. They lack defining characteristics, abilities, likes, dislikes, a belief system, and a moral code. They lack a unique identity that would otherwise set them apart from other people, which is why they lack the ability to understand, recognize, value, or react to certain things.

While you have a sense of self, a self-image, and a unique identity, which makes it easy for you to list your personality traits, abilities, likes, and dislikes, and adhere to a belief system and a moral code, they do not. You have your own unique personality, which distinguishes you from other people. You have a heart, the healing power of love, and a conscious space that allows for deep connection. You're able to listen to your feelings and understand what they are telling you, and things just feel right and align with who you are. This is why you may have already experienced some really good connections in the past. But with the narcissist, or even with someone who just has narcissistic traits, there's just nothing there. It doesn't exist whatsoever. In fact, when you're around them, you may feel more lonely than if you were alone because they have no sense of self. They detach from their heart space. All they have is this false character that they pretend to be. They don't understand their feelings; they don't even know who they are. They do have feelings, but their feelings are mostly negative, and they lack emotional intelligence and depth. This means they lack the ability to register, interpret, maturely and sensitively express, and skilfully respond to feelings that arise both in themselves and in other people around them.

They lack empathy and don't know how to process guilt. They suppress their emotions and pretend like everything is just fine and dandy instead of dealing with life and real human emotions. When they feel emotions that they don't want to deal with, they will seek narcissistic supply or indulge in addictions to distract themselves instead of dealing with what they're really feeling, which is typically guilt, shame, and low self-esteem. They use a false character to protect themselves from being human so that they don't feel what they need to feel because they don't know how to deal with their own emotions. So, of course, they're not going to be able to manage yours. They're missing the key component of a human being—they lack empathy, which is what separates a normal person from a person with a mental illness or personality disorder.

It's why it was likely so stimulating and revitalizing for you when you found my videos. It was probably pleasantly different and interesting compared to what you're used to dealing with, as it intends to impart strength, energy, and vitality. Through my videos, I'm able to share my love with you by being comfortable with my own feelings and emotions, which is something that narcissists are not able to do. So, you're never going to have a great connection with them. It will always be superficial, and you will never feel like you understand them because they have a void. They're disconnected from themselves, so they can't even experience real happiness or joy, and they may not even be aware of it because they are more focused on control to regulate their emotions. This means they won't want anything to do with anything that makes them feel out of control. Instead, they will suppress how they feel, which is why they always seem so angry or miserable. They may often show a lot of resentment and may even try to sabotage the relationship because it makes them feel insecure as you press them for a deeper connection.

This is something that we are taught in childhood—we're supposed to connect with our parents or whoever is around us because that is how we learn empathy. But we may also find that we have to learn certain things as adults because we were raised by parents who weren't capable of teaching us those things because they weren't taught or they didn't heal their wounds. This is why many of us may be experiencing generational trauma—these emotional wounds that accumulate over time and continue to be experienced by subsequent generations unless someone finally breaks the cycle.