5 Things You Do That Narcissists HATE THE MOST!!!

Narcissists are all about themselves. They're self-absorbed and lack empathy. They see people as objects that exist to meet their needs. So, of course, it's very frustrating and disappointing for them when you do certain things because they want you to be under their control like a puppet on a string. They don't want you to have a mind of your own, think for yourself, or make your own choices and decisions. While it may be in your best interest, it may be unfavourable for them. Therefore, they try to manage anything that might put them at a disadvantage.

Typically, whatever is good for us is going to be bad for a narcissist, which is why they want to manage and control everything that you do. There's rarely ever a mutually beneficial aim or result with a narcissist. They will typically want the opposite of whatever you want. They like to go against the grain because they see it as a source of power where otherwise they would have none. This is why there are always going to be things you do that they hate. Here are five things that they hate the most:

1. When You Fail To Make Them Feel Special

Narcissists hate it when you make them feel ordinary, common, or usual. They want to feel special and unique. They want to stand out and be better and greater than other people. They strive to be different and superior. The last thing they want is to be treated the same as everyone else. If you fail to make them feel special, you will see a very different and darker side to them. They may begin to act out and do anything in their power to grab your attention because the last thing they want is to be ignored. Their disorder is characterized by a need to feel seen, where people are aware of them and recognize them as different from everyone else due to some readily noticed feature or characteristic.

2. When You Reject Them

The last thing a narcissist wants is to be rejected. Nothing hurts them more than rejection, where they feel as though you don't accept them or if you dismiss or refuse their proposal or idea. This is a soul-crushing experience for a narcissist. Although they may never tell you or show it, they actually want nothing more than to be loved, wanted, and needed. The last thing they want is to feel like they don't matter to you. If you reject a narcissist, it will often cause a narcissistic injury followed by narcissistic rage. In that moment, there is no telling what they might do because they will do anything just to feel like they matter and exist.

3. When You Set a Boundary

If there's one thing narcissists can't stand, it's boundaries. They hate being told no. They want to be able to do whatever they want, whenever they want, without having to consider your feelings or experience. Because they're arrogant and entitled, they feel like they should be able to have or do whatever they want. They don't think they should have to answer to you because, in their minds, you're their subordinate. You're meant to listen to them and submit to their demands. You're not meant to tell them what to do because, in their minds, they're greater than you. They see that as an attack on their character and may seek to harm you in return for what they perceive to be a slight or insult.

4. When They Lose Control of You

Narcissists always want to be in control. They want to have the power to decide the way in which something will happen or the way in which you will behave. They want to exercise restraint and direction over you. They want to dominate and command you because they're very insecure. They're uncertain and anxious about themselves and feel they're not enough. So, they become very possessive and controlling, wanting to restrict or contain you. The last thing they want is for you to be free, able to act as you wish without being under their control, and having the full right to make your own decisions. This would trigger them to reflect on their own insecurities and reveal just how out of control they are because they depend on you as a source of their stability, security, and order. You're the glue that holds them together. Without you, they would fall apart.

5. When You Abandon Them

Narcissists hate when you cease to support or look after them, when you leave them without help or assistance. They do not look at what they did to you or what caused you to want to leave them. All they're concerned with is your reaction to the abuse, not the abuse itself. This is why there's really no winning with narcissists. They believe that they should be able to do whatever they want without consequences. While you are responsible for everything you do, even if you were excessively pushed and provoked, they still won't see themselves as having anything to do with it. This makes them very dangerous people to be around, and it also makes them very dangerous when you abandon them. They have an overwhelming fear of being abandoned. When you abandon them, they fear losing control, and it cuts off their supply. It's like there's no air, and you're taking that oxygen mask away from them. So, they want to lash out at you and destroy you because they see it as though you belong to them. They see you as an object that exists to serve them. They do not see you as separate people with your own wants, feelings, and needs. They expect everything to revolve around them. So, when you do try to separate yourself from them, they feel like they're in a fight for their lives.

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