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The Narcissist Wants To Dehumanize You

The narcissist will strip away everything about you that makes you human. They will deprive you of positive human qualities. They will manipulate you into accepting behaviours that you would otherwise recognise as immoral or unfair. There is no regard your well-being, feelings, needs or your boundaries. The narcissist does not recognise you as a separate being with your own thoughts and feelings. You are an object or an extension of them. A negative extension of which all of their negative traits and trash is dumped on to. If you confront the narcissist and make them aware that you find their rules and behaviours to be immoral and unfair, they will always have justifications or excuses. But there is no justification.There is no excuse. You are human and they have no right to dehumanize you. But this is what they are trying to do. The narcissist wants to dehumanize you. It gives them a sense of power and control. It gives them narcissistic supply. Any time that the narcissist reduces you to being a single characteristic, they are dehumanizing you. They may also be projecting their own insecurities or flaws on to you. Of course, they are not going to accept responsibility or accountability for this either. Narcissists cannot self reflect or look within. They do not acknowledge what they have done wrong, which leaves them unable to learn or grow. This is why they are arrested at such an emotionally immature state. They will deny any responsibility or accountability for their premeditated dehumanization process. They will shift the blame on to you. Now you must accept responsibility and accountability for the result of everything that they have done to you. And when you think about it, it really makes no sense. Narcissists are very controlling people, they have to be in control of everything. So you might be thinking, how could they possibly come to the conclusion that with all of their control over you, you are still responsible for their actions? But as illogical as it may sound, it somehow makes sense in their minds. Deep down they know that they have guided you through their dehumanization process. Using manipulative tactics, forms of mind control and gaslighting. But they can never acknowledge this fact, because they have to protect their image, their reputation. Narcissists have to portray themselves as this flawless character who can do no wrong. They cannot accept responsibility for anything, it is too painful for them. Dehumanisation is a part of the cycle of abuse in your life. You were dehumanised as a child by your narcissistic parent or caretaker. What helped you to defend yourself and survive through your childhood can often become a handicap, now that you have reached adulthood. Narcissists are sadistic emotional predators. They sniff out and then target your vulnerabilities. The narcissist will take control of your body, mind and soul. Depriving you of your positive human qualities. Stripping away everything that makes you human. The narcissist will sabotage your career. You are not considered to be human, so you do not need to work. You do not need to make money. The narcissist will give you scraps here and there. Like putting fuel in a fuel tank. Or feeding a cat or dog. When you are starving, the narcissist will feed you. You do not need any food of your own. But you can be sure that what the narcissist does give you, will be the bare minimum. The narcissist will isolate you. They will do this by sabotaging your friendships and relationships. Enforcing flying monkeys and creating a smear campaign. You are not considered to be human. So you do not need friends or relationships. Only humans need that, you are not considered to be human so it doesn't matter. The narcissist will sabotage your hobbies and interests. They will tell you that you don't make any time for them and you are selfish by spending time on your hobbies and interests. They will also criticise your talent and performance and make you believe that you are useless and you should just give up on whatever it is you are trying to accomplish. You are not considered to be human. So the narcissist is thinking... "Why do you need to hobbies and interests? Fun? You don't need to have fun, you are not human. You are an inanimate object. You are a robot built to serve me. To give me the attention and validation that I need. Anything else is irrelevant. Your desires, needs and wants... your satisfaction and fulfilment, your happiness... How does that benefit me in any way?" The narcissist has to dehumanize you so that they can keep all of the sources for themselves, for their mission. Your purpose in life is only going to interfere with their plan for themselves. So you have to be objectified. You have to be seen as a pet, a robot or a slave. You are there to serve the narcissist. You are there to give them attention and validate their image. You are there for them to step on, so that they may achieve their goals and dreams. Your purpose is to support the narcissist and watch them, as they enjoy their lives. The narcissist doesn't consider that you need to be happy, satisfied or fulfilled with your life. Because the narcissist doesn't consider you as a human. Over time you will find that you no longer have anyone you can talk to. Your empathy is eliminated as you cannot remember what it is like to emotionally connect or be vulnerable with someone. Love becomes a distant memory. Sex becomes a chore, a process, to serve and pleasure the narcissist while you feel drained and exhausted. If the narcissist doesn't want to have sex, they will not consider you. In fact, any kind of affection. If it doesn't serve the narcissist, if it doesn't make them feel how they want to feel, it is not going to happen. You are not human, remember. Everything you do is designed to serve the narcissist. So if they don't want it, they will withold sex from you. Further dehumanising you to the point where you become a lifeless robot. Your true self, your identity, all becomes a distant memory as the narcissist gradually deprives you of everything that made you, you. You stop doing all of the things you used to love doing. The things that made you who you are. The things that created your identity, your personality. It may have been art, sports, writing. Whatever it was, the narcissist had to sabotage it. They were envious of your satisfaction and fulfilment with your hobbies and interests. They were jealous, because they felt that these hobbies and interests were taking you away from them. Same thing with friendships and relationships. They were envious of your happiness in those friendships and relationships. And they felt jealous, as though they were taking you away from them. The narcissist is thinking "You do not need to have your own hobbies and interests. Why waste your time, you're not going to be one of the best, so what's the point. You do not need friendships and relationships. You do not need the attention, the validation or the love.

And you should not be giving your time and attention to these people. That time and attention is meant for me. You are alive to serve me. You do not need anything of your own". By the end of the dehumanization process, you are left with nothing. Your friendships and relationships have been eliminated. You have been pushed to give up on your dreams. Give up on your hobbies and interests. You might be out of work and have no motivation to start work again. The narcissist may have drained you of your finances. And drained the life out of you. Deprived you of your positive human qualities. Leaving you lifeless and miserable. Sound familiar? Yes, the narcissist is known to be lifeless and miserable. The narcissist is known to lack real positive emotions. They cannot experience genuine happiness, love or a deep emotional connection. They do not feel empathy or consideration for you. They can never be satisfied or fulfilled with anything in life. It seems that the narcissist's envy of you has driven them to take away the very qualities that make you who you are. If they can't have those qualities, then why should you? If they can't have those hobbies and interests, if they can't have that career, if they can't have those friendships and relationships, or that money... then why should you? Anything good or positive you have is only a reminder to the narcissist of everything they failed to achieve. Your positive qualities and interests caused a narcissistic injury. It triggered them to hate and envy you. And that is why they had to strip away everything that made you human.

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Jun 03, 2021

I'm almost in tears when I read this, because when I left a narcissist last year, I spent a long while feeling like I wasn't human, but rather, a despicable beast. An animal. It took me so long to heal from this. I had my sister, who is my guardian angel, and thanks to her, most of my wounds healed and I regained my soul and humanity. Now I'm dumping bit by bit my rage against him, hoping that someday I can feel like I got over it. Can't wait for that day to come.

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