The Narcissist's OBSESSION With You NEVER FADES

When you reject a narcissist and go no contact, it doesn't mean it's all over. Rejecting a narcissist causes a narcissistic injury—an emotional trauma that overwhelms their defense mechanisms and devastates their pride and self-worth. They feel like their self-image has been criticized, slighted, or insulted. After you challenge their inflated sense of superiority, specialness, or entitlement, they become obsessed because they can't hook you or attract your attention.

Narcissists lack empathy, so they don't have the capacity to be attracted to a person because of their character or personality. They're fixated on you because they can't love bomb you or get you hooked. This may be something they've never experienced before because narcissists are often charming and charismatic—they're the life of the party and usually get their way. When you stay resilient and quickly bounce back, they see you as a project they're determined to complete. It's not because they're attracted to who you are as a person; they're just obsessed with getting your attention to maintain their fragile ego and false self-image.

They become preoccupied and immersed in thoughts about you, fixated until they have no choice but to stalk you. You don't want anything to do with them, so they have to go the extra mile. This may not make any sense to you because you've made it clear that you're not interested. However, in their mind, they've decided to make something unimportant applicable and relevant to you.

Narcissists develop an obsessive attachment to you, even when you wouldn't normally have anything to do with them. They focus on something that wouldn't normally be relevant or appropriate to them to continue their toxic behaviour. They may come up with justifications for their actions, but their reasons are invalid and don't align with their behaviours.

They're experiencing psychosis—an unshakable delusion where they've lost contact with reality. They believe in things that aren't true. Every stalker has a mental illness, suffering from emotional disturbance or agitation. They're excited about stalking you but may also feel nervous about the outcome, giving them a thrill. It's like an emotional roller coaster, alternating between excitement and disappointment.

Stalking becomes addictive and causes dependency. The more they do it, the more they want. It escalates and becomes normalized, but it's never enough. They can't leave things alone because they've come up with ideas in their mind and reasons for their actions. Like many addicts or alcoholics, they don't realize they have a problem or see the harm they're doing.

Narcissists invest so much time into something that doesn't serve any purpose. They've developed an unhealthy and compulsive preoccupation with you. Their obsession is marked by great excitement, euphoria, delusions, and overactivity. They may align themselves with others to be wherever you are, whether on social media or in person. They might implant spyware on your computer or phone, place a tracking device on your car, or monitor you through spy cameras in your home.

There's no depth a narcissistic stalker won't go to. They need to have influence and control over you. Their mental illness draws them to it. They share traits with narcissists and histrionic personality disorder, always seeking attention and approval. They prefer to operate behind the scenes, remaining hidden, especially after being rejected.

Narcissists may display resistance as though they're not interested in you, but they gain pleasure from watching and observing you when they think you're not looking. They may derive enjoyment from seeing you in pain and distress. Some are sadistic, deriving pleasure from inflicting pain and humiliation, whether on you or themselves.

Stalking is a serious criminal offense. It's typically those who are unemployed or don't have enough paid work who engage in stalking. They lack discipline and planned activities, have too much free time, and get into trouble. They're unproductive and not achieving anything, investing time into things that don't benefit them. They don't have a meaningful purpose or satisfying life, full of resentment, bitterness, and regret.

If they put the same amount of energy into their own lives, they wouldn't be stalking you. They'd be too busy and preoccupied with other things. Stalkers are failures, unsuccessful at life, and delusional because their reality isn't how they want it to be. They don't know how to create or manifest the things they desire, so they form a crazy system of ideas and ideals in their minds, and then their campaign of stalking begins.

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