The DARK SIDE Of EXPOSING A Narcissist

The narcissist was subjected to certain treatment or information as a child. They saw too much and knew too much. Perhaps they saw their parents in danger or distress, experienced traumatic events, or witnessed things that were deeply damaging and disturbing. They were told that it was bad.

They witnessed the reactions on other people's faces and felt their fear and shame, knowing something was wrong. This is how it all began. It made them decide to create a false character to protect themselves because they believed the world was not a safe place. They believed they were at risk of danger or harm.

When you try to expose a narcissist, people will create false characters to defend themselves, often turning against the real victim. This can amplify traits they already had, which can be very dangerous. Exposure to unwelcome or unwanted things can cause serious damage, leaving an impact on people's minds to the point where they may never be the same. Sometimes, it's better not to know and to prevent people from exposure.

A good example of this is what narcissists and victims of narcissistic abuse likely experienced in childhood. They saw their parents angry or upset, fighting, and always complaining. Those of us who became empaths had our parents leaning on us for emotional support, while narcissists were never trained to feel their emotions, becoming detached from themselves. They were taught that it's not about who you are or what you feel, but what you do or achieve and the image you present to the world. This traumatized them as children because they were too young to understand.

They couldn't fix or help their parents, or they didn't step in because they were told it was unimportant and not their role. They didn't need to have empathy. The narcissist felt hopeless and helpless, incompetent and ineffective, as though things were always outside of their control. They learned there was no need for empathy, compassion, or understanding. They deferred with fear and shame because they felt like nothing they did was good enough. Instead of focusing on others and trying to help them, they became more self-absorbed, focusing on what they could control and trying to protect themselves emotionally because they felt everyone was out to get them.

These experiences opened their eyes, causing them to become more aware but without a suitable solution. They developed unhealthy coping and defense mechanisms, becoming paranoid and hyper-vigilant, always on guard. They created a false character to protect themselves from fear and shame. Because of this unnecessary exposure in their childhood, they cannot be real or authentic; they've lost that part of themselves.

For us, that part was nurtured and encouraged, which is how we became empaths. Our parents or caretakers were emotionally dependent on us, and we felt like we had to step in and fix them. Narcissists, however, were never appointed for this role. They were taught that the world is dangerous, people are manipulative and deceptive, and you always have to be two steps ahead to survive. It's a dog-eat-dog world, survival of the fittest, every man for himself.

This sets them up for a life of disconnection and detachment from themselves and everyone else. They seek power and control rather than love, intimacy, and connection because they were taught that people can't be trusted. They believe love is for fools and a weakness. They create a false character to protect themselves, never experiencing genuine interaction. Everything is scripted and rehearsed, based on what they've learned from their parents, caretakers, movies, or celebrities. They don't want to be seen as stupid, which was probably the biggest mistake they made in their lives. Now, they will never experience true intimacy and connection, love, or a real relationship. Everything is transactional rather than validational because they don't validate anyone; they only manipulate people to get what they want, resulting in them ending up with other manipulative people, enablers, and flying monkeys who support the illusion.

They may get married and have children, but deep down, they know these things never would have developed naturally. They know they had to trick people rather than being real and authentic, so they feel like they never experience real love. No one ever saw the real them or actually cared about them, which is why they keep people at a distance, too afraid of being hurt. Yet, they see that people are able to receive their false self and accept it as real, making them believe that maybe nothing is real and everyone is fake. If people were real, how would they be able to trick them?

They deal with people as needed for transactional purposes only, often disguising it as love because they know it's what other people want. Eventually, they often end up isolating themselves, and many of them die alone, unless they have enablers and flying monkeys who support the false narrative. They never experience anything real because they were exposed to the wrong things in childhood, so they end up rejecting the real ones. Healthy people desire something real, and all the narcissist has in this fake world is their false character.

Narcissists typically end up with people who are similar to them: lonely, needy, and desperate, lacking a sense of self, with no life of their own and no meaningful purpose. It's because they were exposed to the wrong things in childhood, in a vulnerable position, unprotected. Something bad or dishonest was made public, so they felt the need to keep themselves safe from harm by developing this false character and fake world to preserve what they believed was threatened against development. They believed what they had was bad and no good, nurturing the disorder, chaos, and dysfunction because they believed people could not be trusted and everyone was out to get them. They had to beat people to the punch, get them first, and by doing that, they were never in the moment, constantly planning ahead, never authentic, only manipulating others to get their needs met, all to protect themselves from further exposure.

The reality is that this was the very thing that damaged them the most. They were never the same after that because they were taught it was bad, not nurtured or encouraged, preventing them from experiencing the very things they need: true love and happiness. When a traumatic event or incident occurs, it should be recognized and dealt with logically and professionally, not emotionally or with intense feeling, unless the victim is processing these emotions on their own or with a licensed professional to heal. Actions need to be taken to prevent this incident from happening again.

When people are exposed to certain situations and believe there is no resolve, it's every man for himself. They have no choice but to create a false character to protect themselves, which is very damaging. They feel the need to become all-knowing and all-seeing, always two steps ahead of anyone they deem a threat, never in the moment, not even living, always outwardly focused, waiting for the other shoe to drop, getting you first.

When people are exposed to situations without professionalism or resolve, they become the very thing they despised, the very thing they were initially against. They become the predator, creating a false character to deceive people, and as soon as you catch on to the game, they get mad, deny it, deflect, or blame shift, then love bomb you again if they think you are susceptible. If that doesn't work, they discard you. If they think you're on to them and realize everything they do is fake, they triangulate you, making you think they have something real with someone else, but in reality, it's no different from what they had with you. They never tried to resolve things with you, so it's still ongoing. They cannot begin something new until the previous one is resolved, otherwise, they're just bringing past shame and trauma into the new relationship, based on what they did to you. How could it be real if that energy is carried forward into the next relationship?

They dump their negative emotions onto you before discarding you, thinking they're getting away, but the shame continues to grow within them, dictating every action they take. It's why they start smear campaigns and enlist flying monkeys to create a narrative of how you wronged them and how they had to get away. But that does not prevent the truth from being real. The truth will always prevail, regardless of what they think or what they get others to believe. It's why they often come back to the scene of the crime, knowing they have unfinished business, preventing them from moving on. They often come back if they didn't completely burn the bridge, trying to rekindle things with you, but all they do is run you through the cycle again because that's all they can do.

In many situations, it will have gone too far, so all they can do is sabotage your life, put out your light, and prevent you from experiencing what they can't. They see your life and energy as an irritant to their delusions, but it has nothing to do with you. It's because of the shame they feel from their actions, causing them to keep coming after you, starting smear campaigns, and trying to damage others' perceptions of you. They can't deal with the shame, trying to move on but can't, as long as they think you have opposing ideas and views of them, making them paranoid and hyper-vigilant, always out to get you.

In these situations, you cannot be real with them. You have to create a false character of your own, act friendly and agreeable even if that's not how you feel, because otherwise, it will affect you. But you should also avoid staying in these situations for long periods. Create an illusion of your own and leave at the earliest opportunity. Go in the opposite direction. Don't feed into it, or it will affect you psychologically. They will continue to do what they do, whether with you or someone else, but you can heal your traumas by recognizing you did the best you could, never intending to harm anyone. Nurture the side of you that is deserving of love and connection by recognizing you didn't do anything wrong. Let go of resistance or resentment, practice acceptance, forgive yourself, and let go of the need for revenge, recognizing they will get their karma. If you try to harm them in return, it will affect you more than them, eating away at you, making you bitter, and burying your authentic self. How could you love yourself knowing you committed those acts?

Narcissists know exactly what they're doing and understand the effects on you, so they are full of shame, unable to deal with it. Deep down, they know they are undeserving of love, knowing it's too late after everything they've done to you. By default, all you'll ever get from them is an illusion and a false character, and that's what you should give to them. They will only try to damage you for the shame they feel inside. Avoid participating in networks or smear campaigns, adopting their groupthink mentality or hive mind. It will prevent you from being your true authentic self, brainwashing and indoctrinating you, changing your beliefs about yourself, others, and the world. It will make you more self-focused, distorting your perception of the world, affecting your relationships, making you think everyone is the same, only caring about themselves, narcissistic, and needing supply. It will prevent you from building relationships or connections with anyone, which is why you must always discard them at the earliest opportunity. Don't try to find common ground or follow them, as it will only nurture negative traits within yourself. You may then decide to team up with someone against them, becoming an enabler or flying monkey yourself, or do it to keep the peace with the narcissist or keep them off your back. The longer you're around them, the more they will indoctrinate you, and in time, you may feel you're becoming more like them.

Leave, take time to yourself, stay out of close relationships for at least a year, get to know yourself, who you are, what you stand for, and what you're passionate about. Identify your values and beliefs, find yourself again. When you do this and reintegrate into society, you will wake up to the truth. You will realize most people in this world are not being themselves, unable to connect to you or anyone else, brainwashed by music, television, movies, and social media from a young age. They don't know who they are, so how could they know you? They are whoever they think people want them to be, a concoction of different things they've seen in the past, not knowing how to receive, only how to be subjected to something. Most people today have no identity of their own. There was a time when different parts of the world had different traditions and cultures, different styles of clothing, and different types of foods. Now, everything is the same. People dress the same, do the same things, go to bars and nightclubs, drink alcohol, and many do drugs. Very few people meditate, self-reflect, heal childhood traumas, or even have an awareness of their experiences. Very few people are alive, just on autopilot, going through the motions, a shell of the person they used to be. Once you've healed your traumas, you may feel confident you can fix them and bring out their better side, but many are too far gone. You can't fix them, and trying will lead to trouble, getting caught up in their problems. Save yourself, continue doing what you do, focus on your passions and values, and what matters to you. Observe the circus for your amusement, not something to be treated seriously. It can appear convincing, but it's just meant to get your attention, with no deeper meaning or substance, just a means to an end.

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