How Narcissistic Parents DESTROY Their Child

Narcissistic parents can have a profound and often devastating impact on their children. The extent of this impact largely depends on the level of influence and control the narcissistic parent exerts over the child. Typically, the scapegoat child and the golden child are the most affected.

The golden child is seen by the narcissistic parent as exceptional and is expected to be extraordinary in every way, never making mistakes and always being perfect. In contrast, the scapegoat child is blamed and shamed for all the issues that arise. These roles can change depending on the narcissistic parent's emotional state, meaning not every child is raised the same, even within the same household.

Some children are more susceptible to abuse and manipulation. They may be more open to suggestion, more sensitive to what they see and hear, and more affected by their experiences with the narcissistic parent. Children are like sponges; they absorb information from those around them and imitate what they see. Unfortunately, when raised by a narcissistic parent, they learn the wrong things.

Narcissists have difficulty managing stressful situations and often fall back on unhealthy coping and defense mechanisms. Children observe these behaviors, leading to instability and a constant state of fight or flight. They seek comfort and security by imitating the narcissistic parent, often before they have developed their own personality or independence.

The narcissistic parent instills negative attitudes in the child, which become deeply ingrained. If the child is fortunate, they may find other sources of influence deserving of their respect and approval. However, most children imitate their parents, adopting their characteristics and behaviors. These traits are passed down, making it difficult for the child to learn healthy coping mechanisms and behaviors.

Narcissists lack boundaries and have difficulty regulating their emotions. They impose boundaries on others to control and harm them emotionally but do not believe they should limit themselves. This lack of discipline and self-control, combined with their need for emotional supply from others, means the child does not receive appropriate guidance or advice.

The long-term effects on the child can be severe. They may engage in behaviors that impair their progression and develop firmly fixed habits, beliefs, and attitudes that are difficult to change. Raised in a dysfunctional environment, these children may struggle to progress and may even develop mental illnesses or personality disorders. The influence of the narcissistic parent can spread like an infectious disease, affecting many people.

If you were exposed to a narcissist as a child, the damaging effects are likely to persist. It is not something that resolves itself or goes away on its own. The impact is pervasive and designed to spread, affecting the child's life in profound ways.

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