Why The Narcissist Will ALWAYS Hate You

The better you perform in life, the more the narcissist will hate you. Especially when you reach a point where most people would give up, it will only make them hate you even more.

But there is actually a fine line between love and hate. Their emotions of love and hatred can be closely linked. This has been scientifically proven because the same brain circuitry is involved in both extreme emotions. Some of the nervous circuits in the brain responsible for hate are the same as those used during the feeling of romantic love.

So, they are actually your biggest fan but can't bear to admit it to themselves, which is why they're so obsessed with you. It's why they can't stop hating you—because they can't stand that you are better than them in every possible way.

They try to make you feel bad all day, every day. But many of you may not catch on to it. You may not realize why the narcissist is hating you. In some situations, it may even be a person who hasn't met you but has already engaged in passive-aggressive behavior towards you. They've made it obvious that they don't like you because they're already aware that you are a good person. You're an empath, so they know that you will look for flaws in yourself.

They know that you will assume there must be something wrong with you because that's what empaths do—they try to be better by seeing things from the other person's perspective. Because they're experiencing cognitive dissonance, they want to make sense of this hate, which is not wanted or needed. When you do that, you may assume that you deserve to be hated, and you may give up on your dreams.

All the hate may motivate you; it may drive you to become better. But when someone is hating on you, you need to recognize that something is wrong with them, not you. They're just projecting their flaws onto you because they're too afraid to admit that they have flaws. This is why they will accuse you, lay the blame on you, and hold you responsible for everything. They're too insecure to see you succeed in life, so they will do everything in their power to bring you down to help them move away from the pain of feeling insecure.

This could be a relationship partner, a family member, or a friend. It could even be a boss or co-worker. In fact, it will typically be the people closest to you who show the most hate because they can't stand to see you succeed or chase your dreams. We're influenced most by the people we're closest to, so the last thing they want to see is you succeeding where they have failed. It will affect them far more than if they were to see that from a complete stranger. If they saw someone else do it, they wouldn't even care; they wouldn't give it any attention. But because it's you, it will eat away at them, and you will find that you become isolated from them. Although people might expect that it would bring you closer to them, it won't because they're very insecure, and you have succeeded where they failed. This reflects badly on them, shining a spotlight on their insecurities and deficiencies.

Feeling insecure or deficient in something isn't always a bad thing. It can motivate you to work hard towards something, or if it's something you can't change, it could be something you choose to accept. But narcissists don't want to work on themselves, or they feel that it's not only something they can't change but also something they can't accept about themselves. So instead, they choose to hate on you.

They're like zombies, unaware of their own thoughts and actions. They don't even know why they're doing it, as they lack self-awareness. But it's because they fail to do something meaningful with their lives. They have nothing to feel proud of, nothing special that they've accomplished. Yet they see you moving on and doing something with your life, so they try to bring you down in an attempt to move away from the pain of not doing anything with their lives. They see that you're happier and more successful than them.

They have very low self-esteem, so they get jealous of other people very easily. If you're around them long enough, they may eventually bring you down with them. When you're questioning yourself and becoming insecure, you start to look at life the way they do. These defeated, pessimistic types of people can only bring you down. They can't compliment or boost your confidence in yourself because they're not confident in themselves. They're very insecure; they feel inferior to you, so the last thing they want is for you to feel good about yourself because that's just going to make them feel worse.

But they're still making a conscious and deliberate choice. They may feel inferior to you, and that may be something they can't control, but they choose to hate. That is a conscious and deliberate choice because there is an alternative. They do have another option: to use your success as motivation to fulfill their own dreams. But instead, they choose to hate. They hate because they want to be you or they want what you have. They are your biggest fan, but they will never tell you that. They will never admit it. They will play their role as if something is wrong with you, but deep down, they know the truth. You're a better person than them, and they know it. They can't stand it, which is why they will continue to hate until the day they die instead of choosing to do something meaningful with their lives.

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