When The Narcissist Sees Your Strength, THEY DO THIS

This could be while you were still in the relationship or towards the end, but at some point, they begin to see your strength. Everything they do only ends up making you stronger, more able to withstand force and pressure. This eventually reverses the roles, affecting them more than they affect you.

Initially, they saw your strength, which is why they got involved with you. Narcissists are very insecure and need someone they can depend on for security and stability. They admired your strong qualities but, due to their insecurities, they were also afraid. This fear led them to devalue and control these qualities, making them feel powerful.

They get satisfaction from turning something good into something bad or something powerful into something weak. You had to have some level of power and strength for them to do that, which is why they attached themselves to you. Over time, they diminished your value, making you feel confused and uncertain.

When you begin to find your strength again, they don't like it because it makes them feel insecure. They will try to re-establish control by throwing tantrums or making excessive demands. At this point, you might give in to avoid conflict, which only reinforces their behaviour.

If you become strong and start standing up to them, they will begin to see you as a threat. They will fear that you are going to abandon them because they sense their control slipping away. To regain control, they might threaten to leave you or accuse you of lying or cheating, trying to establish a position of power and authority over you again.

When this happens, it will only get worse. They will accuse you of things, gaslight you, and do anything they can to weaken you and bring you back under their control. When they start doing these things, you need to recognise that it's time to walk away because they are not going to change.

When the narcissist sees your strength, it causes them to feel fear because they are very insecure. They may also envy your strength. If you refuse to give in to their demands, they will feel like they are not in control and that they don't have any authority. If you manage to stand up to them, they will feel humiliated, and it will bruise their ego.

They will try to regain their relevance by accusing you of something or by gaslighting you. They will make it seem like there is something wrong with what you are doing because they feel inferior. If that doesn't work, they will try something more covert and indirect. They will try to manage other people's impressions and opinions of you, discrediting you in every possible way. They will make up lies and won't even feel bad about it.

They may even pretend like everything is fine while secretly saying things about you behind your back. They want you to feel less important and proud, so they will try to find your weaknesses and failures, blowing them out of proportion as though they are the only things that matter. They will bring up things from the past as though they are still relevant today, no matter how much you have matured and changed, using them as an excuse for anything they do to you.

They will attack your weaknesses to make you question your own abilities and value, making you feel inadequate. The reality is that they are only doing this because they feel inadequate themselves. This is why they are so cruel and deliberately try to hurt you—they are very weak and afraid.

You need to avoid them at all costs because they will only drag you down and make your life difficult. You need to go no contact and focus all of your time and attention on your healing and recovery so that you can find your power and rebuild your confidence in yourself again.