When they realise it's too late after the time when something could or should have been done. When they realise it's not enough and not soon enough to make a difference. When the narcissist's action or event is too late, it is useless and ineffective. Because it occurs after the best time for it. It's too late for it to make a difference. It's always too little too late with them. It's always not enough of something that should have been provided earlier. They go from one relationship to another. They're always focused on other situations. Rather than attending to something which should be their priority. But they don't look at themselves. They blame everyone else. Because they're always the victim. They don't want to take accountability for where they find themselves. Which is why they don't grow and develop like a normal person. It may seem like the narcissist has realised they've made a mistake. They may give you false epiphanies and fake apologies. It may seem like they're trying to correct the situation. But that's only because they know that you won't accept them for who they are.
Narcissists feel like they should be able to do whatever they want. They feel like they should be able to treat you however they choose to. But then they want you to accept them for who they are. They want you to accept the things that they're doing. Or the things that they have done in the past. But when you see all of the things that they're doing. And you think about how they treat you. At some point you decide that you don't want to deal with them. This is when the narcissist realises it's too late. Because although the narcissist may say that the most important thing to them is their job or travelling. What really fulfils them more than anything is acceptance. People who support them. People who accept them for who they are. That's what a narcissist desires more than anything else. And that's what they expect from you. They expect you to accept everything they've done to you. They expect you to accept everything that they did wrong. And just act like it doesn't affect you. They expect you to accept them for who they are. As though you have no right to judge them. And this is why they will often discard you. Because they know that you don't accept them for who they are. And if you don't accept the narcissist, you're dead to them. They see you as a lost cause. If you're not going to validate the illusion, you serve no purpose to them. They want to have their cake and eat it too. They want to have or do two things that they desire, which are contradictory and impossible to have or do simultaneously. They want to treat you bad and yet still expect you to accept and support them. They want you to see them as anything other than what they are. They want you to see them as good people. Despite everything they've done to you. But when they realise it's too late, they know that you don't accept them. They know that they can't change the way you see them. But they see it as though there's something wrong with you. They see it as though there's something wrong with how you see them. They refuse to take accountability. They refuse to accept what they've done to you. It's all about what they think you're doing to them. If you don't see them how they want to be seen, in their minds that's an offense. They see it as an insult. As an attack on their character. Rather than accepting their contribution to your perception of them. But when the narcissist really wants to be with you. When you have everything they desire and want. But you refuse to support the illusion. You refuse to accept them for who they are. It destroys them. Because it's not often that they find that.
But when they see someone who has a bright future. Someone who is going somewhere. They want to stay with you. They don't want you to leave. But if you don't accept them and you don't support the illusion. They forced to accept that it's too late. Even though they may not take accountability for their actions. They're forced to accept that they can't change the situation. They can't change how you see them. But if you're not accepting them and you're not validating the illusion, you're on the right path. You should always see other things as being more important and more significant than the narcissist. Because they refuse to take accountability. And anyone who refuses to do that, should not be important to you. They should not hold any significance in your life. Because they're never going to change. They're only going to weigh you down and prevent you from being where you really desire to be.