THIS IS WHY Narcissists Manipulate You

All you will ever get from a narcissist is manipulation or an illusion. The reason why is because they have nothing else to give. All they can do is influence or control you in a dishonest way. They behave in a manner that is untrustworthy, deceitful, and insincere, intending to mislead you and cause you to have the wrong idea or impression.

It's the only thing a narcissist can give to you, but really, they can't give you anything at all. The illusion isn't anything of meaningful significance or about you. It's just an instance of a wrong or misinterpreted perception of a sensory experience. It's a deceptive appearance or impression, a false idea or belief, where they try to make you believe that there is more than meets the eye. They make it seem more complex, important, or interesting than it actually is, when in reality, it's very simple—it's just manipulation.

That is the only thing they can give to you, but they're not really giving you anything at all. You are choosing to go along with it. You are choosing to take the blue pill and enter the Matrix, but you could also make a different choice. You could choose to recognize it for what it is, and if you do that, you will immediately see a different side of them—a side that is closer to who they actually are.

Narcissists have nothing to give to you or anyone else. By default, all they can do is take because they have no sense of self. They have a void that they are constantly trying to fill. Sometimes they seek positive supply, such as flattery, praise, adaptation, and attention. Other times, they seek negative supply, such as fear and submission. They will only try to get positive supply from someone they deem to be a fool, someone who acts unwisely, someone they can trigger and deceive. They won't even try to get it from a powerful or intelligent person because they know they can't pull the wool over your eyes. You have too much knowledge and experience, so they will settle for someone who is unknowing and unaware, someone who is more responsive and receptive.

If they know they can't get positive supply from you, they may settle for negative supply, which they will obtain by devaluing or discarding you, triangulating you, or starting a smear campaign against you. This also feeds their ego and makes them feel powerful and important. It extracts power and energy from you, which they will harvest to attract their next source of supply.

Sometimes you may begin to question yourself. You may assume that it has something to do with you, as though you're not attractive enough or don't have much money. While narcissists often target the best of the best, you will also notice that they downgrade. They will choose someone who is far less attractive, someone who doesn't have their own car or home, as long as they are susceptible to manipulation and will stick around. They want a certain outcome and result—they want a person's full attention and focus, their validation. They will be utterly ruthless and determined in their attempt to achieve that, regardless of how wealthy or attractive you may be. They will manipulate people to get what they want without any consideration for the damage they cause because they have nothing to lose. All they care about is what they want, and they will do whatever it takes to get it.

Narcissists don't share the same attitude or perspective. They don't share the same point of view because they are all for themselves. They are only pursuing their own interests and are not interested in anyone else's well-being but their own. This is why they often come across as unfriendly, unfavorable, and lacking in decisiveness, without strength or character. They seem aggressive, brutal, competitive, fierce, and merciless because they are only concerned with serving themselves at other people's expense. They lack a motive response and have an inability to regulate their own emotions, which may often show up as mood swings or emotional dysregulation. They need people's energy and emotions, but they can only get that if you're willing to hand it over to them by being receptive to their manipulation and validating the illusion.

Narcissists feel entitled to lie to people, but if you're not willing to accept their lies, they won't want to be around you. They don't want to be challenged or confronted. They don't want to be held accountable. They feel entitled to lie because they have this false character they use to manipulate people, which they are also detached from. This is how it's so easy for them to discard you. They have no interest in you or anyone else. In their minds, they are superior to you. You're just following them for recreational use, for their own amusement and entertainment, as long as you're willing to go along with their games or until they find something better.

The more curiosity and concern you show for them, the more likely it is that they will keep you around, even though they have no interest in you. They have no interest in anyone. They lack the ability to be interested in someone, and there is nothing you can do to excite their curiosity or attention. They are only interested in themselves because, in their minds, they are greater than you. They believe they have you all figured out and know all they need to know. There is nothing you can do to uplift or inspire them. You may think you're causing strong feelings or excitement in them, but they are just pretending. They behave in a way to make it appear as though it's real when, in actuality, it's not. They feel nothing. They are not connected or attached, and in time, you will see that because they will begin to treat you as though you're not significant or important, as though you're worthless and beneath consideration. They will devalue and discard you.

They can only assign this illusion of significance to you, and in time, you will realize that you are expendable and disposable. You are able to be thrown away after use because they don't actually want you. They don't even see you. All they see is what you have and what you could bring to them, but they will never tell you this. They will hide it from you. But if you listen to the things they say and look back at their past relationships, you will see that they don't believe anything was ever their fault. They don't believe they have ever made a mistake. In their minds, it was always someone else's actions or behavior, even though they were the common denominator in all those relationships. Everyone says the same things about them. Everyone can see that they have no particular interest or sympathy. They are unconcerned. They show an attitude of patronizing superiority. They are arrogant and entitled. They are impolite and disrespectful. They habitually seek to harm and intimidate those they perceive as vulnerable. They show a desire to dominate and control people.

You can confront them and try to explain this to them, but they will always shift the blame onto someone else. In their minds, people are objects, just a means to an end. They are disposable, not something to be treated in a serious manner. You don't have to be sincere or genuine with them. You can deal with them in a way that lacks heart, spirit, or interest, as though you are superior to them. This is very easy for them to do because they lack empathy. They have no interest in bonding with people, spending time with them, or getting to know who you actually are as a person. They have no interest in growth or development, but they will go along with it and hide it from you. But something won't feel right. You will feel empty and confused as a result of the lack of connection. You may even fear confronting them because they are training you to be afraid of expecting to be treated with due regard for your feelings, wishes, and rights, with admiration for your abilities, qualities, and achievements. They think you're just something they can get rid of. They see you as something temporary. They think you're not going anywhere, which is why they feel entitled to say and do as they please without any consideration of the possible consequences, without any accountability, without considering how it might make you feel or how it might affect your children.

They see that you're trying to connect and wanting to get to know them. They will see that it's real, and they will play along with it, but they are not really serious about it. They don't mean what they say. It's not coming from their hearts, which is why, in time, you will begin to see the signs of their narcissism. You will recognize their negative traits. You will see that they are highly unpleasant and unenjoyable. They are unfriendly and bad-tempered, unpleasant and unattractive, arrogant and unforgiving. They are just not something you want to be around. You may not see it in the beginning, but in time, it will begin to surface because they don't mean anything they say. They are hypocrites. They put on a false appearance of virtue or religion. They may say they have particular moral beliefs, but they behave in a way that shows they are not sincere, while gaslighting you until you are too afraid to challenge or confront them or to call to prove or justify something.

There is always a double standard with narcissists. They will listen to everything you're saying, which may just be in response to what they're doing to you, and they will pretend like they care while holding you accountable, while twisting your words to persecute you, to harass and annoy you persistently, and subject you to hostility and ill-treatment. But they won't let you do that to them. They won't let you hold them accountable for their actions. In the process of denying you that right, they will target your self-esteem. They will make you feel less than who you actually are. They will make you feel clumsy or awkward, as though you're generally ineffective, when it's just the effects of what they're doing to you. They will make you feel like you're losing your mind. They will bring up things from the past. They will remind you of times when you had defects or flaws. They will remind you of your failed relationships. Everything you've shared with them will be used against you, and they will gaslight you into believing that they are your savior, your god, someone who can save you from danger, difficulty, or harm. This hero, this brave person who is going to rescue you, while they are putting you down, making you feel less than who you actually are, depriving you of the ability to function normally and confront them on anything.

They will lower you. They will make you feel like they understand you. They will tell you what you want to hear, but they don't mean what they say. It's not genuine, which is why, in time, they will gaslight you. If you try to hold them accountable, they will abuse and mistreat you. They will treat you cruelly and unfairly over a long period of time. They will punish you until you believe that it's just not worth confronting them, and you will feel drained and lifeless just from being around them, like you've just given up on truth and reality. You will become absent-minded, forgetful, and inattentive. You will experience retardation, as though it's delaying and slowing your psychological progress and development, and you will just give in. You will accept whatever they throw at you. You will agree to do what they want. You will accept their opinion. In the end, they will twist it around and use it to justify further persecuting you.

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