This Is When Narcissists Are MOST VULNERABLE

As difficult as it may be to believe, there are actually times when narcissists are vulnerable. I've seen it only a few times in my own experiences. It can be very rare, and it's more common with covert narcissists. However, in those situations, it isn't authentic; they will just resort to another form of manipulation to get their needs met. With full-blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), it is not only real but can be a very shocking, powerful, and unexpected turn of events, which can be positive or negative depending on whether or not it is in their favour. So yes, although it's quite rare, there are times when narcissists can be vulnerable. Knowing this can be very useful in negotiating with narcissists or getting them to comply with certain conditions or requests. With that being said, here are four scenarios where narcissists may be vulnerable.

Narcissists may seem well-protected, as though they're preserved from harm. They appear fixed, secured, stable, sheltered, in safe hands, guarded, or out of danger. They have a strong base, unfazed, unmovable, unreactive, emotionless, unfeeling, and unexpressive. They're just playing it cool, but that is actually when they're most vulnerable. It's when they're ready to snap at any moment or when they're about to leave their post because it's all a façade. If the right person or circumstances presented themselves to them, you would see a very different side to them—a side that you may have never seen before. They are usually so uptight, tense, and annoyed about something, making them difficult to be with. But it's all an illusion, a coping and defense mechanism. The feelings of anticipated pain, disappointment, and dissatisfaction make them hold on to their façade.

For covert narcissists, you just have to confirm that their thoughts, words, and actions are correct because all they really want is your approval. They want you to see them as special, unique, and a catch. They don't really care about you; all they care about is what you think about them. If you think of them in a positive way, they will open up and be vulnerable to you. On the other hand, overt narcissists desire admiration, arrogance, and fantasies of unlimited power and success. If a person can offer any of these things to them, you will see a different side to them. However, if their illusion is threatened, it will cause a narcissistic injury, and they may lash out at you. If their illusion is completely blown out of the water, they will crumble right in front of your eyes.

When you are too intense for an overt narcissist, when you overwhelm them, or when you defeat them by showing greater strength and power, they are in awe of your accomplishment. When they're attacking you, and yet you go on and hold them out or hold them to it and are ready to defend yourself, they may not have seen anything like that before. Most people usually back down against an overt narcissist; they don't have the courage or strength to go toe-to-toe. But when you do that, most often, they will back down. Although they may bark, they won't normally bite. It's just a front to intimidate you; it's all an illusion.

When the covert narcissist is playing the victim, it's because they see it as a source of power when all else fails. They use it to gain sympathy and to keep people at their beck and call. Deep down, they know they're not really victims; they know that they're manipulating you. They are opportunists, exploiting a situation to get their emotional or material needs met. If you confront them on it and call them out, it will catch them off guard.

When they're trying to entice you into sexual activity or attract you to a belief or course of action that is inadvisable or foolish, they are vulnerable to rejection, humiliation, and ridicule. They do it to feed their ego and meet their emotional needs. It's not authentic; they're not doing it to uplift you. It's still all about them. Anything that is all about them is characterized by disconnection and pure selfishness to gain something at your expense. They already know that what they're doing is wrong, which is why in these situations, they are very vulnerable to criticism or attack.

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