The ONLY REASON The Narcissist Comes Back

There's really only one reason why a narcissist will come back: they're going through hard times. Something has gone wrong.

Before they left you, they did things that were insulting and unfair, which is how you should know that they were already involved with someone else. They only talk to you that way when they don't need you because they've already got someone else lined up to take your place. They're entertaining someone else, and this new person makes them feel like they don't need to respect you anymore. They're already on their way out, so they begin to act recklessly and become more aggressive. This makes you wonder what caused those feelings and opinions, and what their motivation is for holding that position against you. But it's because they're entertaining someone else.

This new relationship gives them the courage and confidence to disrespect you. They feel like they can treat you however they choose because they don't need you now, so they don't care. This is why the disrespect is always followed by them leaving, because they've already made plans with this new person. They feel like they can treat you however they like.

You will see them moving on and trying to establish something with someone else, but they will still come back. Even after everything they've said about you, they will still be lurking in the shadows, as though they're waiting for something. They will still be checking in on you, and it won't make any sense to you because they already told you they're done with you, so you didn't even expect them to care.

But narcissists have to create a problem. They have to create an issue so that they can justify their reason for leaving you. They know that they've been doing you wrong behind the scenes, but they need to uphold their false image because they want to look like the good person. So they have to make it seem like it was something you did that caused everything, even though you may not have done anything wrong. They just thought the grass was greener on the other side. They were looking for the next shiny new toy and thought they had found someone who could replace you. So they created a state of fake disturbance, confusion, and uncertainty so that they could make the breakup happen more quickly. But that's not the cause of it. That's not what really went down. They were just so involved with this other person and felt pressured to do something because this other person wanted them to take action. It had an effect on them; it was too much for them to bear, so they had to go and cut you off. They had to move forward.

But when they did that, it was actually the beginning of their demise because things always look good in the beginning. But that's all that it was. Narcissists are addicted to the beginnings of something, and that's all that they're seeking. They're not interested in anything that happens after the beginning, which is why when things are about to move past that point, they will leave and try to start again with something new. They can't find fulfillment in anything further than that, which is why this cycle will always repeat itself. After they've been with you for a while, it will get boring. Even though you've done nothing wrong, that's actually part of the problem. The more practical and useful you are, the less attractive you will be to them. It will make them bored and restless, and they will want to seek something else because they need something new.

So then they will try to replace you. In the beginning, it may be fun for them, but when things start to get serious and it's time for them to invest more of themselves, they begin to realize that it's just the same thing happening again—the same thing that they just ran away from. They could have just stayed in the same place, but they went somewhere else because they thought they were going to get a better deal, but they didn't. So once the newness wears off and the fun is over, they start to think about you again. That is why they're monitoring your activities. That is why they're keeping you under observation. They know what they did to you; they know they did you wrong. But when they come back, they can say that they were always checking on you, that they were always thinking about you. But they weren't thinking about you when they were involved with someone else. They only came back because something went wrong. If everything is going well for them and they've got what they need, they will never come back to you. They will only come back if they need something from you or if they can use you for something.

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