The Narcissist KNOWS They're Exploiting You

Narcissists are not stupid; they know exactly what they're doing. They are aware that they are exploiting you just by being around you. They know they don't belong, which is why they are so covert. They hide themselves because if you saw the real them, you would run a mile. So, they give you a false character and manipulate you, all the while knowing they don't deserve you. They know you are out of their league, which is why they are drawn to you.

They are not drawn to people who aren't about anything. They want to be around the best of the best—people who make things happen. That is why they targeted you, because you are about something; you have power. But as you've probably already witnessed, they are not skilled or experienced enough to deal with you. They just manipulated you into a relationship, strung you along, and sold you a dream while knowing they could never make it a reality. They knew they didn't even have the means.

That is why the relationship moves to the devaluation phase so quickly. They start underestimating your worth and importance, putting you down, or treating you as though you're beneath consideration because they already know the opposite is true. They know you are too good for them. They know you could run circles around them and outperform them by a great margin. So, it's all about managing your perception of them and promising you something in the future while they are already making their exit plan. They know that even if they tried to accomplish something, you wouldn't be satisfied with the result.

They depend on manipulation so strongly because that's all they've really got. As I've said before, the best you will ever get from a narcissist is the illusion. When you press them for something else or something more, all they can do is distract you or divert your attention. They know they are out of their depth. They know what they're doing is very strange and foolish. They've put themselves in a situation where they are extracting so much value from you, but they could never reciprocate any of that back to you.

They've depended on their manipulation their entire lives, intending to mislead and cheat people. They are prone to behave in an untrustworthy and fraudulent way, unjustifiably claiming or being credited with particular accomplishments or qualities they haven't earned. They've never achieved anything in their lives, yet they have this arrogance and sense of entitlement as though they have a right to something. They believe they are inherently deserving of privileges and special treatment.

At some point, you have to take a step back and ask yourself what they have ever done for you that makes them so deserving of what you are giving them. If you look back, you will realize that you've done far more for them and that your life would probably be far greater and easier without them. They act as a hindrance to your progress and success. They provide resistance, delay, and obstruction. They are not improving your life in any shape or form. If anything, they are holding you back from being a better version of yourself.

You are giving your power away to them. You are giving them the ability to define you and make decisions for you, but they are not doing anything for you in return. They are just a leech, a freeloader, a bottom feeder—the lowest of the low. They are sponging off you, feeding from you, and taking advantage of your generosity without giving anything in return. Many of you make the mistake of assuming they are not reciprocating for a reason, as though you need to be better and do more for them. In fact, it's because they are incompetent and ineffective.

They know that even if they tried to accomplish anything, you wouldn't be satisfied with the result because it wouldn't measure up to even a fraction of what you've been doing for them. So, if they did one thing for you, you'd just be looking for the next thing. You'd be expecting something more. This is why the only thing they can do in this situation is not give you anything at all and instead switch it around and act as though you owe them or as though something is wrong with you or you're not good enough.

They never acknowledge who you are or what you've done for them. All the while, they are feeding from you. They never compliment or praise you because otherwise, you would instantly realize that you are making a big mistake by being around them in the first place. They are a liability, putting you at a disadvantage because you are dealing with a failure, a loser, a lowlife—someone who just talks but doesn't do anything for real.

The last thing they want is for you to start estimating their value or importance because then you would leave, which is not what they want. They need you far more than you need them. They trick you into believing that you need to depend on them by exaggerating their worth and importance while acting like you are nothing special. All the while, they are taking whatever they can get from you. They are fully aware that they are exploiting you. That's why they hide it, invalidate you, and leave you, then triangulate you with someone else to confuse you and make you question yourself.

This is also the reason for the smear campaign. It's all just to make you doubt yourself and your abilities when you've probably done far more for them than anyone did in their entire lives. You've done more for them than they could ever do for themselves, yet they get you to question your worth, which shows you how fake they really are. It's either that or they are completely delusional.

Even after they've drained you of everything you have and given you nothing back in return, and they've started a smear campaign against you, sometimes they will still try to come back. They will pose as though they are separate from it or as though they don't know anything about it because they are still not satisfied with the results. They are hungry and wanting more, so they see this tactic as a way to get in and gain more from you.

Even if you decide to leave them first or reject their hoover attempts, that's when you will see just how crazy and dysfunctional they really are. It will trigger their abandonment wounds and anxiety. Even though they never seemed to care about you while they were with you, they never talked to you. It was like you didn't even exist as long as they were getting what they wanted from you. But even then, they could never be satisfied. They always wanted something else or something more.

This is all just a disguise. They are not playing with a full deck because what they are really afraid of is having to go alone without you. They don't believe they can make it on their own. They are heavily emotionally dependent on you to regulate their emotions. They have this obsessive attachment to you, and just the thought of you moving on with the person you are and being able to start again really hurts them inside. They already know you are going to live a much better life without them. They know they are garbage and no good for you.

That's often the only reason why they are even there—because they know their presence imposes a hindrance on your life. They know that by default, all they can do is weigh you down. They know they are not going to be any good for you. Just look at their lives before you got involved with them. Their lives were in shambles, falling apart. You were like the only hope they had left, and that's the only reason why they are with you—because they have nowhere else to go. There may not be anyone else who wants them.

So, they are constantly coming around you and taking up your time because they have nothing else to do with theirs. Their time is not valuable, yet they come around you with no intention of building anything. Then we wonder why our lives have fallen apart—because we have a leech, a bottom feeder, the lowest of the low. This is why they are so controlling, because they are very insecure. They already know they are not worth anything, so it's all about managing your perceptions of yourself and of them. It's about minimizing your worth and accomplishments while exaggerating theirs. It's about brainwashing and indoctrinating you, making you believe things that are not true so that you can continue to keep them around, even while they are not serving you and your life is deteriorating.

Even though their mere presence is enough to burn something to the ground, they will desperately try to hold on to you. They will place financial hooks in you or take things from you. It's just a desperate attempt to form an attachment, to make you think you need them or should value them. Even then, they are still just doing it for themselves, to get something out of you. But even then, they are still not satisfied. It still isn't enough to complete them because they lack empathy, so they never fully attach to you. They can never fully experience you as a person. All they get are the crumbs, bits and pieces of you, which is not really what they want. They want to consume every inch of you. They want to become one with you and want you to become one with them, where there is no difference or separation, where the two of you are indistinguishable.

Deep down, they despise themselves. They want no part of who they are. They want to own you, to be an extension of them so they can live vicariously through you and how you see the world because that's far more fulfilling for them. But even if they did have you and could fully attach to you, you would get bored. You would realize there is nothing interesting or unique about them. You would realize they are just a carbon copy of you. Then they would end up mistreating you and running off to someone else, or you would likely get rid of them once you discover what you are dealing with.

These people are the scum of the earth, completely undesirable, the worst type of people to be around. That is why they are so obsessed with you—because you are like a lifeline for them. You are someone they depend on, someone who provides them with a means of escape. But they are no good for you. They are not even real people. They are missing the key components of what makes us human beings, which is why they are so needy and desperate. They will do anything to hold on to you without ever actually connecting to you or bringing anything of equal value or exchange to you. You will always get the short end of the stick because they feel inferior to you. They believe life is unfair to them. They feel like if they could just be you and live your life, then everything would be okay.

So, they try to take bits and pieces of you. They take up your time and energy, which is contradictory and doesn't fit their narrative. If you really dislike someone enough to devalue or discard them, you would probably want things to resolve very quickly. You wouldn't want to be around them. Yet, instead, they use every trick in the book to keep you along for the ride, leading you and stringing you along. They use denial, projection, blame-shifting, gaslighting, and even the double bind—whatever it takes. They are just desperate people who don't want to let you go.

They will drain you and take things from you to keep you holding on to them for as long as possible. They will even put you in a situation where you have to borrow something from them, leave things in your car or home, or falsely accuse you of something. All of these attempts to manipulate, control, and gaslight you only reveal one thing: they do not want to let you go. They need to communicate with you. They need your attention and validation. They need bits and pieces of you, which is why they can never let you know your worth. They can't even give you a thank you or merely acknowledge your existence because they typically hate and envy the very people they are trying to emulate. In their minds, it's unfair. They think they are more deserving of being you or having what you have. They always have some reason or excuse.

But they actually need you far more than you ever needed them. In fact, you never needed them. You would have been in a much better situation without them, and they know this. It's like you were taking care of an unruly child who couldn't meet their own emotional needs because they never had those needs met when they were children. So now you come around, and they appoint you to this parental role as though you are supposed to take care of them. They actually believe it gives them power and control when, in fact, the opposite is true. It makes them feel very insecure, to the point where they become very bitter and resentful towards you. It actually disempowers them, causing them to become less powerful and confident.

They assume confidence and a feeling of being in control of their lives by controlling you, but it just makes them even more insecure. While they think they have power and authority over you, who has authority over them? Who has the power to give them orders and enforce their obedience? They are not even doing that for themselves, which is how they are living a life with no purpose or direction. They have no mastery, no comprehensive knowledge, skill, or accomplishment. There is nothing that makes them superior. It's all in their mind. They are feeding off other people, and it has a very damaging effect on them. It disables them, renders them powerless, and makes them ineffective.

This belief that they are not enough on their own is what drives them. If they believed they were enough, they wouldn't need you, or they would at least find a way to reciprocate something of equal value back to you. But they can't because they are insufficient and inadequate. Even when they start a smear campaign against you, this belief just spreads. It becomes widespread because it's contagious and indoctrinates people into denying themselves their true power, which is the power to stand alone and be self-sufficient.

Whenever you see a group of people who aren't achieving or accomplishing anything productive and are just picking on an individual target, it's because they believe they are not enough. That's why there are so many of them—because they don't believe they are good enough on their own. They believe that more people means more power, when in fact, it just puts them at an even bigger disadvantage. All they have is more idiots, more fools, more people of low intelligence. Even when they are targeting you and isolating you, it just gives you the opportunity to blow them out of the water and further reinforce their feelings of inadequacy, which only makes them even more obsessed and addicted.

The last thing they are ever going to do is look at themselves for the answer. They already believe they are not enough, so why would they ever do that? They believe that whatever they are missing or deficient in is within you, so they hold on to you as though you are this messiah, this leader or saviour of their group or cause. At the same time, they never listen to you or take your advice. It's like they are completely blind to their own actions because they lack self-awareness. They can't see the forest for the trees. They fail to understand or appreciate a larger situation or problem because they are only considering a few parts of it.

That is why they are eternally doomed. Accountability is the key to our success, which is why we tend to discipline our children. We know that a lack of accountability and discipline will not lead them anywhere good. It's the same thing for these narcissists. They will hold on to their flying monkeys and enablers for as long as they can, but it will always get them in the end. They have no empathy or compassion for other people, including the very people they are using to attack you. If they even cared about their own people, they would never use them to do their bidding. They would recognize that they are just tearing communities apart, subjecting and exposing them to unnatural situations.

They resort to manipulation and gaslighting because something is eating away at them. They are very miserable, and this isn't something that just took place with you. It's not something that happened overnight. They were already that way to begin with. They just knew how to hide it and pretend to be normal. But they find these groups because they feel like they are not enough on their own. That's what it comes down to. They feel inadequate and defective. They feel insecure and look outside of themselves for tools to feel superior and all-powerful, which just ends up being a breeding ground for narcissism and even psychopathy. People are just doing anything they can to feel they are enough, more than enough, when they are never actually doing anything productive. They are just feeding off their target, which nurtures their narcissism even more because it encourages every trait of NPD in the DSM-5.

This isn't just in smear campaigns or gang-stalking. This is something that's being pushed on the youth through television and movies, social media, and dating apps. People are being encouraged to present a false version of themselves to evoke attention and admiration so they can feed off other people. In the end, it only disempowers them. Narcissism is not empowerment; it's disempowerment. It only leads to destruction. It may momentarily give them the opportunity to influence other people's behaviour and the course of events, but what about their behaviour? What about their future? Where is that going to lead them if they've already assumed that their power comes from controlling people outside of them?

This is why narcissists typically end up lonely and miserable. They are dissatisfied with their lives. They never find what they are looking for. It's as though they are just waiting for someone to save them, but no one ever does. Narcissism typically attracts other narcissists, so they are surrounded by people who are just like them, and their target wants nothing to do with them. It's a very lonely existence because they can't generate their power or energy from within. They end up chasing after a target who doesn't even want them, someone who doesn't even know they exist, yet they know everything there is to know about them. Their target is just going in the opposite direction, trying to get away.

Narcissists are so insecure that they often end up deluding themselves into thinking their target wants them. That's when they get obsessed and become stalkers because you are like their lifeline after everything has been destroyed. You are the only thing they have left.

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