The Narcissist HATES Your Physical Beauty

They hate your physical attractiveness. They hate your physical features. They despise that you may be aesthetically pleasing. They loathe your sexual attractiveness and desirability because it elicits envy and resentment from the narcissist. This is because it draws admiration from everyone else. The narcissist is jealous of your physical beauty. They wish they looked as pleasing and attractive as you do.

When you're in a relationship with a narcissist, they will turn you into a shell of who you used to be. Before you got involved with them, you had your own likes and preferences, your own desires and needs, and your own identity. But they destroyed it because they wanted to turn you into a puppet. Narcissists are hardwired to manipulate and control, like puppet masters, because it’s the only way they can get what they want. They also use this behaviour to protect their fragile ego, as they are deeply insecure, and to maintain their false image, as they lack the integrity to face the consequences of their actions.

This is why they feel the need to dominate and punish their victims. Narcissists are selfish, primarily concerned with their own interests and benefits, regardless of others. They groom and condition you, preparing and training you for the abuse. They turn you into a puppet by judging and criticising you in a cruel and unpleasant way. They are envious and jealous of you, so they want you to feel their pain. They want you to feel the absence of your qualities and characteristics, just as they feel the absence of what you have in themselves. They want you to feel how they feel. They want you to give up on yourself because they gave up on themselves a long time ago.

That’s why they have a false self. That’s why they are now manipulators and abusers. Being good, honest, kind, and genuine never got them the results they wanted. They were made to feel like they weren’t good enough, so they decided to take a different path—one of establishing power, authority, and control over people. What they were really seeking all along was love and acceptance. They believe they are undeserving of love and cannot receive it because their false self is in pursuit of power. They hate their true self, so they hate your true self. They believed their true self was not good enough to garner the admiration and respect they desired and craved.

When you start to find yourself again, you experience trouble, annoyance, irritation, and harassment. Narcissists are extremely insecure. They are shame-based individuals who do everything they can to avoid reflecting on their shame. This is why they will do everything they can to destroy your sense of self. Your sense of self resurfaces their shame, which they are trying to deny and suppress. Your sense of self causes them to feel humiliation and distress. It makes them feel like what they’re doing is dishonourable, immoral, and improper. This is why they want to deflect that shame onto you by criticising and ridiculing how you look and dress until you stop taking care of yourself.

They have to believe they’re better than you. This is why they orchestrate situations to reduce your confidence. They plan and coordinate events in a careful and secretive way to gain an advantage for themselves. This makes their delusions feel like reality. It makes their false opinions, ideas, and beliefs about you seem true, at least from their point of view. This is why they constantly express their judgments and opinions about you. They say mean things about how you look and how you interact with others until you begin to feel useless and worthless, as though you’re not pleasing or appealing to look at, or that you lack positive features that would otherwise make someone admire you.

Eventually, you start giving up. You abandon hope for yourself. You renounce certain activities or beliefs because you’re constantly being pressured and put down. It becomes the path of least resistance. You develop a lack of confidence in yourself, a fear of the future, and a lack of discipline. You may begin to expect fast results but lack belief in yourself. You may assume your problems are unique, dwell on mistakes, and fear failure more than you desire success. You may feel there is insufficient reward, stop believing in yourself, and fear taking risks because you believe in your weaknesses. You may change your priorities, experience distractions, and eventually give up your power, living in your comfort zone. You stop visualising what is possible because you are stuck in the past and bored of the repetitiveness.

You feel like you’re committing a crime by taking care of yourself because they have blamed and shamed you for doing so. Anytime you tried to better yourself, they made you feel like you were selfish and manipulative, as though you were seeking attention. In reality, they were projecting their own desires onto you. They wanted all the attention for themselves and felt like you were taking the spotlight away from them. But that was never your intention. You just wanted to be yourself and take care of yourself, which is your right. It is a legal, social, and ethical principle of freedom and entitlement.

Yet, it seems that even prisoners have more basic rights and freedoms than you do. Still, they have the nerve to convince you that you are doing something wrong. They brainwash you until you start to believe it. They repeat the same accusations again and again, a phenomenon known as the "illusory truth effect," where repetition increases belief in the validity of a statement. But just because they say it doesn’t make it true. It just means they have programmed you to the point where it has hit your subconscious. You start feeling that way about yourself. You start hating yourself and feeling ashamed for something you haven’t done.

You begin to minimise yourself. You represent yourself as less than your true value and importance. You downplay your significance and reduce the expression of your personality, emotions, and ideas. You start hating everything you once liked. You feel suffocated, uncomfortable, and unable to breathe because you are not free. You’re not able to act or do as you wish. You’re not able to be yourself because you’re limited and controlled by another person. This affects your understanding of who you are because you no longer have the power or ability to decide what looks good on you or what your choices and preferences are. It all gets destroyed, leaving only the narcissist’s false version of who they want you to be.

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