The Narcissist Can NEVER Know The REAL YOU

The narcissist may think they've got you all figured out. They may believe they know the real you—something authentic and genuine, not an imitation or artificial. They base this on past experiences and events, assuming they know everything they need to know about you. This is typical narcissistic behavior; they think they know everything based on their feelings, which they treat as facts, rather than relying on reason or logic.

Their understanding is not based on sensible or wise thinking, insight, intelligence, perception, or understanding. Instead, it's driven by their emotions, which are often a result of past traumas and deeply distressing experiences from their childhood. These past traumas have caused them to become narcissists, self-absorbed, and lacking empathy. They create a false self and live in an illusion, which is why they will never know the real you.

How can someone know you if they don't even know themselves? And how can they know themselves if they don't self-reflect or heal their past traumas? They will never see the real you; they will only see a reflection of their past traumas and project those feelings onto you. They want to put you through their pain to create a distraction from their own madness and insanity, always seeking an escape from their trauma and pain.

Narcissists are always looking outside themselves for new supply, but they can never sustain it. If they do, it's only because their supply hasn't recognized that they are not genuine. Once you realize this, you take your power back and no longer want anything to do with them. This only works if they can fool their supply, mislead you, and cause you to have a wrong idea or impression.

Being yourself means you like who you are and live your life how you want, regardless of what anyone else thinks. Narcissists, however, are very worried about what others think. Their false image is the most important thing to them. If they have to choose between their false image and their supply, they will always choose their image, even though it's just a picture in their mind or an idea of how people perceive them.

They fake an identity because they think it will be attractive to others. They abandoned their true selves long ago, which is why they will never know the real you or experience true love. They chose manipulation over authentic connection, walking around with an inflated ego, thinking they are better than everyone. This distorts their ability to recognize the truth in themselves and others.

Narcissists live in a world inside their heads with a population of one. There's no room for anyone else because if anything real ever got inside their heads, it would destroy their false reality. They need this false character to extract supply because they can't generate that power and energy from within. This is why they are so manipulative and deceptive; it's how they survive.

When you reject or threaten to expose them, it's like death to them. They lose their minds because they can't just laugh it off and admit they were wrong. They've been living this lie their entire lives, so all they can do is manipulate people. They come across as very arrogant and entitled, treating you like an object that exists to serve them. Their confidence is fake, based on past successes in manipulating people's emotions.

Their supply is just someone under a spell, in a trance, sharing a fantasy. When you first meet them, you may feel like you've found your soulmate, but it's an artificial fabrication. They manipulate you into sharing their delusion, which has no basis in reality. As soon as you start to catch on and use logical reason, they have to devalue or discard you because they can't be around that type of energy. It exposes them for the frauds they are, rendering them powerless and helpless.

Narcissists are not connected to their soul; many may not even have one. It's all just their ego, a false sense of self-esteem or self-importance based on others' opinions. They need constant validation and supply to feel alive, to feel like they actually exist. But when you're around them, you will feel whatever they want you to feel. When they're sad, you will be sad. When they're happy, you will feel happy. But none of this is real.

There are no boundaries or separation; they see you as an extension of themselves. They manipulate your emotions and gaslight you, making you feel trapped and oppressed. You end up reflecting whatever they want to see or hear back to them, so they can never interact with anything real. If you present your authentic self, they have to destroy it, devalue you, and put you down. They will try to change how others think of you to reflect something different back to you.

They will try to erase your identity because it's something they don't possess. All they have is an inflated ego and a need to feel important. You will find yourself having to be very serious around them, unable to be yourself because your identity is a threat to their illusion. It intimidates them and makes them feel inferior. They can't accept it because it reminds them that their reality is false.

Narcissists will start smear campaigns and enlist flying monkeys to control you, to make you think something is wrong with you, to prevent you from being yourself. But if you're smart, you will detach and be your true self whenever you're not around them. Otherwise, they will erase your core identity, and you will become a shell of yourself.

You can't use reason or logic around them because it exposes their false self. You learn to walk on eggshells, fearing guilt or shame, sometimes because you think you love them or just want to keep the peace. You have empathy and can see they're having a hard time adapting, so you feel bad for them. But by doing that, you almost become them whenever you're around them because they're manipulating your emotions.

They induce you into a dreamlike state, developing a supernatural ability to always know where you are or what you're about to do because they are always the orchestrator. They arrange and plan by means of clever planning or maneuvering to achieve their goals. But they don't connect the dots to realize it's just a reflection of them because they lack empathy. The world revolves around them, and they see you as a subject that exists to meet their needs.

You will know when you're around a narcissist because you will find yourself emulating some of their disordered behavior. A level of narcissism may have been induced in you, often just a reaction to their treatment of you. They will use this to impart further abuse in the form of blame-shifting, but they will never see what they're doing as wrong. They manage their shaky sense of self-esteem by using denial, delusion, gaslighting, minimization, deflection, or playing the victim.

Narcissists will always refuse to accept their wrongdoings because it's either bad or they accept that they're not real. Instead, they will lose their minds and try to destroy you. They are hell-bent on their smear campaigns because it allows their delusion to continue. Without that, they would be left to their own devices and have to look after themselves, which they can't do because they have no self.

If you took away their target and flying monkeys, they would lose their minds. They depend on using others to get their emotional needs met, which is why they break people down to make them dependent on them. In the process, you learn a lot of wrong things because they indoctrinate and corrupt you. They tamper and interfere with you in a way that is not in accordance with accepted standards, especially of morality and honesty, which has an undesirable and unwelcome effect on you.

Fortunately, anything you have learned can be unlearned or forgotten. It will never completely consume you as long as you practice acceptance and don't invite it in. Life isn't about what happens to you; it's about how you respond to it. Narcissists are very resistant and unaccepting, which comes out as passive aggression by indirect resistance to your demands and avoidance of confrontation.

Deep down, they know that what they think of you doesn't make any sense, and they secretly desire to be involved with you. But they can't because they can only respond to their post-traumatic stress from past events they thought were harmful or unfair. They won't put themselves in a position where they could be rejected or humiliated because they never want to feel that way again. So now they'd rather gain power and control over you.

All they may really want is to be themselves and have a good time like a normal person, but they can't because they're too afraid something might go wrong. They think you won't accept them if you saw the real them because something happened to them a long time ago that had a damaging effect. Now, all they can do is respond to their past traumas, leaving them hating themselves and never experiencing true love, peace, or joy.

They dump their emotional garbage onto you, making you an emotional trash can. They wonder why you become difficult and oppositional, assuming it's something to do with you. But deep down, they know the truth—they have a problem as a result of their past traumas. They act like they don't want anything to do with you, but deep down, they do, which is why they try to attach themselves to you and have difficulty letting go.

They don't feel good enough, which causes them to become more narcissistic, acting arrogant and entitled. They think you owe them the world, making the relationship transactional. You become an extension of them because they can't stand themselves, so that energy has to go somewhere. If they're not going to experience it, then you're going to feel it instead. It rubs off on you, becoming a part of your character as a result of spending time with a person who has those negative traits.

Nothing good can grow from having that way of thinking, but this is what they have to do to survive emotionally. They have to make you feel bad, wrong, or crazy, projecting these negative emotions onto you so they can live vicariously through you and feel sane. For this reason, they can never know the real you and can never experience an authentic connection.

Narcissists think short-term, aware that getting their emotional needs met is always at another person's expense. They know nothing good will come from it, but this is just what they have to do. If they've done it with you, it should reveal their state of mind and that it will continue with whoever they're involved with. They can't be caring and compassionate because all they can do is dump their emotional waste on people, making you feel worthless.

They dump their baggage from a lifetime of failed relationships and endeavors onto you, expecting you to carry and deal with it. Watching you go through it makes them feel a little better because it distracts them from their pain and traumas. Sometimes they will switch and act as a hero or savior, helping you out to feel powerful. But neither role is genuine; they have no identity of their own. All they have are responses to their past traumas, things they never resolved.

These could be things done to them or things they did to others, but either way, it had an effect, making them feel bad, guilty, shameful, and wrong. It buried them in a pit of their own misery and pain, which they constantly try to run away from but can't because they're resisting it. Instead, they hold grudges for life, which has nothing to do with you. They are damaged, broken, full of resentment and hostility, and from that, nothing can grow.

Anything they touch will fall apart because they perceive everything through the lens of their past traumas. They can never see anything real, only perceiving things through what hurt them in the past. They pass everything they hate about themselves onto you, which is why they can't be alone. There's always conflict, confusion, chaos, and drama because they don't want to be who they actually are.

Some of us may accept the ill treatment, but deep down, we know it's because we're being gaslighted or manipulated. No genuine person would ever decide to be around them, which is why it's all about keeping you down and making you question yourself. They know that once you know the truth, you will decide to be anywhere other than around them.

Contrary to what they led you to believe, you do love and accept yourself. You always did; they just gaslighted and invalidated you, making you question yourself. That was the only way they could control you; otherwise, you would run far away. At times, they will bring back the false character, showing you whatever they think you want to see, and you may think you love them. But you're just attached to a false character, a reflection of your own virtues and ideals.

You loved yourself all along; they just brainwashed you into thinking you didn't. They had to pull you outside of yourself to feel more comfortable around you because they have no identity of their own. If they were comfortable in their own skin, they wouldn't feel the need to lash out. But many times, they beat us down emotionally, and we react defensively because we don't need to be anyone else but ourselves. We don't want to have parts of ourselves robbed from us.

It's invalidating when they try to pretend we're alike or as though they can fulfill us. Deep down, we know it's never going to pan out like that in reality. They don't even complete themselves, so how could they complete us? What attracted them to you was your self-love, which is why they later robbed it from you. You began to feel like less of yourself and felt attached to them because they took a piece of you.

Your self-love shines a light on their lack of self-love, triggering and intimidating them because they don't self-love or self-reflect. Instead, they look outside themselves for things to complete them, making them an incomplete person with no identity of their own. This is why there's no end to the abuse; they keep needing parts of you to sustain them. Despite what they do to you, you continue to love yourself, which threatens their false character and illusion.

Pay attention to your emotions when you're around them. How you feel is how they want you to feel, and how they feel is typically a million times worse. You're just experiencing a fraction of what they go through every day because they don't love or feel positivity like you do. What we feel is what we have to give; you can't give emotions you don't already feel for yourself. They also cannot receive anything from you authentically unless they are manipulating you, which means it isn't authentic at all.

They never get anything real from you; they only get a reflection of who they are being, which is fake. But they need it because they constantly operate in survival mode, thinking about satisfaction and reward, which overrides any empathy or respect. They will try to pull you down to their level, getting you to act out just as they do, so they can feel normal and sane. As soon as you react, they will point the finger at you, denying or ignoring anything they did to provoke you, which is insanity.

All of the cluster B disorders know exactly what they're doing, but that doesn't make them any less insane. In fact, it makes it worse because they know what they're doing while experiencing intense negative emotions they cannot control. They lack discipline and self-control, making them extremely weak and insecure, which also makes them very dangerous. There's no telling what they will do next; they're unpredictable because they don't love or respect themselves.

If you love and respect yourself, you can't hate or disrespect another person. We all know the difference between right and wrong, even though they try to justify it. It doesn't matter what they tell themselves; the shame will continue to grow, resulting in them becoming more abusive. They don't self-reflect or heal their wounds, becoming more crazy and delusional. If given enough rope, they will hang themselves, but even then, they will play the victim and blame you.

It's a vicious circle they can't get out of, which is why they're always so miserable. As they age, they become more manipulative and covert, getting better at hiding the abuse. But everything they do is manipulation; nothing is genuine. There is no genuine action from their heart and soul to uplift another person without expecting anything in return. Even if you've been with them your entire life, everything they did was manipulation, nothing was genuine, it was all fake.

And that's all they've ever known, so they will never know the real you.

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