Future faking is when the narcissist promises you something they don't have, so that they can get what they want from you in the present moment. They want the benefit of having something valuable or significant, before they have the ability to give you what they are promising. Narcissists are good at future faking because they are fake people. They are opposed to the truth and their lives are a lie. Future faking is designed to boost the narcissist's self worth and self esteem. It makes them feel as though they are something valuable or significant to you. Narcissists are emotionally immature.
All they want is the good feelings that come along with their future faking, they do not want the responsibility of keeping those promises. Future faking gives the target something valuable or significant to look forward to in the future. It is something that narcissists will use when they want to extract something from you, which will be beneficial for them in that moment. It could be goods or services. Your attention, validation or admiration of them. Narcissistic supply.
They will provide you with reasons for doing what they want you to do for them. The narcissist will make false promises of something valuable or significant in the future, as long as you comply and give them what they want in that moment. They will lead you to believe that you will be entitled to certain benefits or advantages, because of what you are doing for them. This is designed to induce feelings of excitement or ethusiasm within you. Making you more likely to comply with their demands. Making you more motivated or driven to meet their standards.
The narcissist is leading you to believe that all of your love, loyalty or enthusiasm... All of your dedication or commitment to a specified task or purpose. Will eventually materialise in physical form. But all along, the narcissist has no intention of ever following up any of their promises with action. So they get all of your dedication and devotion, your goods and services, which will be used to supplement them, to enhance their lives. Because you assume that this person is honest or genuine and they are going to follow up their words with actions. But all along, the narcissist has no intention of ever following up any of their promises with action.
Narcissists use future faking because they know that you are not going to comply with their demands, if you do not believe that there is going to be a return on your investment. The future faking is designed to induce feelings of excitement or ethusiasm within you to produce more motivation, so that you will put in more time and effort into meeting their demands. Your excitement comes from the anticipation of the benefits or advantages you are expecting to receive in the future. Rather than anything the narcissist is doing in the present moment. The narcissist might not be meeting your standards or anything that you believe you are worthy or deserving of in the present moment.
But they will make you believe that if you wait a bit longer or do something else for them, you will eventually see a positive change. They will promise you certain benefits or advantages and claim that it will get better and you are going to be so much happier with them in the future. Naturally you will want to believe them. You will want to see their promises actualise in physical form. You will want to see the fruits of your labour. The result or finishing product of your dedication and devotion, your hard work. This is what the narcissist is counting on. They know what you are worthy or deserving of and they know what you expect to see from them.
And they will tell you that you can expect to see all of these benefits or advantages materialise in the future. While they have no intention of ever following up any of their promises with action. Future faking is designed to keep you focusing on the future, rather than what is happening in the present moment. You need to focus on what they are doing now, what are they giving to you now? Rather than focusing on the future and ignoring everything that is happening in the present moment. Ignore all of their illusions, detach your emotions and start seeing them for what they really are.
Rather than what you want them to be. They might make all of these promises or imply that they have more to give, but this is all part of the illusion. Most often they don't even have the capabilities or motivation to materialise anything significant or valuable. They can talk about it or indicate the truth or existence of something by suggestion, but when it comes to actually making it a reality, they are out of there. Because not only do they not have the capabilities or the motivation, they don't even have the belief that they are capable of manifesting anything for real.
They're just ideas in their heads and even their ideas are based off of your own likes and interests. They don't even have their own unique ideas. Narcissists lack self belief, true intention, capabilities and motivation. Without these qualities, nothing will ever actualise for real. It will always be just an idea in their heads. But they will say it to you or imply that it's something that could become a reality. Just because it sounds good to them or because they know that it will make you put in the time and effort for them.
The only benefits, advantages or anything of significance or value in this are what you're giving to them. They're not giving anything that might be beneficial to you. They're not giving you anything significant or valuable. They're just making you believe that if you just stay patient and continue putting in the time and effort for them, eventually you will see the result or finished product of your hard work. You're going to have to wait for years to see if anything they said actually exists or could be a reality. And by that time, your life will have passed you by and you will have nothing to show for it. Except years of wasted time and effort. Wasted dedication and devotion.
Wasted self belief, true intention, capabilities and motivation. Because there is nothing in the future. They just promised all of that to keep you around. To secure you as a source of supply. Keeping your attention or interest on them. Having the desire and motivation to meet their demands. Giving your time and effort while they give you the bare minimum in return. Which leaves you in a deteriorating condition because you are not receiving anything in return to replenish your resources. To replenish what you are giving out to them.
There is no future with the narcissist. There is only the same old lies and problems that never get resolved. You may start demanding from them. After everything you have given out. Naturally you will expect a return on your investment, you will want to see the fruits of your labour. This is when the narcissist can become frustrated or resentful towards you. Because they don't have what you are looking for, they never did. They didn't have the capabilities to actualise any of that or make it a reality.
The game was to make you believe that they did, so that you would devote your time and attention to them. They wanted the benefit of having something valuable or significant, before they had the ability to give you what they were promising. You do not need them. You are willing to put in the time and effort to make it a reality. You have the dedication and devotion. You have true intentions. Self belief, the capabilities and motivation. You have everything you need to make everything they lied about, everything they tried to fake, a reality.