Narcissists ALWAYS LOSE In The End

The reason why you feel hurt or bothered after dealing with a narcissist is because you think you could have done something different or something more. You think it was because of something you did or didn't do, and that is exactly what they'd like you to think. This takes the heat off of them, allowing them to relax.

What you need to understand is that what happened between you and them was not an isolated incident. They've had many failed relationships before you, and they're going to have many more failed relationships after you're gone. But you couldn't see it at the time because they were constantly blaming you, saying that you were the problem.

If you were a fly on the wall in other situations in their lives, if you could take a look at their interactions with other people in their past, and you heard other people's stories and what they have to say about them, especially people who they no longer talk to, you would have a very different perspective of them.

Although you may have opened up to them and told them everything that went on in your life, they never told you anything. You didn't know anything about them because they have a lot to hide. They have many things they don't want you to know, which is why they always try to put the focus on you. They try to blame you for everything because otherwise, it would open Pandora's Box and generate many complicated problems for them. This is why they hide behind a mask so that you don't see who they really are.

What they've been doing to you is exactly what they've been doing to other people before you. That's why they're so good at it. They've had a lot of practice and plenty of time to perfect their manipulation, which is why it will seem like they're masters of their craft. They've already used these tactics on many other people before you. They've love-bombed other people, devalued, and discarded them.

Once it happens to you and you move on, you don't know where they go after you're gone. You don't know what they're doing or who they're with. Especially if you've moved on and you're happy, they don't want to hear from you because it will only irritate them. You're in a better position than they are, so they will keep out of sight, avoiding detection and attention. They need to recover from their injuries and hurt feelings, regain their strength after their defeats, because they messed up again. Everything they touch falls apart; it always goes wrong in the end.

They're very self-conscious and get embarrassed. They don't want you to see their failures because they want you to think that everything's fine. That's why they put up posts on social media with full smiles as though they're happy without you. But that's not how it pans out for them in reality. They're stuck in an endless pattern of behavior and it's inflexible, so they can't change or adapt. Time will reveal everything. If you check back in with them after a few months and see their other relationships or situations, you would see the exact same thing you went through. That's how they're so good at it—because they've done it before.

The length of the relationship just depends on how much you're willing to tolerate, which is why they will eventually deliberately stay out of contact with you on their own. Many of you will wonder why they're not hoovering you. You're doing better and you're happier without them. That is the last thing they're going to do because they don't want to give you the satisfaction of seeing you be better than them. It's an unpleasant fact and situation that they don't want to accept.

So they will stay low and be quiet. They won't seem very forceful, emotional, or noticeable so that they don't draw too much attention to themselves. They already know that they made a big mistake and can't get you back. They know they've done things that may be a deal breaker to you, things that may be important to you. So they know they can't come back. They know you're not going to take them seriously after that, so they will disappear. You won't hear from them because the possibility of them winning you over and compensating for their faults is hardly anything. They know they have no chance of doing that, especially when you already know what they're about and what to expect from them. So the only choice is to leave you alone.

This should help you to focus on things that are more important because it confirms something to you. It validates everything that you experienced with them when you see what they're doing after you're gone and what is going on with them. They end up in a worse situation than what they had with you, so of course, they're not going to come back after they've already taken a fall and made a loss. That's embarrassing for them. They don't have the same bold self-assurance of style and manner as you do. They're very insecure because they're not as attractive, pleasing, interesting, or enjoyable as they were before, and they're aware of that.

So now all they can do is accept something unpleasant and difficult. They just have to keep out of sight and go into hiding because that's all they can do. But just know that you weren't the only one. It wasn't their first rodeo. They've done the same thing with other people before you and they're going to do it again after you're gone. They're constantly failing and tend to end up in a worse situation after leaving you. They always downgrade because they're on a path of self-destruction. They behave recklessly and impulsively, always acting on their unstable emotions. There's no telling where they might end up next, but it's going to be a worse situation than what they had with you. They get worse with age. Narcissists always lose in the end. It's not just something that happened with you; it wasn't an isolated incident.

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