Is The Narcissist HAPPY With Someone Else!?

When you see the narcissist flaunting their new source on social media, it may look like they’re happy. It might seem like they’re having a great time without you. But it’s very easy for them to orchestrate a situation and make it appear as something it’s not. You’re only seeing a snapshot—a highlight, a moment. Everything else is left to your imagination. You don’t see what’s happening behind closed doors. This creates suspense and mystery, leaving you uncertain about what’s really going on—unless, of course, you understand the inner workings of a narcissist’s mind. That understanding reveals exactly how they feel inside.

But this isn’t unique to narcissists. Happiness is an internal feeling. People can laugh and smile, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re happy. Even if they are happy, it could be fleeting—a momentary emotion. For the rest of the day, they might be unhappy, and you wouldn’t even know. Discontentment and dissatisfaction are universal experiences. In fact, major depressive disorder and anxiety disorders are the two most common mental health issues worldwide. Many people are not truly happy.

Could this also apply to narcissists? Sometimes, they can appear happy, especially when they’re love-bombing their target. They like to show off their new partner, making it seem like they’re better off without you. But just because that’s what you see doesn’t mean it’s real.

One moment, you were with the narcissist, and the next, they disappeared without a trace. They gave you no closure, no explanation for their departure. Or perhaps you left them because their toxic and abusive behaviour became unbearable. Either way, their actions reveal their inability to engage in moral and acceptable behaviour. They lacked kindness, goodwill, and honesty. They weren’t good enough because they weren’t committed to making the relationship work. It was always about them—what was good for them, not for you. They used you as a tool, manipulating, lying, and gaslighting you instead of giving you the respect you deserved.

Narcissists are not about stability, predictability, or progression. They dislike steadiness and consistency because they are mentally unstable. Their feelings can change from one moment to the next. They resist the progression of a relationship because they know they’ll be left behind. Their mental disorder is characterized by unhappiness, dissatisfaction, and confusion. How could they ever commit to a relationship with someone like you—someone who values commitment, stability, and growth? It was a recipe for disaster because you both valued different things.

Still, they can make it seem like they’re happier in their new relationship, leaving you feeling worthless. You gave them everything, so you assume it must be your fault. You think you did something wrong or should have done something differently. But that’s exactly what they want you to believe. The reality is that they have deep issues with interpersonal relationships. They can’t thrive in equitable, reciprocal partnerships. If a relationship is fair and reasonable, giving equal treatment to both partners, the narcissist won’t survive in that environment. They’re not built for it.

Narcissists are not self-sustaining. They’re like leeches or parasites, exploiting others to survive. Without a source of supply, they would cease to exist. This is why they can’t have a genuine relationship. They only seek sources of supply—people who will listen to them, obey them, and remain under their control. If they lose that control, they may become forceful or even violent, feeling as though they’re under attack. They will never see you as an equal partner. To them, you’re a subordinate, and everything revolves around their needs.

You might wonder: if narcissists are so fragile and weak, how can they move on and live their best lives? The truth is, it’s all an illusion—a deceptive appearance. They implant false ideas and beliefs in your mind. Remember how things were when you first met them? They mirrored you to create a sense of trust and connection, securing their narcissistic supply. They love-bombed you, making you believe they were your soulmate. But if that were real, they’d still be with you now. That’s how you know it was all an illusion.

Now, you see them with a new source, and it looks like they’re having a great time. Maybe they just bought a house together or went on vacation—things you wished they had done with you. But if you knew what was really going on, you’d be glad you got out when you did. You dodged a bullet, avoiding a difficult and undesirable situation. They’re never going to sustain that relationship. They’ll repeat the same cycle of abuse with their new partner. The only thing that’s changed is the person they’re targeting.

Narcissists don’t do the inner work to develop self-awareness. Instead, they blame you, start smear campaigns, and deny closure. They don’t consider how their actions hurt you or feel the need to make amends. That thought likely never even crossed their minds. They believe they can move on to another relationship and everything will be fine, while you’re left overwhelmed by grief and disappointment.

Narcissists divide people into categories, keeping their lives compartmentalized. They don’t have a stable sense of self. They were one person with you, and now they’re someone entirely different with their new partner. This disconnection from themselves and their emotions means they can never truly be happy. Happiness requires a sense of purpose, comfort, and good health—qualities narcissists lack. Their lives are chaotic and disorderly, and they don’t strive to make a positive impact on the world. Instead, they cause harm without concern for the consequences.

True happiness requires vulnerability, which narcissists fear. Vulnerability is the key to healing, but narcissists can’t even be honest with themselves. They live in denial, creating an alternate reality. As a result, they’ll never experience genuine happiness or connect with another human being. If they could, there would be no need for gaslighting, lies, or smear campaigns. But they can’t, and their inability to make amends is a sign that they’ll never find inner stability or happiness.

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