How Narcissists ENDURE Your NO CONTACT

When you begin to heal from narcissistic abuse and start to realize your value and self-worth, you begin to enjoy your life again. You are no longer confused about what you went through because you've left the narcissist's world. You may wonder what the narcissist is thinking and how they feel now that you've moved on.

Now, you have something outside of them, and you are happy without them. But you were already headed in that direction before you unexpectedly met the narcissist. They just used up your resources and drained you of your reserves because they feed off your energy. They strip it away.

Even though they are the ones who are actively opposed and hostile towards you and are the cause of the situation, they will attack you and put you down for it. They have deliberately stripped away your happiness and brought you down to a lower level. They will criticize you fiercely and oppose you, even though they were the fundamental reason for the problem.

They were the primary factor that caused the chain of events leading to the adverse outcome. But now, they want to make things worse for you. They want to criticize you after you've already suffered a setback, putting you in a weak position or at a disadvantage. They will devalue and degrade you until they begin to regard you as garbage, until they no longer want you.

They see their new sources as more valuable, even after everything you did for them. You expected them to reciprocate, to give something back to you in return, but now they are nowhere to be found because they are busy working on their next target. They are not fully understanding, recognizing, or valuing you. They are taking you for granted, not giving you any acknowledgment or credit. Instead, you ended up giving that to them, which is what they were so satisfied with, even though they did nothing in return for you.

This is why you will only end up ruining your health by trying to satisfy them. Nothing can make them happy; nothing will make them feel whole and complete where they will want to do something for you in return. You will become very ill and tired until you have nothing left to give, and then they will treat you as unimportant. You will be worth nothing to them because they believe they can find something better, something that satisfies their desires and needs.

This doesn't make any sense because they can't be satisfied. They will abandon you, or you will get better and leave. Then you have to rebuild everything that they damaged and destroyed. You have to discover your own self-motivation so that you can find your happiness again. You figure them out and know what they're about.

It can be very difficult to get to this point because they don't want to accept that they're the problem. They want to blame you. This is why, if you move on and end up doing better without them, it confirms that they are not the good people they portray themselves to be. They are not what they believe in their minds; in fact, they are the exact opposite of that.

The last thing they want to see is you moving on and doing better without them because that would cause a huge narcissistic injury. It would confirm that they are the ones who are weak and not about anything. They are the garbage. Of course, they are not going to like it. It will make them envious and jealous. It will really get to them because they had to elevate themselves at your expense. They had to make themselves feel better by creating explanations of why you're no good for them.

But then you end up moving on and doing better without them. It completely destroys their false narrative. It destroys everything that they are telling themselves in their minds about being so great so that they can feel better about themselves. When the narcissist sees you moving on and things are getting better for you without them, it destroys the psychological strategies they use to cope with their difficult feelings, thoughts, and events. They use these strategies to avoid illustrating themselves as the problem or as the one who is flawed or faulty.

The last thing they want is to see you shine. The last thing they want is to see you being great. It eats away at them because they are mad, envious, and jealous. They can't stand to see you moving on because then they are left to their own devices. They are left to look after themselves without any help. They are forced to accept that it's them.

This is why they try to get back to you. It's not to reunite or to try to make things right; it's to show you that you're not doing well without them. Everything has to be about them. They have an exaggerated sense of their own abilities and importance. They try to come back just to show you that you're not really happy, that you're not really good without them. Even if you let them back in, they'll just end up trying to destroy the happiness that you have anyway.

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