5 Things Narcissists Do When They LOSE CONTROL Of You

Narcissists need to have control over their targets. They need the power to influence your behavior and direct the course of events. When they don't have that, they will feel like they're losing control of you, and they will try to regain it.

So here are five things narcissists do when they lose control of you:

1. Love Bombing

If you have gone no contact with the narcissist, they may try to hoover you back in. They will bombard you with text messages and phone calls, trying to get you to respond by telling you whatever they think you want to hear. They will give you a fake apology and a false epiphany. They will pretend to understand and act like they are going to change because they know that's what you want. They know you want them to act right, so they will give you the illusion of that, but it's only so they can lock you under their control again.

2. Triangulation

When the narcissist loses control of you, they will bring in another person to get your mind back on them. They want your attention and will try to make you jealous, making you think you're losing something or missing out, in the hopes that it will make you come running back to them.

3. Threats and Intimidation

If you still refuse to comply, they will make threats and try to intimidate you. They will attempt to coerce you into doing what they want because they know that without force or threats, you are not going to listen to them. They know they don't have any leverage or incentive for you to comply because it's not in your best interest to do so.

4. Stalking and Harassment

When the narcissist loses control of you, they will start to monitor you. They will follow you at your home or work and stalk you on social media because they want to see what you're doing and who you're with. They want to see if you're still experiencing the effects of what they did to you and if there's an opening for them to come back. Or they may just be gathering data, which they will then use against you to further control you.

5. Exposure

When all bets are off, the narcissist will resort to one last strategy: exposure. They will reveal your secrets and personal information, things you confided in them, and things you trusted them with. They will distort the truth and make up their own stories, then use it against you. They will enlist their flying monkeys and start a smear campaign in an attempt to discredit you and ruin your reputation. At this point, they know they've lost control of you. They know you've figured them out and are not going to come back, so all they can do now is try to take you down to avoid the pain of watching you move on without them. They are using you as a tool to regulate their emotions and soothe their bruised ego because as long as they have control over you, they feel powerful and important.