5 Reasons Why Narcissists TARGET You

The narcissist targeted you for several reasons. They selected you, picked you out of a group of people, and were drawn to you. They were attracted to you because they could see that you offered something of interest or advantage. You evoked a reaction from them, and then they became fixated on you. They developed an obsessive attachment to you, becoming preoccupied with you to the point where they were unable to think about anything else. When this happens, they become arrested in development because they are paying attention to you exclusively and obsessively rather than focusing on themselves. They don't move on and stay stuck in this state, sometimes for the rest of their lives, always thinking about you in an unreasonable way. They constantly give you all of their attention, and there are several reasons why they do this, which will help you learn more about yourself and understand why they specifically targeted you instead of someone else.

Resistance is potentially the number one trait that attracts narcissists because they love a challenge or test. It makes them feel special and important when they can turn a "no" into a "yes." You will notice that they are not really concerned about people who don't resist them; that doesn't interest them because there's no incentive for them unless it's just someone they're going to use for sexual purposes. But when they're looking for long-term supply, they need a fight, a battle, something they have to overcome. They actually enjoy it when a target initially shows resistance and opposition. It attracts them. They are like predators who enjoy engaging in activities without your consent or agreement. They are also very arrogant and delusional, making agreements in their heads without your knowledge or awareness, justifying their actions. They tell themselves that you want it or that it's good for you, or that they are meant to elevate themselves at your expense because they are more important. Believe it or not, they actually enjoy it when you resist them. It turns them on and makes them want you even more because they love the chase. It's like a cat-and-mouse game, and they try to trick you into making a mistake so that they have an advantage over you. When they see that you're trying to refrain from doing something tempting or unwise, it tells them the game is on, and it's a competition they have to win. You become this forbidden fruit, something they desire all the more because it is not allowed.

The narcissist is drawn to your innocence, guiltlessness, and blamelessness. They are attracted to your purity, lack of sin, lack of wickedness, and corruption, as well as your honesty and humility. They are the exact opposite of these qualities and traits, so they desire them in their target. Narcissists are immoral and corrupt, dishonest and fraudulent. They deceive people using dishonest methods to achieve their objectives. They take pleasure in being around someone who is free from immorality, as they can live vicariously through that person and feel pure, like they are not the monster they actually are. This doesn't make any sense because a deceptive, dishonest person talking to an innocent person is immoral in itself. But this is what narcissists do to maintain their self-image; they have to target innocent people. However, after some time, it will begin to reflect badly on them, bringing their flaws and mistakes to the surface. That is when they will have to reverse the roles and label you as the wicked and immoral person to save themselves in their own emotions, making them feel free from fault or wrongdoing. They target you because they are running from everything they despise about themselves. Once they've been around you long enough and it begins to reflect badly on them, they have to disown their negative traits and assign them to you, robbing you of your innocence.

The narcissist targeted you because you don't comply with social norms or the unwritten rules of beliefs, attitudes, or behaviors that are considered acceptable in a particular social group or culture. You don't conform to standards that are usually typical or expected. You act differently from everyone else, are socially distant, and avoid social interaction with people you perceive as being different from yourself. You maintain a safe and appropriate distance from other people. This may be due to your own choice or because a narcissistic parent or partner isolated you. For whatever reason, you don't conform. You reject their proposals and ideas and live in your own truth.

You have your own set of standards, levels of qualities or attainments, and moral rules that you expect to be obeyed. This may include dimensions such as social class, race, ethnicity, gender, or sexuality. You prefer to mix with a certain group of people, and the narcissist will notice it immediately. It will draw them to you because they want to be the exception. They want to be the person who is excluded from the general statement or rule. They want to be seen as someone special and important rather than feeling left out. They will target you for this reason because they see it as a challenge and have to win. They have to come out on top and be more successful than the other people they are competing with. This tells them that they are still relevant and superior, which is what they want because they are seeking status and power.

The narcissist targeted you because of your authenticity, genuineness, and originality. Your quality of being real and true allows you to be yourself and behave in a natural way rather than pretending to be different. This makes you stand out and stick out like a sore thumb because many people are not being themselves. They are not being authentic; they are under the influence of other people instead of choosing their own path. You have an inability to hide your true interests and feelings, and it's written all over your face. It's clear what you are feeling. When you are being authentic, people can read you like an open book. It's easy for them to know what you're thinking because you wear your heart on your sleeve. You make your feelings and emotions obvious rather than hiding them because that's just you being you. You show your intimate emotions in an honest and open manner, and the narcissist will pick up on this. In the beginning, it may seem as though they respect and appreciate your authenticity, but then they will turn against it because it will reflect badly on them. It will cause them to realize that they are inauthentic because they have to manipulate and deceive you. Their objective will be to erase your identity and authenticity, turning you into something else. If they have the ability to change you by tempting and enticing you into doing something you wouldn't normally do, then that means you were never real anyway. If you were real, they wouldn't have had the power or ability to do that. Narcissists don't take accountability for their actions. They will lead you to your demise and then stand back and say that you did it all on your own. This is why it is very important for you to preserve your self-identity. You need to enforce strong boundaries, recognize where you end and they begin, know who you are, develop confidence in your own qualities and abilities, and practice self-love and self-care. These are the very things that they discourage you from doing, but they are actually your greatest defense against narcissists and what they are trying to do to you. They are trying to make you do the opposite of what you are already doing. They are trying to crush your resistance, rob you of your innocence, make you conform to their standards and ideals, make you accept standards that are lower than what you would normally accept, and destroy your authenticity or make you think that you are not authentic. These things reflect back to them, triggering them and making them reflect on their own insecurities and deficiencies. It makes them feel like desperate, immoral, corrupt, and inauthentic people who will accept and tolerate anything, which is exactly what they are because they have no values or moral compass. But they will assign these traits to you so that they can feel better about themselves and maintain their false image. No matter how wonderful of a person you are, the narcissist will always choose their false self over you. If they didn't do that, they wouldn't even be a narcissist.

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