Why Narcissists Leave & NEVER LOOK BACK

Sometimes narcissists leave and never look back because they believe they can continue to be successful without you. They think they can progress without interruption or impediment, without anything holding them back from doing what they want to do or being who they want to be. They may lead you to believe that you weren't good enough for them or that they found something better. However, you need to look at the behaviours you witnessed before they left, as that's typically what they'll continue doing after they leave.

Narcissists never look back because they felt uncomfortable around you. You may have questioned and confronted them, had standards and expectations, and set deal-breakers. They don't want to deal with that. They want someone who will accept them as they are, someone who won't demand or expect them to change. They prefer someone who will allow them to drink alcohol every night, smoke weed, and treat the other person like a fool, a doormat, an emotional dumping ground. They can go back and forth with them and relish in the chaos and drama because that's what they really want.

They thrive in dysfunctional environments with people who make them feel more comfortable. These are people who know exactly who they are but don't mind because they knew they could never have that with you. You weren't willing to accept them, and maybe you didn't openly reveal that to them. However, they constantly read their victim's body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice to see where they stand. They gauge how they should act around you to test the waters before deciding to take further action. Your boundaries were just too strong; they couldn't have their way with you, and it was too much work.

Narcissists don't like to work hard for anything. They'd rather have it easy. They'd rather run off and find an unsuspecting victim who doesn't know what they're about rather than trying to rekindle things with you. In the end, they follow the path of least resistance. They move away from pain and towards pleasure, whatever brings them amusement and enjoyment. That's all they're really looking for—someone who isn't going to judge them, someone who isn't going to resist them, someone who is just going to let them be who they choose to be.

They seek someone who will make them feel how they want to feel—powerful, important, desirable, and attractive. Even though they may have never done the work and may never have tried to develop themselves or achieve anything, they have this sense of arrogance and entitlement. They see it as though if they're not going to get it from you, they're going to get it from someone else. But it is always the victim who initiates the discard. You saw something wrong with them, and now they want to punish you. They want to teach you a lesson by leaving you and never looking back and finding a new source of supply so that they can show you where you went wrong or how you should have treated them.

They're just trying to prove a point. They're trying to show you that you were wrong and they were right. That's why they're just going to continue on their path for as long as it is benefiting them. But as soon as things start to go wrong or they feel like they had a better situation with you, then they may contemplate hoovering you unless they can find a more efficient option. If you made it clear to them that you're not going to accept that type of treatment, they're going to know that they can't have their way with you anymore.

Just by you setting the boundary, that can be enough to cause a narcissistic injury. They don't like to hear the word "no." They're very insecure, so to compensate for that, they're arrogant and entitled. They believe they're better than you and should be able to treat you however they choose. As long as you're willing to support their delusion, they will stick around or entertain coming back to you. But that's all it's ever going to be. It's never going to be anything real. You're going to be doing all the work to sustain the illusion while they're just sitting back feeling like the king or the queen.

If you were constantly pressing them and trying to make them be better, they're not going to want to go back to that. It's too much work for them to manipulate you all over again. It's much easier for them to find an unsuspecting target or someone who is more agreeable and on the same page. Someone who doesn't mind going out on the weekends where they're cheating and sleeping around. Someone who can tolerate that excessive drinking, smoking, or doing drugs. Someone who accepts their delusions instead of trying to make them change.

That's what they really want. They don't want to build anything for real. They already know they're not about that life. They just wanted to trick you so that they could use you for supply. When you started to catch on, they knew it was time to leave because they're never going to try to be better for you. They're never going to be who you wanted them to be or who they led you to believe they were in the beginning. They're just going to keep doing what they've always done, what worked for them in the past, and what got them the results they were looking for.

While they may recognize that they were in a better situation with you, a lot of them really don't care because they know they're not going to be able to sustain something like that. They know they're just going to be the cause of its demise, and then they will have to start again. So they go where they feel more comfortable, where they know that people will tolerate and accept them, and where they know they're not going to be given a hard time.

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