When Will The Narcissist Leave You Alone FOR GOOD?

It may seem like the narcissist is drawn to you or attracted to you, but if that were the case, it would be very easy for you to get rid of them by changing whatever it is about you that they're attracted to. However, that's not going to work with a narcissist because they're not really attracted to you; they're attracted to who they need you to be, which supports their false narrative and fantasy.

This means that you can't stop attracting them because they've created a false character for you, which is outside of your control. You don't have the power to change the composition of this character because you're not the author or the inventor of it. The narcissist creates a false character for their victims, which they demand and expect you to live up to, rather than giving you space to define yourself. They don't care about who you actually are; they just want to mould you into being who they need you to be so that they can use you to their advantage.

When you're dealing with a narcissist, they won't want you to have any boundaries. This can be very dangerous for you because boundaries are meant to protect you from danger or harm. If you have boundaries, it also keeps the narcissist away because they can't get close to you, gain access to your life, or get their needs met. This is why narcissists hate a person's boundaries. Anything that sets a limit between one person and another is not attractive to a narcissist. They don't care about valuing or appreciating another person's self-identity or creating a safe space where we can feel, act, and genuinely be who we are. They just want to mould you into who they need you to be so that they can get their needs met at your expense without reciprocating anything back to you.

In order for them to do that, they have to turn you into a "yes" person, where you will just blindly agree with everything they say without question. They only care about themselves and are not concerned about reality or what is actually true. This means nothing to them, which is why they're able to manipulate and exploit people, lie, future fake, and rewrite the past. Truth and authenticity have no value to a narcissist because they abandoned their true identity a long time ago. Why would they start valuing the truth now?

They want you to have no boundaries and to say yes to everything. Whether you like it or not, they really don't care because your self-identity is not a concern to them. People are just tools or objects to a narcissist. We are just things that they use, not things that they care about. Narcissists do not care about anything other than what they can get or use in that moment. Everything else is irrelevant to them. They will guilt trip you and use your own empathy as a tool to manipulate and exploit you because maybe you feel bad for them or you don't want to say no. This should reveal to you that they don't care about you. They don't appreciate or respect who you actually are because if they did, they would respect your boundaries. They would think carefully before crossing over them.

If they were actually attracted to you or anyone else, they would be very respectful of people's boundaries. They wouldn't want to cross a limit of what a person considers to be acceptable behaviour because it would affect a person's self-identity. It would prevent them from being able to be themselves, which proves that the narcissist is not attracted to you or anyone else and never was. If that were true, they would appreciate and respect people's boundaries. If a person is attracted to another person, they're going to be attracted to their boundaries as well—their limits of what they consider to be acceptable behaviour. They're not just going to walk all over them if they actually care about them. This is how you should know that the narcissist never cared about you. They see people as objects. We are just things for them to use, and as long as they see an open door, they're going to keep coming back to use you because that's all they're really concerned with.

Your greatest defence against them is your self-love. Narcissists hate it when you love yourself. They want you to self-loathe; they want you to hate yourself because then they can cross over your boundaries and control you and mould you into the type of person that they need you to be, rather than appreciating and encouraging who you actually are. They don't want to be around people who know who they are. They don't want you to be your authentic self. They can't survive in that type of environment because they don't know who they are. They haven't worked on themselves to develop their own separate sense of identity. They just become whatever or whoever they think will get them what they want.

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