This Is Why You Feel CRAZY Around A Narcissist

How you feel when you're dealing with a narcissist is typically how they want you to feel. Narcissists do not value authenticity, genuine emotion, or self-expression. They are emotional manipulators who use your emotions to get what they want, steer your behaviour, and influence your ideals to facilitate their personal objectives.

They're manipulating you, positioning you to their aim and purpose, just as an artist manipulates a lump of clay into a piece of pottery. The narcissist gradually turns you into someone you're not, someone you weren't before dealing with them. They want to control your journey through life. Since it may be difficult for them to physically position you where they want you to be, they resort to emotional manipulation. They seek to influence and control your emotions so that it affects your actions and behaviours.

They will manipulate you into thinking that they are the perfect partner for you, even though they may never have considered your needs or even asked you what exactly you're looking for in a partner. They will jump the gun without thinking about it and assume that they are everything you need, even though their lives may be in shambles and they have very poor mental health. It's all about what they can get from you. They're disconnected from themselves; they don't even know who they are, so they're not concerned about who you are or what you want. That doesn't even cross their minds because they assume that their manipulation will be enough to deceive you.

They will bait and entice you until they finally have you hooked, and then they will withdraw their attention from you to make you feel needy and dependent on them. That's ultimately what they want. They want to turn you into the opposite of who you naturally are. Before you met them, you were independent, self-sustaining, and self-assured. But the more time you spend around them, you begin to feel underprivileged and disadvantaged. You become insecure, needing emotional support when you were never like that before. It didn't even cross your mind. You're only feeling this way now after dealing with the narcissist because that's exactly what they want. They want you to want and need them, even though they're not even worthy of being wanted or needed because they have no inner sense of value.

If they can get you to lose confidence in yourself and make you believe that they have what you're missing or what you need to feel complete, then they can control you and get you to do what they want. This makes them feel like they're the puppet master, the ones pulling the strings. It makes them feel powerful, which is the opposite of how they would normally feel when they're around you. Normally, they would feel insecure, but they managed to find a way to turn the tables on you because you're the one who is powerful, dynamic, and successful. You've done the work to become the person that you are today. You've been through the trials and tribulations, and you've actually achieved things for real, while they haven't got anything of value to bring to you. They've never even done the work, and yet you're the one who is submitting and placating to them, which is crazy. It makes no sense.

No matter how enthusiastic you are, you're never going to get what you want because they've lied about their qualities and skills. They're not even the person that they've presented themselves to be. If it ever came down to it and they actually had to deliver on their promises, you would be dissatisfied and disappointed because they're not the right person for you to be expecting it from. It's just never going to work that way. You can't expect positive qualities and attributes such as love, loyalty, devotion, kindness, commitment, attentiveness, empathy, compassion, and understanding from a narcissist. That's like trying to get blood from a stone. They don't have the right character, so it's never going to be obtained. It will only ever exist as a fantasy in your mind because they just don't have the means or the mental capacity to make it a reality.

If you closely examine your wants and needs, you will realize that you never really wanted or needed that anyway. You had something else in mind before the narcissist came along and projected these alternate ideas and desires onto you. When you look at it, it seems that they were wrong and you were right all along because their very ideas and fantasies fell short. They didn't amount to anything. It never played out in the way that they imagined or intended. It's because narcissists are just not good role models or leaders. They're better off as followers and subordinates because they tend to let their desires and impulses get the better of them. This means that they spend most of their time in a fantasy, imagining what could, should, or would be, instead of actually going out and making it happen. They're not really concerned about actually manifesting it in reality. All they care about is the feeling they get from it and the reactions they're getting from you. That is their narcissistic supply. Everything else is not important to them. All they're really looking for is that release of dopamine in their brains, that feeling of euphoria where their false self is validated, and they feel powerful, important, desirable, and attractive, or whatever emotion they might want to feel.

You're essentially nothing more than a tool or a device which they use to dial up whatever emotion they want to feel in that moment. Other than that, you're not anything significant to the narcissist. We are all just objects that they use to make themselves feel whatever they want to feel. The longer you're around them, the more out of control you will feel because they will destabilize you mentally so that they can gain control of your emotions. You may act out of character and out of your mind. You may become very eager and enthusiastic, or wild and aggressive. To an outside observer, it may seem as though you're under a spell or as though you've taken a drug. But it's just because the narcissist has injected you with this poison. They've contaminated you, they've made you impure, so now you're not behaving sensibly or logically. You may feel like you're going insane because it's emotional abuse. They're deliberately controlling and manipulating you with emotionally abusive tactics to frighten, control, and isolate you. It's a pattern of behavior in which they insult, humiliate, and instill fear in you. Of course, you're not going to be thinking or acting normally because you're being abused. You're being used for a bad purpose, for something that you're not meant to be used for. Of course, it's going to have a harmful effect on you, and you might react to it in a way that is out of character.

But because narcissists are so delusional and deranged, they will take it as though that's actually who you are and as though that's how you would normally behave. They will ignore everything that happened up until that point, as though they never said or did anything to you, and you just became that way on your own. This is really insane and just shows how disconnected from themselves and reality they really are. They're living in a fantasy where you're someone else and they're someone else, rather than you being who you actually are. It's because they can't deal with reality. They can't deal with the fact that you're greater than them and you don't need them. In fact, they're the ones who need you, but they're also no good for you. Of course, that does not put them in a favorable mindset or position, but that's the reality of it. That is why they have to manipulate your emotions and try to drive you insane so that they can create a situation that is the furthest thing from reality. Otherwise, they would be at a huge disadvantage, and you would see them as they actually are. You would be laughing at them, wondering what you're even doing with them because they're not bringing anything to you. They have no value of their own, and you're the one who is hardworking and successful. You've gone through the trials and tribulations, and you've built yourself up to become the person that you are today, or the person that you were before you met the narcissist. They haven't accomplished anything in their lives. They only come around you to take value away because what else can they do? They have nothing to bring to you, nothing that a normal adult is going to be satisfied with. So, of course, they have to entertain these delusions where they're so much greater than they actually are, and you need them because reality is too painful for them to accept. It's traumatizing them, so they have to hide themselves in this fantasy world where they have this exaggerated sense of their own abilities and importance. The reality is that they are unimportant, insignificant, and irrelevant. They bring nothing to the table, and in fact, they are a liability. They put you at a disadvantage. They pull you out of reality and into their fantasy world, but you're not even a fraction of the person who you actually are.

So how is that any good for you? If you've done the work to achieve something in your life, you should at least be celebrated as the person that you are. But they can't even acknowledge it because their value and importance are so insignificant and inadequate that it would equate next to nothing in comparison to you. They know it. That's the whole point of the emotional manipulation and the false character. That is why they have to break you down mentally and emotionally. It's why they can't even acknowledge who you actually are because they already know that in comparison to you, they are nothing. They're worthless. They can only ever be a hindrance to your life. They can't build you up. They can't even be near you for a moment without appreciating your value. Yet we wonder why we feel crazy around them. It's because they've managed to manipulate and gaslight us to the point where we can't even see ourselves, and we can't see who they actually are. Everything is distorted. It has to be; otherwise, it would be very unfavourable for them, and we would just have to come to the obvious conclusion that they need us, and we don't need them. In fact, they always needed us, and we never needed them. They were a hindrance to our lives. They prevented us from doing better and being better while we were keeping them afloat. We were sustaining their false reality and their feelings of grandiosity and euphoria. That's all that it was. That was the only purpose of it. It was never meant to be anything more than that. Your sole purpose is to make them feel how they want to feel. It is a shared fantasy and a shared delusion. It has no basis in reality. It's not even real. The only thing that is real is the work you've done and the things that you've accomplished. Everything else on their end is just manipulation and an illusion. It's all fake. They just managed to trick you into believing that it was real. Yet we try to line things up with reality to make it make sense, and that is when we start to feel like we're losing our minds because it's not real. So it's not meant to make sense, and trying to make sense of it will only poison your mind.

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