THIS IS WHEN You've DEFEATED A Narcissist

Narcissists are losers. They are defeated people who are in a low position, so they are of low value. When you are dealing with one, you will always take some form of loss, and it may affect you mentally and emotionally. But when you find that you're no longer getting anxiety when you're around them or when you talk to them, it's because you're beginning to recover or you've already healed.

What they depend on is your reaction to them. They are able to dictate how you feel because it's all emotional manipulation. They're just manipulating your emotions. But when you no longer react to them in the same way, you have defeated the narcissist. They no longer have control; they're no longer able to affect how you think and feel and how you respond to them.

When you stop taking them seriously because you realize that what they're saying is not to be valued—because it's not credible, valid, or reasonable—you are able to remove yourself from their clutches. You realize that they don't hold any significant value. You understand that they're not going to make anything better for you in your life, so you begin to follow your own path. You begin to value the expression of your own thoughts, feelings, and ideas. You're no longer afraid to express yourself in front of them, which means that they can no longer completely hold your attention.

You made an effort to understand and deal with the situation because, up until that point, you took them seriously as though there was something helpful and important, as though they had qualities that were worthy of your admiration or respect, as though they held significant value because they would contribute something to you if you contributed something to them. But there is no equal exchange with a narcissist, which is why it's important to recognize that they're not suitable for that position. They're not worthy of your approval or acceptance. Where there isn't an equal exchange, someone is going to suffer. Someone is going to get the short end of the stick.

It's important for you to recognize that they do not hold any significant value. When you do that, you will have defeated them. When you no longer value them, they will immediately sense it, and it will affect them, especially if you're increasing your own value at the same time. They will know you're not coming back once you've found your definitive purpose because they know they never brought anything of value to the table. By that point, it's all over. It's a done deal.

It all depends on how you see them and how you feel about them. That's what will change your perception of them. They will feel self-conscious once you've defeated them, especially if you're continuing to progress. It makes them look bad because a lot of them sponge off you; they feed off you, so they bring you down.

When that happens, they're not going to want you to see them. They will disappear because they're embarrassed, and they know you're not going to feel bad for them after what they did to you. They will ghost you because they don't want to give you the satisfaction of being able to laugh at them while you're moving on and doing better without them. They don't want you to look down on them, so they'll stay hidden because they don't want to accept that they were defeated by you and that you escaped their emotional manipulation.

By that point, you've won, and there is no need for you to look back or try to figure out what happened. You've already won, and they won't want to look at it because that is your success. They tried to destroy you, and you rose above it. They can't believe it. It shocks them. After everything they did to try to bring you down, you're still happy, you're still winning, and there's nothing they can do about it. Their life has gone downhill; they failed, so all they can do is move forward.

They don't want to look back at where they have failed. When you're doing well and healing and progressing, they're not going to want to look back. They're not going to try to come back unless they know they have a chance. But if they know that they can't and they know you're not going to provide anything of value to them, that means you have won. You have defeated them.

They may try to come back because they want to be a part of the winning team, but they won't do the work to support you. Instead, they will expect you to support them.

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