This Is THE LAST THING The Narcissist Wants You To Do

This is something the narcissist does not want you to do, but it's also the quickest way for you to get your power back.

You met the narcissist and ended up liking them, but it's not a good thing because it's where the loss of your power, prosperity, and status begins. You're liking them too soon. You're too eager for it to happen. You're putting all of your eggs in one basket, risking everything you have on the success of one thing when you should be exploring other options.

They made you suddenly very attracted to them, sweeping you off your feet. You find yourself at their beck and call, ready to react to their commands without delay because you believe you've found someone of considerable importance and worth. You're in a state of happiness and excitement, a feeling of great enthusiasm and eagerness. You're infatuated with them, but they are just sitting back and observing the effects they have on you, both mentally and emotionally.

Because you like them a lot, you're willing to overlook certain things. You're willing to ignore mistakes or bad behavior because you really like them and want to show them that you're the best choice for them too. But you act before the proper and appropriate time, disclosing your intentions too soon. Now, you've already messed up because they can just hold out on you. They can refuse to give help or information, refuse to accept something they don't think is good enough, or refuse your offer and wait for a better one. You've willingly handed your power over to them, and they're going to take advantage of it and exploit it.

But there is a way for you to get your power back, although it may be something you don't want to do because you really like and want them. The one thing you really need to do is just let them go. Even when you witness their bad behavior, you didn't want to let go. You didn't want to walk away, and by not doing that, you gave them an advantage over you. You kept yourself locked in, didn't let go, didn't walk away—you stayed.

This is what the narcissist wants. If they see that you're really into them, if they see that you're too afraid of walking away because you fear losing something good, it results in you handing your power over to them. They see that you like them a lot more than you should because they haven't made enough effort or given you anything of enough worth or importance to justify your involvement with them in the first place. So, they feel like they can play with you, engage in different enjoyment and recreation rather than a serious or practical purpose. They feel like they can do things that give them an advantage, turning things in a different direction because they've got you open, completely committed to and very much in favor of them.

You don't want to walk away because you feel like if you do, you're going to lose something good and someone else is going to have it. But you're being deceived because you don't have enough information about them anyway. You don't know what they're going to be like or how they're going to treat you if you ever did get involved with them. All you have is their words. You need to recognize that they are causing things to develop in a way where you are being hurt. Once you see that, you need to be able to walk away and let go. This will make their manipulation ineffective, and they will no longer be able to use or control you.

They want to see how much tolerance you have for unfair treatment because they already know that what they're doing is unfair. They just want to see how you're going to react to it. They want to see if you're still going to stick around. If you do, they know they've got you under their spell, wrapped around their finger, completely under their control. They're always testing you to see if they have an advantage over you because they already know that with the things they're doing, you should be walking away, letting them go, and never looking back.

They're fine with you leaving because then they're just removing people who are not suitable, people they don't need. They're trying to find a suitable victim by eliminating people who aren't going to tolerate their behavior. They already know what they want, so they will test you to see how much you're willing to put up with. When they do that, you should just go, leave them, and forget about them. Whatever they're doing, you should be sure that there's more of that to come. They're not going to change or become a better person if you decide to stay. It's only going to get worse once they know that you're willing to put up with it.

You have to be fine with leaving and never looking back, without second-guessing yourself. They will try to come back, test you if they pushed you too far, and see if you're really done. They may even apologize, but if you give them another chance, then they know they've got you. Instead, you need to show them that you're not willing to play their childish games. You need to show them that they blew their chance. Keep your head up and keep going.

Even if, for whatever reason, you're still talking to them, you need to demote them from the higher position they previously had with you. Stop taking them seriously. See them as recreational use, something you engage in when you're bored because they've already shown you that they're not deserving of a higher position or better treatment. Demote them to a position and level of treatment that is more suitable for them after they tried something like that, after they tried to test you. They shouldn't have tried to do that to you.

That's how you've got to deal with it. They will test you, and you've just got to respond the right way by walking away and letting them go, and by not second-guessing yourself. This is how you will get your power back and prevent yourself from getting caught up in things that are not going to be good for you. It can be difficult to determine the difference between what's good and what is bad because they don't do it right away. They wait until you like them enough, and then they make their move. Then they start running their game because now you like them. They want to see how bad you want them, how much they can push you, and how strong you are.

That is why you've just got to walk away. They're going to continue to test you, and it's only going to get worse. You're never going to have any peace or rest as long as they're in your life. You're always going to be on edge, waiting for the other shoe to drop. You're never going to feel safe or comfortable as long as they're around. So, walk away and continue along your journey. Let them find someone who is more suitable for them, someone who is willing to play their fool and play their game.