The Narcissist Will DOWNGRADE With The Next Supply

Narcissists will downgrade after being with you, and they may be fully aware of what they are doing. They understand that they were the weaker half of the relationship when they were with you. They recognised that they were not on your level, which made them feel very insecure. This insecurity is why they devalued and discarded you or demoted you to a less important position as a form of punishment. They felt inferior to you and wanted to exert control. They sought the power to influence and direct your behaviour and the course of events, which they achieved by rejecting you.

Rejecting you gave them an ego boost. It made them feel better about themselves because you were more powerful, successful, and attractive than they were. By being mean to you and discarding you, they felt as though they had gained an advantage over you, as if they had proven they were better than you. In their minds, this meant they were superior. They didn’t fall for you like everyone else does. In reality, they were deeply insecure because they knew they weren’t good enough. They projected this insecurity onto you by trying to punish and correct you, based on how someone had wronged them in the past.

Narcissists have an overwhelming fear of rejection, abandonment, and exposure. They believe that if they reject you first, then you can’t reject them. This is why they push you away first. They already know you will never be happy with them. They know they are not on your level, which is why they acted dishonestly and insincerely. They pretended to be on your level, giving you a deceptive outward appearance. Beneath that façade, they knew they were not good enough for you and that you would not be satisfied with them over time.

You were a challenge to the narcissist—unachievable and out of their league. This is why they became competitive and tried to question your authority. They already saw you as being above them. They expected you to naturally have the power and the right to give orders, make decisions, and enforce boundaries. They could see that if anything went wrong in the relationship, it would affect you more than it would affect them. This is how they determined who was most valuable in the relationship—the person with the most to lose.

You were the one who had the most value in the relationship, which is why they acted so recklessly and carelessly. While you had so much value to offer, they had nothing to lose. They took advantage of the opportunity to criticise and make fun of you. They overindulged, as though they had been starving for weeks and someone suddenly offered them a feast. Their situation was so bad that it was worth taking the risk to be involved with you. Even if their actions were unsuccessful, it couldn’t make their situation any worse.

They saw you as a great opportunity—something that wouldn’t leave them worse off if they failed. They recognised that you were superior to them, which is why they manipulated you, lied to you, future-faked, devalued you, and gaslighted you. Eventually, they realised they couldn’t be you or possess your qualities. This made them feel insignificant in comparison to you. They tried to damage you, but they couldn’t break your spirit or destroy your self-esteem. They couldn’t take away your joy in life or your belief in yourself, even though that was their intention.

Despite their efforts, you kept your spirit alive. You continued to pursue enjoyment, fulfilment, and being there for others. They tried to break your spirit because they were only thinking about themselves. They are selfish and controlling, wanting full control of your mind, heart, and soul. However, you were too resilient for them. They had no choice but to downgrade.

Water seeks its own level, and people are usually attracted to those who are similar to them. This is why the narcissist will downgrade. It can be shocking to witness, but this is exactly what they do. They will find someone who can be easily persuaded and taken advantage of because they couldn’t have their way with you. They couldn’t get you to do what they wanted or break you. Yet, they need supply to survive. This results in disaster because they lose the supply you offered.

They believed they had no other choice because you were too much of a challenge, and they didn’t feel worthy of you. They felt like you were taking the spotlight away from them. Now, they’ve chosen to descend because it’s too much work for them to manipulate someone on your level. They’ve gone back to what is familiar—someone they can control, influence, and deprive. They’ve settled for someone who is foolish enough to go along with their agenda.

Sometimes, they may end up with another narcissist. This often leads to a lot of suffering, as neither can extract supply from the other. They both lack empathy, making it a struggle for them to meet their emotional needs. Narcissists often bond over targeting someone outside of the relationship because that’s the only way they can get their emotional needs met.

When the narcissist was with you, they were constantly walking on eggshells. They had to appear a certain way to gain your acceptance. However, when they are with another narcissist, they don’t have to worry about that. They can just be themselves. Being with you required them to pretend to be something they’re not, which was uncomfortable and exhausting for them.

They tried to change you, but instead, they had to change themselves. They put on an act, pretending to be interested in things they didn’t care about. This became unbearable for them. Eventually, they realised they couldn’t control you anymore, so they had no choice but to go back to their level. They settled for someone less attractive, less successful, and less intelligent because they couldn’t have their way with you.

The narcissist’s downgrade doesn’t reflect on you. It simply shows that they’ve returned to their level. They’ve gone back to what they’re familiar with, which is often toxic. They deserve someone who is the same as them. It’s unlikely they will ever find another empath, as individuals with high empathy are rare. They will remember how potent your supply was, but you were too challenging for them to handle. In the end, you have won because they failed to conquer you.

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