The Narcissist Wants You To Die Slowly & Painfully - TRIGGER WARNING

You may believe you are simply living your life, trying to avoid the narcissist and stay out of harm’s way. From your perspective, you are surviving, coping, and enduring. But the narcissist sees your existence very differently. From their perspective, you are dying slowly and painfully as a direct result of everything they are doing to you, and disturbingly, that perspective may not be entirely inaccurate. If you compare who you are now to who you were before the narcissist entered your life, the difference is undeniable. Your way of thinking has changed. Your attitudes, behaviours, and beliefs are no longer the same. You are not who you once were, and that is not accidental. You are being erased. The narcissist wipes you out methodically, stripping away every trace of your authentic self. Their objective is not merely to hurt you, but to eliminate you entirely. Yet they want no blood on their hands. They do not want to be responsible for your death. Instead, they want you to carry the blame, as if you are responsible for your own abuse. They want to drive you into an early grave while appearing innocent.

This is why narcissists rely so heavily on flying monkeys and covert tactics. Their goal is to break you without ever touching you. They want to destroy you psychologically while avoiding legal consequences, and many have succeeded. Countless victims have been ruined with no evidence, no accountability, and no justice, which narcissists often view as an achievement. Another conquest. Another win. They survive by presenting a false image of innocence and blamelessness. Much of what they do operates under the radar, undetected by others. This is psychological warfare. It is a battle for your mind. They use propaganda, manipulation, and psychological conditioning to influence your emotions, beliefs, attitudes, and behaviour with one purpose: to weaken you and reinforce behaviours that serve their objectives. They want you to become small, silent, and powerless.

Once they gain control, they believe they are entitled to destroy you completely. And you are not their first victim. They have done this before. They may even boast about it. They feel no remorse for the damage they cause. They may appear kind and charming in the beginning, but betrayal is inevitable. No matter what you gave them, it will never be enough. Their aim is to crush your spirit. They want you defeated, discouraged, and hopeless. They want the world to feel dark and oppressive, with no light and no way forward, because when you reach that state, you become easier to manipulate.

That is when unhealthy coping begins. They push you toward addictions, destructive behaviours, and moral compromises. They may even encourage substance use, knowing it will weaken you further. This behaviour is driven by envy. They despise your confidence. They resent what you have and who you are. They want what you possess, so they take it. They rob you emotionally, psychologically, and sometimes materially. They devalue and degrade you, alternating between flattery and rejection, but the message is always the same: you are not allowed to coexist with them. They may smile to your face, but secretly they cannot stand you. You remind them of what they lack. You expose their inferiority. You outshine them. You see through them, and that makes you dangerous.

So they sabotage your success. They surround you with people who envy or dislike you. They ensure you are constantly drained, used, and abused. Your happiness enrages them. Your laughter reminds them of their own emptiness. They want you miserable, anxious, and afraid of the future. Ultimately, they want you to give up on life. That is their end goal. They cannot tolerate your joy because it exposes their misery. They may perform exaggerated displays of happiness, but it is hollow. They know your joy is real, and they know they will never have it unless they destroy you.

Everything seems effortless for you, and that infuriates them. You create, attract, and build with ease while they struggle endlessly with little reward. Your freedom, confidence, and self-acceptance are unbearable to them, so they burden you. They dump obligations and unnecessary responsibilities on you to restrict and contain you. Slowly, your happiness fades. You stop doing the things you once loved. Your authentic self becomes a memory. You begin to live in the past because the present feels heavy and the future feels threatening. A constant dark cloud follows you, and worry becomes your baseline.

This is what prolonged exposure to a narcissist does. You cannot coexist with them and thrive. They must elevate themselves at your expense because they have no internal power of their own. They draw it from you. That is why your stress levels skyrocket with no return. You are being depleted. Over time, your body and mind deteriorate. Your health declines without clear explanation. When the narcissist sees this, their cruelty intensifies. They take pleasure in your suffering. Your losses amuse them. Money, health, and attractiveness are often targeted because these are the things they envy most.

Everything becomes a competition, even when it makes no sense. They rig the game because fairness does not matter. What matters is winning. They know they will never truly be better than you, but if they can create the illusion that they are, that is enough. To a narcissist, relationships are not bonds but battlegrounds. Everyone is a threat, especially you. You stand out. People notice you, and that alone makes you a target. They get close to destroy. They orchestrate chaos while pretending to help. They control everything, then blame you when it falls apart. They demand total control without accountability, which is why they always assign blame to the victim.

It brings them joy. The ultimate victory for a narcissist is abusing someone for years while convincing the world that the victim is the problem. In their ideal outcome, you are ruined. Addicted. Institutionalized. Imprisoned. Or gone. They want to transform a joyful, carefree person into someone who no longer wants to live. That is when they believe their mission is complete. Until then, they keep pushing, poking, and prodding. They are waiting for the breaking point. Because to them, your collapse is the climax. And that is what excites them.

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