The Narcissist Has To PREDICT Your Next Move

Dealing with a narcissist is always a constant game. Even when it may seem like it's not a game, even when they may be smiling, laughing, or joking, they're still plotting against you. They're always trying to find a way to take you down, which is why they need to predict what you're about to do. They need to be two steps ahead of you, which I like to call the "anticipation mode."

Narcissists have to anticipate your next move. They need to imagine or expect that something will happen. Your thoughts, feelings, actions, and behaviors have a lot of power. They can direct and influence the behavior of other people and the course of events. But narcissists want to be the ones in control. They want to restrain your emotions and actions because, at times, they also want to entice you. As long as they can determine your behavior and maintain influence and authority, they feel secure.

Narcissists are very weak and insecure, so they don't want to be on the receiving end of any emotional turmoil. They want to be in a position of power over you. They want to be the ones who remain calm and reasonable despite provocation. Despite what they have led you to believe, you are very powerful. They may not realize this initially or while they are still engaged with you, but when they walk away or you leave them, it becomes evident to them. They still long and yearn to be around you.

This realization frustrates them. It causes them to feel upset and annoyed as a result of being unable to change or achieve something. Despite what you may have been led to believe, you are actually a lot more powerful than you think. It may seem as though you're just making them angry, but you also have the power to arouse sexual desire and interest in them, especially deliberately. They may even fantasize and daydream about you. But once they realize that it's something they can no longer achieve or obtain, it frustrates them even more and makes them want to take it out on someone else.

When all they may really want is to have something with you again, but since they know that you're on to them and you're not coming back, they can't participate in the fun, enjoyment, and lighthearted pleasure. They get mad, become hateful, and then lash out again. They desire to control you. If they can't participate, then it shouldn't even exist; it should be destroyed. So it immediately becomes this chess game or this game of cat and mouse where they're constantly trying to hunt you down and contain you. But it's actually because they realize they've made a huge mistake. They just don't want to accept it. They don't want to accept that they lost something valuable about you.

They don't want to deal with the shame and the pain. They don't want to deal with the regret. That is the last thing a narcissist wants to feel. They don't want to feel sad or disappointed about something they have done or failed to do. That's how they want you to feel. From this point, it's all about making you feel regret, making you feel like you made a mistake and now you can't have something with them, as though you're missing out, as though you now fail to benefit from something useful or fun by not taking part in it.

The reality is you already knew what they were like all along. That's why you shut yourself off from them when they began to devalue you and treat you with contempt. You already knew that you didn't want to be a part of that. You were longing and desiring for something else where you actually felt wanted, where you felt someone would do anything for you, and you would do anything for them. Because that's what we want.

Narcissists have the arrogance and audacity to think that you would want someone who lacks self-awareness and empathy. They actually believe that you would desire to connect with someone like that when you were never looking for something like that to begin with. You just wanted to have fun. You wanted to have a good time, which is something you're never going to experience with them, and they know it. Because they're like a machine, constantly anticipating what's about to happen. They can't live in the present moment, and that just takes all of the enjoyment away. Because that's what fun is—it's not knowing what is about to happen. It's letting things play out naturally. It's unpredictable.

Yet they're always trying to predict how things are going to pan out with you because that's their idea of fun. Their idea of fun is control. That's fun for them because they can't be vulnerable. They can't relax and enjoy themselves because they're so worried about their image and trying to be better than other people. It's no fun being around someone like that. When you're around them, you can't have a good time. You become tense and uptight. You're worried about what they're going to do next because they're unpredictable, but not in a good way. They're always seeking to harm you or get one over on you because they're seeking power and control. They're very insecure and lack self-love.

For them, it's all about getting you to see yourself in some type of way so that they can feel better at your expense. Misery loves company. People who are unhappy take comfort in knowing they're not alone in their suffering. But because they can't uplift themselves or be uplifted by others, they feel no desire to make you happy. Instead, you stay stuck whenever you're around them. The situation never progresses. They deflect their misery and pain onto you. You go home with your head down, feeling defeated.

That's just the only way that it can be. It's never going to be anything different. You're never going to feel like you actually had a good time. There's always going to be something else playing on your mind. You're never going to feel at peace with yourself following an interaction with them. You're always going to second-guess yourself. You're always going to feel like you have to anticipate or predict something they've said or done by guesswork. It's always going to be a head game with them, where they deceive you by creating illusory ideas that are not real.

I've already done a video on this topic as well. The best you will ever get from a narcissist is an illusion. It will never be anything real. It will be based on a deceptive resemblance or faulty observation or influenced by emotions that prevent a clear view. It will only mislead you from the truth. The truth is that they can't be vulnerable. They can't let their hair down because they're too uptight. They have this desperate need for control where they can't be themselves around you because they feel unlovable. They believe that you would never want the real them, which results in them having this desperate need for control.

They create alternate realities and fake worlds. They create all these different meanings and interpretations. Everything they do always seems rehearsed because they fear rejection and exposure. They don't want you to have the upper hand. They don't want you to get one over on them. They're very paranoid and hyper-vigilant, so they're always on edge. They're always waiting for the next shoe to drop. If you're around them long enough, you will become the exact same way. You will become just like them because they will train you to be attuned to their emotions.

They will make you receptive and aware, willing to accept new suggestions and ideas by receiving signals and stimuli that make you open and responsive. Yet they will genuinely believe that they are studying and learning you when all they're actually doing is getting a reflection of themselves. They're brainwashing you. They're pressurizing you into adopting drastically different beliefs by using systematic and forcible means. Nothing real comes by pressure or force. They're using persuasion and intimidation to make you do something or to make you react in a certain way. All they're getting is a reflection of themselves, and they're very insecure. They hate themselves, which just makes them lash out at you even more.

They never actually see the real you. All they see are bits and pieces of themselves or someone else. You can't be yourself around a narcissist, around someone who is self-absorbed and lacks sympathy, empathy, and compassion. These qualities allow us to be ourselves in the company of other people. The ability to understand and share the feelings of another person is crucial. But because they lack empathy, you will never be able to be yourself around them, even when you think that you are.

Even when you respond to certain suggestions or stimuli, whether they're love bombing you or giving you a facade, it's not real. How can you be real if you're responding to something that isn't real? It's them being reflected back to you. You can only be real if you identify that what you're interacting with is not real. That's why the only way you will discover yourself is by leaving them alone. In time, you will find that this is what brings you happiness. Because they lack empathy, they're unable to receive you as you actually are. They have to mold you into what they want you to be.

They disown the parts of themselves that they don't like and assign them to you. They will always see you as being fake, always thinking something is not right with you when there's actually nothing wrong with you at all. If you have empathy, if you have the ability to share another person's feelings or experiences by imagining what it would be like to be in their situation, the problem lies with them. Because they lack empathy, they're unable to understand you. It's because they're weak and insecure. It's because they're unintelligent, ignorant, and foolish. They can't see what is right in front of their eyes because they're self-absorbed and lack empathy.

They're seeking power and control because they know that you are intelligent and that you will naturally be ten steps ahead of them without even making an effort. So they become highly skilled at their thinking over time. They feel like they're in a fight for their lives, which a lot of times they are because they're holding on to their false character and the illusion, which is all that they have in their lives. As I've said before, there is nothing that they value outside of that. So they know they've got to act fast. They've got to make a decision quickly. But by doing that, they accumulate a lot of wrong decisions, which leads them in the wrong direction.

A lot of times, all they're getting is this reflection of themselves because they lack empathy. You're just reacting to whatever they're throwing at you. You're not taking your time to think and respond from an authentic place. So all they get are bits and pieces of other people, things that you've learned from someone else rather than your true and authentic ideas and beliefs, which is exactly what they're looking for. But those are also the very things they're never going to get from you, no matter how hard they try. Because they can't be themselves around you, they fear rejection and exposure. So by default, all they will ever get from you is this reflection of themselves that they're trying to hide.

When you finally part ways, they will feel like they've got you all figured out. They will feel like they know exactly who you are. In fact, they've just been unknowingly studying themselves. While you will walk away feeling like you're missing out on the fun and enjoyment, the entire time they were trying to control you. When you're being restrained and oppressed, naturally you're going to have these thoughts and desires, which they will then assume is who you are and what you're about. This is why they will then come back with a Hoover and try to entice you sexually because they think that's what you want. When in reality, you wanted something more all along.

They may never tell you this, but deep down, that's actually what they wanted as well. But they were distracted by other things that weren't even serving them. Because they're very insecure, they're always looking for control. That control is the very thing that prevents them from getting what they want in the end. It doesn't prevent you because you're free to move on and do what you want to do. You're able to express yourself to anyone who's able to receive it. But they're left stuck, unable to express their thoughts and feelings unself-consciously and without restraints.

They will never be free and natural, which is what they've wanted all along. But they could never get it because they're just too insecure, which means that they must obtain power and control at all costs. This results in them becoming very competitive, always trying to outdo and one-up you. They're always trying to fool you because deep down, that's exactly how they feel. They feel like they've been fooled. They've been sold a lie, a dream, a fantasy that they're never going to receive. While they see you moving on, and while things may not be perfect for you, you're still able to smile and be happy. You're still able to live your life in a natural way. You're still able to find pleasure in the little things in life.

This is something that they can't do, which results in you becoming very mysterious to them. They wonder why you're so happy because they just can't understand where it's coming from. They're constantly trying to interpret it as things outside of yourself because they don't understand that our happiness can be generated from within. They don't know what real happiness even feels like. That will always remain a mystery to them. But it's also the reason why they come around you in the first place.

You may think that it's because of the things you have or the life you live. While that may be a part of it, it's your glow, your shine, your carefree attitude of being free from anxiety and responsibility that attracted them to you initially. But over time, they begin to realize that they can't be like that, and they're never going to be like that. So they begin to hate that they can't be you, and then they decide to take it away from you by piling on all of these problems, worries, and responsibilities. They want to destroy that innocent, carefree side of you. Once they realize that they can't be like that and they can't receive it, because once you know what they're about, you can't be that way around them anymore, it makes them feel like something is wrong with them.

The last thing they want is for you to be that way with someone else. They will do anything to destroy it because that is real love. Real love is letting go of everything that you were told you should be, everything that you were told should matter, and just being in the now unapologetically. It's not trying to make the other person into what you want them to be, but just letting them be themselves. Letting them give you the answers based on what they think is important without judging them, but just letting them exist as they are.

Narcissists are just so full of fear and shame that they can't ever do that. They will always feel the need to control. The longer you are around them, you will find yourself becoming that way as well. But inside of you, that part of you will always be there when it's needed. No matter what they do, that's just something they can't take away.

This is why they will always come back with a Hoover to try to entice you. It's not because they actually want to make the effort and give you anything. It's because they know that part of you is not going anywhere, so they might as well use it to their advantage instead of being on the receiving end of it, where it would otherwise overpower them. It will frustrate them when they realize that they can't be a part of it. It will make them want to outsmart you and confuse you. It will make them want to make you look and feel bad.

They will publicly humiliate and shame you because, yes, love is a serious threat to their sense of power and control. They will come back just to prevent you from moving on with someone else. They will try to strip you of your free will by getting you to cave into your desires with them because they already know that it's not going to be real. If they can't do that, they will play the victim. They will make false accusations against you. They will lie and say what you're doing is bad or wrong. Now they know they're on to you. They figured you out. They solved the puzzle. There's nothing more to be said. It's the be-all and end-all.

They just can't enjoy the journey. It does nothing for them. They're constantly seeking the end goal, bringing you down with them. That's the only thing that fulfills them. They can't experience real love, so it's all about tearing you down because they don't want you to feel like you have something real. This is why they're so concerned about your consumption and how it leads to your fulfillment. While they might consume the very things that you do, they're still not going to get the same result.

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