Narcissists Like DEGRADING Sex

There are deeply degrading behaviours that are often practiced against unwilling participants, and these are commonly associated with malignant narcissists. Yet, this is not talked about enough. Many victims suffer in silence, which is why I felt compelled to create this post. This is especially important for victims of sexual abuse, whether male or female.

As I’ve mentioned in previous videos, narcissists experience sexual attraction very differently from normal people. Their sexual desire is not based on intimacy, mutual respect, or connection. It is one-sided, transactional, and potentially aggressive or violent. Narcissists view sex primarily as a means of gaining power and control. The victim could be anyone. It might be a partner, a family member, or even a child. In extreme cases, some narcissists may engage in bestiality, involving sexual contact with animals or pets. In these instances, the activity is abusive and harmful to the child or animal, but malignant narcissists do not care. They may have preferences, but they will exploit anyone or anything and feel no guilt.

I have interviewed people involved in incestuous relationships, as well as men convicted of sexual contact with prepubescent children, and men convicted of rape. I am not a psychologist, so I cannot diagnose anyone, but based on their behaviour, I would assume many of these individuals were malignant narcissists, as all of these acts are abusive and demonstrate a clear intent to harm. I have no continued contact with these individuals, and these interviews were strictly for educational purposes. I would never consider further contact with anyone engaged in these activities unless they were undergoing intensive therapy, and even then, contact would be limited.

Believe it or not, bestiality is still legal in several countries, including Japan, Cuba, Russia, and Chile. I have never interviewed anyone involved in bestiality, so my experience in this area is limited. I have been a vegan for the past four years, and as many of you may know, I raised my cat, Nala, from the age of eight weeks. She is now six years old. So, as you can imagine, bestiality is a particularly sensitive subject for me. If anyone reading this has knowledge in this area and is willing to participate in a private interview, I would be open to it strictly for educational purposes, without judgment.

Over the past five years of studying narcissistic personality disorder, I have noticed a clear pattern of behaviour among the people I have interviewed. Men convicted of rape often exhibit denial. They refuse to acknowledge the truth or try to justify their actions as if it were a misunderstanding. This is likely because they are aware that their behaviour is shameful. Of course, it is possible that some convicted individuals are innocent. Statistics show that between two and ten percent of convicted individuals in US prisons may be innocent. It is common for defendants to plead guilty to crimes they did not commit, often to receive a lighter sentence. Yet, despite this, denial remains a consistent pattern among many convicted rapists, which is different from the patterns observed in paedophiles. Paedophiles often boast about their crimes and show no shame, while rapists, who are often malignant narcissists or sociopaths, may feel embarrassment.

Malignant narcissists and psychopaths share one key trait: they will do anything to get what they want, including using sex as a weapon. They do not care about a person’s age or gender and will exploit anyone ruthlessly. They may target children, whether from a previous relationship or their own biological child, sexualizing and dominating them. They may groom victims until they reach a certain age, then exploit them. They may involve other family members or anyone close to you to establish control. Sex becomes a tool to degrade and destroy, rather than an experience of connection.

Even if a narcissist is seeing multiple partners, they will keep sex on your mind because they see it as a way to control you. Ironically, they are also controlled by their own sexual urges, which is why sex dominates every interaction. Over time, victims may come to hate sex, viewing it as meaningless because they are forced to think about or do things they do not want. Narcissists create the illusion that you have no choice. Their goal is to destroy your ambitions, hope, and sense of self. They dominate you physically, psychologically, or both, leaving you isolated and distrustful. Often, they disappear without explanation, leaving no closure. Some are attractive or charming, making it easy for them to secure new sources of supply while continuing the cycle. Even then, they are rarely satisfied, and the cycle of manipulation repeats.

This inability to experience healthy intimacy drives them to degrade and dehumanize others. They reduce your dignity and self-worth, often causing shame and guilt, which is exactly what they want. They shift blame, deflect responsibility, and avoid accountability for their actions. It is not you. Their behaviour is a projection of their own brokenness.

When you heal from the abuse and learn to trust again, you will find someone who values and appreciates you. You will understand why it never worked with the narcissist: all they care about is power. They are insecure, shame-based individuals who do everything to avoid reflecting on themselves. They attempt to take your power and control, smear your name, and destroy what is good in your life. In trying to destroy you, they often end up destroying themselves, though many of them do not care. They are focused solely on the moment and their own gratification, not on the future, not even their own well-being. So why would they care about you or anyone else?

If you found this post helpful, please like, comment, and share to help others understand these patterns. Remember, you are not alone. Your experience is valid. Your worth is not defined by their abuse. Healing is possible, and support is available.