Narcissists Are Junkies

Narcissists lack control over themselves and their behavior. They lack obedience and order because they never received any authoritative commands or instructions. No one ever told them what is right and what is wrong. Instead, they were surrounded by enablers their entire lives—people who encouraged their self-destructive behavior.

As a result, they ended up becoming like unruly children—people who have a lack of discipline. They behave badly and are notoriously difficult to control because they have this sense of arrogance and entitlement. They believe that they should have whatever they want without doing the work or paying the price. Not only that, but they believe that they should be put first, ahead of those who have done the work and suffered through trials and tribulations.

Narcissists are delusional. They detach from reality, driven by their ego and an obsessive need to feel important and superior. There isn't even any concrete evidence to justify their belief; they are just going off their feelings. They use you to regulate their emotions, becoming like junkies—people who have a compulsive habit of keeping you down and feeding off your energy.

They are like adrenaline junkies, with a compulsive desire for excitement and adventure, but at the same time, they are very lazy. They want everything to be easy and handed to them on a plate, even though they haven't done the work to earn it. They are addicted, mentally dependent on it because it's all they've ever known. They developed these addictions to things that are bad and distasteful—things that are self-destructive and harm them and the people around them.

Such behaviors include:

- Alcohol

- Drugs

- Video games

- Gambling

- Shopping

- Social media

- Cheating, lying, and stealing

They are constantly engaged in these destructive and immoral acts because it feeds their ego and makes them feel powerful and important. They are addicted to the dopamine hit that these activities give them—a chemical that releases in their brain and makes them feel good. While dopamine plays a role in pleasure, motivation, and learning, it is also linked to some major diseases. The main concern is the type of behaviors and activities they engage in to achieve these dopamine hits and how it affects them following the release of this chemical in their brain. Does it cause them to become more productive or compassionate, or does it only fuel their disorder and make them even more narcissistic?

If it does, then it's probably not good for them or the people around them because it's destructive and causes great and irreparable damage. What they really need is more oxytocin—the love hormone associated with empathy, trust, sexual activity, and relationship building. It may also have benefits as a treatment for conditions like depression and anxiety, which many narcissists suffer from.

However, narcissists are self-absorbed and lack empathy, so they cannot share your feelings or experiences. They can't see you as a separate person with your own needs. Although they may engage with you in the beginning, you end up feeling neglected and left out, questioning your own worth by the time they're finished with you. Deep down, you know that you deserve better treatment. You value love, intimacy, and connection, but that doesn't do anything for them.

They can't receive your love because no one ever taught them what love is. By default, all they can do is devalue or reject you. They can't give you something they don't have. They are not concerned about love or compassion; they are like robots, only concerned about the end goal rather than the journey it takes to get there. They are only interested in pleasure to relieve their mood, depression, and appetite.

In the end, you feel used, like they just chewed you up and spat you out. You question your own worth, but the truth is that it has nothing to do with you. The problem is in their brains; they are missing the component of love, connection, and intimacy. They are not fueled by oxytocin but by dopamine, which destroys every relationship they get into and tears everything apart.

This is why many of them end up dying alone. Without love and connection, people don't want to be around them. People would rather be alone than be around someone who feels nothing and has no love to give. Narcissists are self-absorbed and lack empathy, so they see you as an object to use to feel better at your expense. They have a rapist mentality, feeling entitled to your body, mind, and energy without your consent.

They need help to process their traumas, but they are never going to do that because they lack self-awareness. They see you as a problem or a danger, enabling them to continue harassing and stalking you. They need to avoid them at all costs because they mean you no well. They believe that life is unfair to them, so they feel entitled to take from you. They will act like they need your help but will only end up invalidating, devaluing, and destroying you in the end.

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