How You Know You're Dating A Narcissist

You will know that you're dating a narcissist because they will pull you into their fun house. They will lure you into their amusement facility, which is equipped with various devices designed to surprise and amuse you. It's a thrill ride, a roller coaster. It has ups and downs; it's never consistent and always unpredictable. You never know what's going to happen next.

It incorporates aspects of a playful obstacle course where you have to jump through hoops. You have to go through an elaborate and complicated procedure to achieve an objective. You have to do a series of difficult, unpleasant, and annoying things to please them or to get what you want.

In the beginning, they make it seem like fun because that's all it really is when you're with a narcissist. But it's also designed to confuse you. In their fun house, there's a series of rooms and passageways, many of which have sloping or moving floors, distorting mirrors, and other devices. It's designed to make it difficult for you to find your way out, and that's when it's no longer fun. You want to get out, you want the games to stop, but you can't find your way out.

This is what narcissists do once they've gotten you addicted to them. It can be difficult to tell if you're actually dealing with a narcissist because they will mirror other people, play the victim, and act like you've done something to them. They do this to seem the same as other people and to remain undetected. They know that what they're doing isn't normal or socially acceptable, and they know that most people wouldn't agree to it if they knew what it was. So, they have to hide, disguise, and conceal who they really are and what they're really trying to do. Instead, they put on an act and perform well enough so that it's still effective.

To pull you in, they make it fun and exciting initially. They use future promises and detailed visions of the future to facilitate bonding and connection. They keep you hooked by making the kinds of future promises you want to hear, whether it's marriage, having children, or even just traveling together. But they will always hold you off. They will deliberately delay doing something; they won't do it immediately. They will resist and prevent you from advancing or approaching. They will only give you a limited amount of entertainment but will lead you to believe that something is coming if you just hold on a little longer.

There are so many twists and turns, so many surprising changes, curves, and frequent changes of direction where you never know what's going to happen next. They will use money or their physical appearance to seduce you, to keep you stuck, to keep you lost in this little world they have created for you. They get you involved in difficult and confusing situations because there are so many twists and turns.

They get you caught up initially by giving you something that you like. They stand out by doing things that most people wouldn't do. They do more than what you might desire from them. They exceed your expectations because they really want to leave an impact. They want to have a strong and permanent influence on you. You may be fine with that in the beginning because you don't realize what you're being pulled into. In the beginning, it's fun; you're having a good time, and they're not doing anything bad.

But then, when it finally happens, you don't see it because as time goes by, they stop doing the things that they used to do. They forget your birthday, they won't take you on trips. In the beginning, they put in so much effort and made it seem like it was real. That's what pulls you back to what got you lost in their world. Once they know they've got you locked in, they flee. They clear out quickly, leaving you there by yourself. They change up on the things they were doing for you before and start demanding things from you. They always demand things that they're not even giving to you. They want your love and emotion, but they don't want to commit. They just want your soul.

You never expected it to be like this. If you had known, you would never have gotten involved with them in the first place. Now you want to leave because you realize that things aren't as they appear. When you've got one foot out the door, that's when the narcissist will love you the most. That's when they will bring back the false character because they can see that they're scaring you. They can see that you see something's not right. They know their behaviors are disagreeable and unpleasant; they know it made you want to pull away. So, they try to pull you back. They bring back the false character and try to make you feel comfortable again by giving you another taste of what made you become attracted to them in the first place.

This is how you know you're dating a narcissist because it's very inconsistent. They're constantly appearing and disappearing. They're hot and cold. You never know where you stand with them because they love you one minute and hate you the next. You got pulled into it because it was fun in the beginning. Maybe at the time, you didn't have much else to do, so you had fun. That's what left an impact on you because while they were being fake, it was a real experience for you.

You need to recognize that they have an agenda. They have different motives, which are very different from who they pretended to be. That's who they really are. They're crazy, full of problems because they were really trying to play you. They were trying to engage with you for enjoyment and recreation rather than for a serious or practical purpose. They knowingly used your emotions to get validation from you. That is why they dealt with you in a way that lacked seriousness, good sense, or deeper meaning. They just wanted you all to themselves, even while they were treating you badly, cruelly, and unfairly. This is how you should know that there is no future with them because even though they got this far with you, they still ended up mistreating you. They still messed it up because they're unable to control their actions. It's a pattern of behavior that they cannot control, and it will always produce the same results.