This test will help you to identify if the narcissist is cheating on you. It will help you to identify if the narcissist is in a committed relationship with you and only you. Or if they're seeking validation from other sources of supply. This test will tell you everything you need to know about the narcissist. It will tell you if it's time for you to get rid of them. Everything you need to know about the narcissist is hidden in their phone. Their phone will tell you everything you need to know about them. Think about when you last looked at the narcissist's phone. When did you last see what they were doing on there. To test whether or not the narcissist is cheating on you, you just have to look at their phone. They can hide behind their false image. They're very good at deceiving people. But you don't really know what they're doing. If they're always hiding their phone from you, that's a good sign that they may be cheating on you. But it's not enough proof. It's not enough to confirm your suspicions about them. So you need to check their phone. You need to see who they're talking to. But you don't want to do this during an argument. The best time to do this is when you're having a good time. When you're both calm and relaxed. Because that's when you're really going to be able to identify whether or not they're hiding something from you. Ask them to exchange phones with you for an hour. And then pay attention to their reaction. Because that will tell you all you need to know. Especially if they walk away from you. Because that means they're trying to delete messages or block phone numbers.
So try to keep them engaged. Don't let them walk away. But if they do walk away from you, that means that they do have something to hide. Or they will try to make you feel like there's something wrong with you checking their phone. As though you're invading their privacy. Or they will tell you you're just being paranoid. They will say that you don't trust them. They will try to make you feel like you're doing something wrong, because they know that they're doing something wrong. But if they do that, that's a good thing for you. Because then you're not going to waste any more of your time and energy on them. You can invest your time somewhere else. If you ask the narcissist to exchange phones and they get angry or upset, that should tell you all you need to know. Some narcissists may even break up with you if you ask them to do that. Because the validation they get from their other sources of supply means more to them than you do. But when you give them this test, no matter how they respond, it will be in your favour. Because even if you find out that they are cheating on you, it will set you free. You will know what you need to do next. If you find out that the narcissist is cheating on you, you should not invest any more of your time with them. Because that shows that they do not respect you. That shows that they do not value your relationship. If the narcissist has nothing to hide from you, they will give you their phone. But the phone isn't that important. It's their reaction that should tell you what you need to know. If they try to make you feel like you're doing something wrong. If they tell you that you don't trust them. Which is why this test is very important. Because it will tell you if you should waste any more of your time and energy with them. When you give narcissists this test, most of them will fail. But it's good to do this test, because then you can be sure. It will tell you whether or not the narcissist is loyal and committed to you.
I am horrified with how weak I have become . Never been like this in my life . Always self- assured , funny , decent , calm & kind . Now, I can't string together a cohesive line of thoughts / actions / words . Just tears and emptiness . And I still love her .
The sad thing is in hindsight who cares because they never loved you anyway.