Covert Narcissists Are PATHETIC

Narcissists can be so brainless and stubborn that at times you may feel sorry for them because they're desperately seeking attention and validation from you. Sometimes you may just give in because you feel bad for them, but then it inflates their ego, and they suddenly start thinking they're better than you. If they weren't such attention seekers, you probably never would have even noticed them. You never would have known that they even existed.

They couldn't help but notice you, and it was very lonely for them when they had their eye on you, but you weren't even aware of their existence. So, they had to make themselves known to you by doing every possible subtle thing to catch your attention. Otherwise, they knew that you were not going to notice them. They knew that you were beyond their scope, out of their range. So, they had to pull you into their realm through inappropriate tactics, provocation, or overly dramatic and undignified actions.

It's very lonely for them in their world where no one would naturally acknowledge their existence. People typically overlook them because that's just how it goes for the covert narcissist. People just don't notice them; they're not that attractive or interesting. So, they typically target people who stand out, people who attract attention naturally. Then, they try to steal the spotlight away from you and position themselves as the star of the show, even when there's nothing special or unique about them.

People give them attention because they feel bad for them, not because they actually think they're deserving of it. But they use that to inflate their egos and validate this false reality that they're all-powerful, attractive, and desirable. The reality is that you would never have even been aware of their mere existence if they had not gone out of their way to attract your attention.

Everything they do is fake. They put on a show, but that's not who they really are. They fabricate a character to manipulate you and bring you into their realm to keep you under their control so that they can use you for supply. You are the real star of the show. You are the one with all the abilities and talents. They just don't want you to know that because if you did, you would realize that there is no reason for you to keep them around. You would continue on your journey without them once you realize that they're not even bringing anything to the table. All they're doing is taking the spotlight away from you while you're funding the cost of their performance through your own personal means.

It's not serving you in any way; it's not even benefiting you. In fact, it imposes a hindrance to your life. But they don't want you to come to that conclusion because they fear rejection, humiliation, and ridicule. That's why they created a false character to protect themselves because they don't want to be judged. But that's also why they can't be vulnerable. The false character is all they have, so it can only ever be fake, shallow, and superficial. This means that you can never talk about anything serious, and the relationship can never progress in a meaningful way. You will never feel like you're on the same page because they have an inability to experience an emotional connection. They can't be intimate because, for them to do that, they would need to have a true self. But all they have is the false character, which is shallow and superficial; it lacks depth.

But yes, you're never going to feel like you're close to them, and you're never going to develop a meaningful relationship with them. This may arouse pity or sympathy from you because all they can do is prance around like their doesn't stink. They follow themselves, thinking that every little thing about them is perfect. They assume an air of arrogance, condescension, and superiority and believe that they are better or more refined than other people when it's just all in their heads. They're actually very insecure; they have low self-esteem. They're just using your attention to inflate their ego without acknowledging the fact that you never would have realized their existence if they didn't flaunt themselves in front of you as though they're the most important person in this world.

Although they may act joyful and cheerful at times, it's actually just a front. It's a deceptive outward appearance, and it's something they use to distract themselves from their self-loathing. They actually struggle with being positive and uplifting, which is why they will rarely compliment you or say nice things about you or praise you on your progress and accomplishments. They will never celebrate your success; they will never raise you up. Instead, they will mock you and gossip about you. They will always find a way to downplay it to bring you down to their level so that you feel just as bad as they do. Then, they can feel more comfortable around you.

These are the same expectations that they set for their own children. No matter what the child does, they will be told it wasn't good enough. Even if they accomplish something beyond belief, it will be overlooked, or they will be told that they could have done better. Yet, at the same time, they will view their child as an extension of themselves and will suffocate them. They will be overbearing and domineering to the point where it prevents the child from establishing their own self-identity because everything has to revolve around their narcissistic parent.

Narcissists are often so out of touch with reality that they won't even be embarrassed about revealing which one is their Golden Child and scapegoat child. They will infantilize their children, treating them in a way that denies their maturity in age or experience to encourage or even force them to behave like a child. They want to keep the child as their lifelong source of supply, which is pathetic because no one in the right state of mind would do that to their own child. Instead, they would give the child room to mature at their own pace.

Narcissists are very immature; they're emotionally underdeveloped, which is why they often throw tantrums like a 2-year-old child. They were never disciplined correctly, so they experience a narcissistic injury if things don't go their way or if they don't get what they want. They will then take it out on you because they always have to win, even if it's something insignificant. They have to get their way; they have to make you do what they want you to do. Otherwise, they feel like they're losing control because they're very insecure. They're a child in an adult body, so they need to feel comforted and soothed by something outside of themselves. They need an external regulator, a pacifier, because they can't regulate their emotions from within, which is essentially the same thing as a baby sucking its thumb.

That's what you are to the narcissist, which is why they will yell and scream or give you the silent treatment when it's not even that you've done anything wrong or that things are unfair to them. It's just that everything needs to be exactly how they want it to be. They can't deal with even the slightest inconveniences, while we have to move mountains and achieve spectacular and apparently impossible results just so we can then be mocked and ridiculed or have it all sabotaged and torn down. Like a child, they felt like we had a better toy than they did, so they had to snatch it out of our hands or destroy it because they're irrational and infantile.

If they could be pushed around in a pram with a pacifier in their mouths while we just do everything for them, they would probably just do that. They don't want to work for anything; they want everything to be handed to them on a plate while we end up running ourselves into the ground in an effort to please them. If we expect even a tiny morsel of gratitude or reciprocation, then we're labelled as greedy or selfish, even if we're just doing something for ourselves. Narcissists are just so weak and inadequate that they need people to act as their life support to prop them up in case they collapse and fall apart.

This is why relationships with narcissists don't tend to last very long. Most people will end up burnt out, experiencing a total loss of energy and interest and an inability to function effectively as a result of excessive demands upon their resources and chronic stress. They may become extremely sick and tired and experience a state of physical or mental collapse. As I've said before, the reality is that narcissists are not even meant to be alive. They only made it this far because of their supplies, enablers, and flying monkeys. If you took all of these people away, they wouldn't have lasted very long. They would have died out a long time ago because they really are that pathetic, a joke, an embarrassment to the human race. They are a liability to this world and to future generations, and they're the sole reason why we haven't progressed as far as we should have at this point in time.

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