7 Things That SHOCK The Narcissist TO THEIR CORE

The narcissist wants you to believe that you cannot affect them, as though no matter what you do, they will show no effects or changes. They act as if they are untouchable and cannot be punished or criticized in any way. However, the reason they act this way is actually because the opposite is true, and they don't want you to know about it. It's a front, an act of opposition, hostility, and defiance, but it is also a deceptive outward appearance. They use this as a means to protect themselves because they are paranoid and fear that a more vulnerable side of them may be at risk of danger or harm. There are actually unexpected things that can surprise and upset them.

1. When You Remain Indifferent

When you have no particular interest or sympathy towards them, when you act unconcerned, when you're not thinking about them, chasing after them, or worried about what they're doing, this really shocks them. Everything they do is to elicit a reaction. They view people as objects and assume that everyone wants them. When you remain indifferent, it challenges their delusion and makes them question their worth. Their false character isn't based on reality; it's something they've created in their minds, dependent on other people's validation. Without that, it ceases to exist, resurfacing their insecurities. They may get mad and try to provoke you, desperately seeking a response to validate the illusion and suppress their insecurities. When you remain indifferent, it invalidates their false self.

2. When You Catch Them Off Guard

When you surprise them by doing something they don't expect, it really catches them off guard. They like predictability and knowing in advance what will happen, as it makes it easier for them to control you. They plan and coordinate things in advance to produce a particular effect. When you do something unexpected, it puts them at risk of being exposed, which hinders, delays, and weakens them. Without predictability, they have no control.

3. When You Reject Them

Narcissists hate being rejected. They want to be the ones who dispose of you like an object. They can't stand the thought of you overlooking their existence. When you reject them, it leaves them questioning their worth and importance. They want to believe they are all-powerful and exempt from obligation or the effect of something. Rejecting them initiates a series of events, not because they want to change or get you back, but because you've caused a narcissistic injury. They try to use you as a Band-Aid for their wounds, showing themselves they are not as worthless and insignificant as they felt by your rejection.

4. When You Confront Them

Narcissists go to extreme lengths to convince people of everything they are not and of all the things they will never be. It is very shocking for them when you confront them, especially when you draw critical attention to their unacceptable behaviours and actions. They can't understand how you can see beneath their mask, this false persona that everyone else falls for. When you have the ability to see right through them, it makes you a target, and they may start a campaign against you, enforcing their flying monkeys.

5. When You Cut Off Your Supply

Narcissists need supply; they cannot survive without it. They don't care if it's positive or negative, as long as they get some form of annulment or recognition. They need your emotional reaction to feel in control. They are like parasites or emotional vampires, clinging to people of wealth, power, or influence. When you cut off your supply and act dull and uninteresting, they experience narcissistic collapse, feeling extremely anxious, depressed, and ashamed. Some may ramp up the abuse, while others may leave you alone and try to find another source of supply.

6. When You Move On Without Them

Narcissists want you to be dependent on them at all times. They want you to remain under their control forever. When you move on and heal, it weakens and harms them. They see it as though you've got the better of them, making them feel very insecure. It makes them question themselves because they thought they had unlimited power. When you move on and start doing better without them, expect a Hoover or some form of attack.

7. When You Forget About Them

When you live your life independently and no longer need their help, it will really shock them. Especially when they see that you're doing far better without them, they know they didn't succeed in destroying you. Instead, the experience made you stronger and wiser. They see you living your best life as the best version of yourself, which shocks the narcissist and is the ultimate revenge for everything they did to you. However, be cautious and self-protective, as it will make them feel very insecure.

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