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The Narcissistic Pervert


The narcissistic pervert engages in sexual behavior that is considered to be abnormal and unacceptable. Their sexual behavior deviates from what is normal or usual, typically in a way that is undesirable or worrying about their victims. It is undesirable or worrying about their victims, because it is not wanted due to the unpleasant or harmful effects. It may cause an unpleasant feeling of fear or unease. The narcissistic pervert will often engage in sexual acts in front of their victims or stalking and watching their victims. They find gratification in sexual behavior which may be considered to be sexually offensive to their victims. The narcissistic pervert is in denial, they are unable to realize how unpleasant or harmful their behavior is, as that would contradict their high opinions of themselves. It would be almost impossible to convince the narcissistic pervert that they have an issue. This is something they never reflect on. Instead, they will find faults with the person they are perversing with.



The narcissistic pervert has developed a defense mechanism or technique to avoid any internal conflicts regarding their inappropriate sexual behavior. Their defense is to externalize conflicts and put the responsibility on other people. The narcissistic pervert lives for short term desires and gratification. They consider people as pawns in their game that they can move around according to their desires. If a person is useful to them, they will attend to them and be friendly during that time to fulfill their needs. Once they no longer have a use for them, they will forget that they even existed. They have no empathy for their victims. But they do recognise how their inappropriate sexual behavior makes their victim feel. They recognise that their victim may experience fear, anxiety, sadness or anger. This can often be a part of what gratifies the narcissistic pervert. They enjoy dominating and controlling their victims, exploiting their emotional states and humiliating them. The narcissistic pervert is not interested in love or attachment. They are only interested in objectifying their victims and using them as a source of sexual gratification. The narcissistic pervert enjoys manipulating and confusing their victims. They don't self reflect or consider that their sexual behavior may be unwanted or inappropriate. In their minds, it is their victim's fault for not realizing what they are doing and since they cannot figure it out, they deserve it. That's how the narcissistic pervert thinks when they are engaged in their inappropriate sexual behavior. The narcissistic pervert has a feeling of emptiness inside. Although this is not something that they will ever admit to themselves. They try to manage this feeling of emptiness through using other people. Because of this, the narcissistic pervert often ends up hating or being envious of people who know how to live and enjoy in the present moment. People who are ungrudging and able to give love. The narcissistic pervert will frequently attempt to obtain these qualities from their victims, who will then lose these qualities in the process.



The narcissistic pervert will even exchange roles with their victims and then convince them that they are responsible for all the failures. The unwanted sexual behavior of the narcissistic pervert is inappropriate and immoral. It is unpleasant or harmful for the other person. The narcissistic pervert continues to engage in this behavior because they are self-absorbed and lack empathy.


Due to their sexual repression, they become hypersexual and only consider their own sexual desires or needs, typically at the expense of the other person. They do not understand how the other person feels, but they do recognise these emotions. They recognise that their victim feels fear, anxiety, sadness or anger and this is something that they will typically exploit. This is something that may even gratify the narcissist even further.

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Teresa Nolivo
Teresa Nolivo
Feb 19, 2022

My covert narcissist hid a porn addiction from me. He watched porn every single night for hours as I was in the next room working. He used his TV to hide the sound.

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kathyh60huffman
Dec 13, 2021

My ex narc husband used to make me sit on the bed or couch & force me to watch porn wt him for hours. It was disgusting bc it was wt women on their period or wt children or gay porn! I still have traumatizing night terror's from it. Im on a lot of meds from his abuse. I am on a medication that keeps me from remembering my night terror's. Perfectly explained NS! THANK YA SO MUCH FOR BEING THERE FOR US ALL...BLESSINGS...💖💃💃💃💩

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Hailey
Hailey
Dec 13, 2021

Yup, husband's ex narc wife coerced him into a swingers lifestyle but then kick him out so she could move in the other man and play house for a short time (along with her son and their daughter) to only kick that man out and force a reunion whenever he started to talk of divorce. That went round and round for their entire 12 year marriage and 20 relationship. He then said she was forcing him to watch BDSM porn and wanted him to start doing that to her. She already cried victim of domestic abuse way before that, and now she wants similar behavior in the bedroom/sex life? So she would get bruises and verify her imagined victimization? He…

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